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Peeps interested in seeing how this mindset fits into a internal mindset of achievement in high performers may be interested in checking out Angela Duckworth's "Grit: the Power of Passion and Perseverance."
Ответить« I never lose: either I win or I learn” Nelson Mandela
ОтветитьTry working your tail off 4 years to have a perfect gpa and more honors than my entire class and being screwed out of Valedictorian because my band teacher forced me to take music lessons on the side that were NOT REQUIRED for graduation! I missed one practice time and was honest and he gave me a fucking B which DESTROYED MY ENTIRE 4 YEARS of HARD WORK! That was almost 30 years ago and I am still not over it!! He stole my 4.0 from me and guess what else my ex husband abandoned me with 2 babies to raise on my own after cheating and leaving with the SAME NAME as the bamd teacher!! I hate that name so much!!!
ОтветитьNone of this replicated, it's pseudoscience
ОтветитьWho the hell has a crisis getting a B? My god what is mental health coming to these days.
ОтветитьI guess Bobby McFerrin was right when he sang "Don`t worry, be happy". No research needed
ОтветитьB is still good though
ОтветитьI love Carol's Mindset book!
ОтветитьBjj has really helped me hammer home this concept simply because of how often I lose rolls at my gym. The days I am oriented to simply growing and getting better rather than judging my performance are almost always days where I feel less suffering. Great point. I heard this years ago from Carol Dweck but it’s taken years to instantiate it.
ОтветитьI have a growth mindset and sometimes it's difficult to communicate with others when it comes to work and productivity since most people are not the same. When others point out my mistakes and weaknesses, I see it as an important information for me to use. Others would interprete it as an attack of their character.
ОтветитьWhat about me that thinks “oh well” and forget about it?
ОтветитьWhy was a research required in first place to know this , its already known that your perspective towards things shapes your decision and life !
ОтветитьNon human artificial intelligent doctor
ОтветитьI was pretty happy about getting a B on a test 👍
ОтветитьI personally like dwecks theory and what it stands for, but it lacks credibility outside her scope of research
ОтветитьMe as a kid: I got a b, I struggled but i didn’t do too bad.
Parents: it’s not an A
A B on a test sounds good to me 😊
ОтветитьLet’s be honest here one test with a B won’t lower your gpa unless it drops your grade for that class. But one B shouldn’t do that unless some of your other work (e.g., essays, discussions, etc.) for that class was not an A.
ОтветитьI’m about to break my straight As in uni and I’m trying not to panic about it. Thanks for this Dr. K.
ОтветитьThe 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it philosophy.
ОтветитьHowever, this does not work for things that we have no control over and that there is no functional element to affect change.
ОтветитьI LOVE Carol Dweck's work. Have you looed into Barbara Fredickson's broadening and build theory and her work on upward spirals?
ОтветитьThis example tells us something about this guy. That the concept that I got a B, "wow that is great, my parents will be so proud" never even entered his mind. There are so many people that would be ecstatic with a B. You had to group and a culture of expectation of perfection and high achievement to make this particular point of view on getting a B be your knee-jerk reaction.
ОтветитьBut what created the response system? Little more digging
ОтветитьMindset is a fabulous book. Growth or fixed mindset determines everything!
ОтветитьOne thing to keep in the back drawer is age, I used to be a fairly determined, always growing, improving, and expanding mindset, but after my last life altering situation and being over 50, I really have no desire to keep that mindset. I had picked up the prices of my life so many times, thinking I was improving, but now I'm homeless and broke at this age. I don't think I can pull myself out anymore.
ОтветитьIsnt that a basic foundation of stoicism? It’s not the event itself but how you think about it that causes harm?
ОтветитьWhat's new about this?
ОтветитьExactly 😊😉
Ответить7 Habits speaks to this fact, not new😮
Ответитьgreat advice
ОтветитьThis is how you play League of legends properly
ОтветитьTHANK YOU MR ❤ 😊 💓 ☺ 💗 🙏 ❤
ОтветитьMy step-dad always bragged that he got all A's from kindergarten through high school, so I really wanted to do that too. In 3rd grade, however, my teacher gave me a B and I begged her to be able to make up work so I could get an A, but she refused. My life went down hill from there. That fixed mindset was a poison to my mind and it's true what they say "how you do one thing is how you do everything".
Side note: this is why being a good parent is so incredibly important! Kids don't know better...we have to be better ourselves and raise the bar for them. This is imperative to the future of our society!
I got a B - that's above an F ! I win! 🎉
ОтветитьThanks you 😊
ОтветитьWhat if I had a min max mindset and the grade on the test was completely irrelevant because World of Warcraft was waiting for me back at home 🤓
ОтветитьBut what if someone has deep rooted trauma and their brain has been affected? Like a chemical imbalance or something? Wouldn't it be hard for someone like that to have a positive response, even if they desire it?
ОтветитьI gotta admit my first thought was ok I got a B. It neither detered me nor motivated me. My grades were more for teachers. My ability to retain information vrs their ability to teach.
ОтветитьSecret option C you're such a bum you barely study and are so over the moon that you got a B without even trying hard. Feels like a WIN
ОтветитьI literally dropped out of college because my 4.0 GPA was being jeopardized by an economics class I was getting a B in 🙄
ОтветитьI suspect this is linked to one's fight or flight mechanism. Our brain's are wired differently. There's brain scan research where a person's political affiliation can be determined with 80% accuracy based on that response. Those who respond with fear tend to be republican, while those fight responses tend to be democrat. Not sure which came first, the chicken or the egg. Politicians are pretty good at manipulating those responses.
Ответить"Research... figured out..." 🤦🏼♀️ That's called common sense every decent school teacher and parent in history has tried to hammer into the heads of kids since forever.
ОтветитьFinally i found spelling of etc at the end😊
ОтветитьI am Familiar with Dr. Dweck's work, it sometimes shocks me that we need to perform research to figure this out.
ОтветитьAs a girl.... I think i also need to hear this. Well, never dated cause the guys who approached me, were shallow. Some use me as a distraction from ex, some recalled my existence cause they didn't get who they wanted, some make me feel uncomfortable with behavior and some don't want commitment. I might just want to die single than being someone's second option or distraction or plaything.
ОтветитьNice name Carol dwack
ОтветитьOh my God, 163 years since psychology became a science and the best we have is styr-fried and rebranded stoicism 🙄
ОтветитьHell yeah I got a B I'm so close to an A so there's not much I have to change to get there.
ОтветитьYeah, the thing is I DON'T CARE ABOUT WHAT I FEEL!! That's a messy place, I don't go there. I just want to get what I want to get but even after trying to do everything absolutely right, I mess it up.
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