Bisexuality: The Invisible Letter "B" | Misty Gedlinske | TEDxOshkosh

48 years underwater.

I began the painful process of surfacing a few months ago.

Until now my wife was the only one who knew.

Three days ago I had a hard conversation with my 22 year old daughter. Today my weight feels lighter.

I’m an infant learning how to speak about what I have felt for decades. Thank you so much for giving me these words and this language.

I'm men that attracted to very feminine womens (80%) and some young and 8-10/10 looking femboys (20%). That's it.

Who else comes out of the closet when they are drunk 🤔🤣♥️

I just saw this video today for the first time. I want to say thank you for that. I'm bi and yes I've been thinking for years that I would say it to people who ask only, thinking its private. But yes it was just more easy than saying the truth and have to justify myself. I never said men I dated I also liked girls because I was scared they would see it as an opportunity to do it with another girl. And Inever said to the women I dated I also liked men because I was scared they would think I'm just having fun and was not serious about my feeings for them.
This bideo made me feel understood so again, thank you.

Damn, her words, I almost cried, but I'm not even bi! (┬┬﹏┬┬)

Well done.. Bravo 👏

thank you for this <3

I can't believe it took me 19 years of my life to realize something so obvious

I Can say just, thank you :)

Why is it so complicated. We all just want our genitals too feel good. I happen to have a wife that helps me with that. It is said in some faiths that our souls change bodies like changing cloths. The whole conversation here seems so shallow. Pleasure and who delivers it and shares it should not cause an argument. In fact control of the desire is an art that should be studied and built upon. Pleasure should be and is designed to be compatible with love. The most important energy in the universe in my opinion. Advertising our study of desire in a social moral debate is just wrong. That is not how to love and it takes energy away from love. Running around saying it’s ok to be. Take your lover or lovers and get down to business. Skip the debate. Save that orgasm you built up to. There is energy in that desire that can be focused. And it is also the proper way to make babies by some accounts.

Окей. Мб гляну когда будет совсем нечего делать.

Don’t like her use of the word queer

Bi / queer single ppl are even more invisible . And some of do not have traditional , normal looks/ styles , so we never blend in

I am a bi-romantic ace enby. Am so tired of the stereotypes surrounding bi folx. No, I won't suddenly leave because I want a partner of a different gender. No, I won't engage in a three-way. No I am not les nor am I straight. I am bi.

Thank you so much,I am exactly in the same situation and this vidéo means so much to me ❤️❤️❤️

She has such a relaxing voice. She could narrate recipe instructions and I'd fall asleep

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Why not just STF up who you want to sleep with? I don’t look at it like it’s a bad thing to have some shame. Shame can be a good thing.

i hate when my male acquaintances say that i just didn't met the right man, so that's why i'm confused and just I came up with the thing in my head that I like girls too

Its all about education..

Serious side apart, I just love listening to her voice. I want her to read me bedtime stories.

I am seeing a straight swinger couple for 4 years. Recently he became orally bi, the best experience I ever had.

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Which century are you in???

Love being bi! Proud of it! ❤💙💜

I needed to hear this because I've been wondering about how to proceed along my path in the future after a long period of being single. Thank you for clarifying some options!
At least we have a pretty flag <ha ha, jk>. It really is a great symbol though.

This was wonderful. So honest and cogent.

I'm a 50 year old bi guy, married to bi girl for 24 years, with an open relationship the last few years. And EVERYONE important in my life knows, including my redneck friends.

I cried thru the first minutes of this video, knowing how hard life was for me for years, and how hard life is for others walking my same path.

The disdain and aggressive reactions toward bisexuality are bad enough, but the ignorance of bisexuality is even worse sometimes. This is most true, when it comes from the same community that gave us a letter and professes to support our inclusion.

I chose to "come out" because I believe it's harder to use something against me if I acknowledged it first. It has worked well for me, but certainly can't eliminate all hate or ignorance. But, it was my way of owning it, and accepting myself.

Can I simply blend in, with a wedding band on my finger, wife by my side, and two lovely kids? Yes, I can. And admittedly I have used that privilege at times when I felt it was needed or appropriate. But, my true self is saddened when I've had to employ that privilege.

I'm lucky to be able to be my real self around those that I care about and who care about me. That's something many don't have. But I hope for a day to come that you can be attracted to or love whoever you want without regard to societies perception.

To any of those out there reading this, just know there are others out there, tens of thousands of us in fact, that know what it can be like. You are so far from being alone even when it may feel that way sometimes. If you ever get down, and feel the need to talk to someone, please seek out a counselor or feel free to write directly to me. You matter, you exist, and you are beautiful just as you are.

And to the naysayers and internet bullies, just a hint: Love always wins.

I straight pass everyday in the us military. Sometimes I wish people would just know.

watching that as my 12 ys old daughter told me she’s Bi a few months ago. My heart skipped a beat when she told me that, but it was ok. I actually somehow knew that already by mere instinct. All i wish for her is to find love and support her

i think this video just switched me from the G to the B. men (including trans men!!) and non binary folk hmu.

"i picked a partner, not a side"
CHILLS.
never been more proud to be bi<3

Y'all?

True

Such a fantastic video.

I kinda feel bad she's on ted x instead of Ted...

Sick please list them on the DSM-IV AGAIN

Weird thing is that I feel like there is more stigma around bisexuality than pansexuality

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I'm pretty sure straight people have always known I'm not one of them.

I searched this video to learn and understand something that I don't understand, but I am now even more confused. It's correct that English is not my native language, but I understand it. But here I feel like completely lost. :/

this video means the world to me.

everyone in the comments is under 15

THANK YOU

Her voice is so calming and comforting

The sound quality of this video sucks. Speak up or enhance the volume pleeeease.....!

I'm sorry I don't understand the term "erasure" in this context

I have this problem but when it's combined with my other problems it gets a 1000 times worse

I came out as bi to my hetero wife before we were married, and later, when I went to college, I came out publicly as bi. What a surreal trip that was! In a hetero relationship, like Misty says, coming out is not something you do, but something that has to be done again and again and again until it gets really old! We divorced after 12 years, and I've been single now for 20 years. Much easier.