10 Facts About Child on Child Sexual Abuse | Mental Health 101 | Kati Morton

Thank you, Kati. This helped me to accept what happened to me was abuse. For years, I always downplayed it like how you explained, “it wasn’t that bad” because it wasn’t that often and wasn’t prolonged and just happened a few times. But then, I would think “I think it was abuse” because I couldn’t stand to remember because of the icky feeling I’d remember having and that I still get when I remember it. Thank you for helping me finally accept it as abuse. I’ll no longer doubt and wonder “should I just forget it.” Now I know I should talk to someone about it. Thank you 🙏🏽

II think when kids are annoying through adolescence. They should be encouraged not to have sexual relationships.
There's nothing good about taking sex and using it outside of marriage.
It's destructive and unhealthy.
I've never come across anything good in that.
I've seen young people destroy their lives they've seen college students have seen older adults
We take sex and misuse it in the wrong way it destroys.
It takes a long time for God to put your vessel back together

My second abuser was a girl who is two years older than me
Another one was three years older than me.
They were both somehow lesbians. I guess they had been brainwashed
I hate to say it like that, but it's true
Lesbians too.
It was like in the eighties and nineties
Blocked it all I hope a one with all the other crap.
Took a long time not to be screwed up by the up.
Course there was another list of amuserss
Oh thirteen of my abusers knew what they were doing.
It didn't matter if they were kids. They knew it was wrong. It was quite obvious.
I just encourage parents if they have kids. Make sure of it let me take showers in school for okay.
Don't let your kids go to other people's houses for sleep over nothing like that

As the baby of the FAMILY Abuse came from most family members.
My sibling & my dna-dad both enjoyed psychically then mentally abuse of me. Brother loves to use my hands to beat me up with his help & many times my cousins with my brother would wake me up to being beaten bc i talked in my sleep & would get in trouble for being awake cuz Auntie was sloshed drunk. Molested nightly for years wasnt even the worst of it. If you were FAMILY, uncles, aunts, i was fare game unheard & unseen was my normal. Suicidal as a teen and cured in only 3 visits to a counselor as per dna-dad enforced.

As a Childhood sexual abuse survivor I was blamed for it by relative parents looking in a dirty eyes and the abuse was by relative teenagers and I truly felt and feel guilty for it and that I expressed the abuse on other children and my siblings I wanted to kill myself I feel dirty .
I wish I was never born to such a Narcissistic abusive parents

When I was seven years old, my cousin convinced me to do it with him, it was forced but not completely, I didn't want to do it, but I also didn't want to disobey him because we were always very close and he knew that, he said he wouldn't be my friend anymore if I didn't, and I was a very manipulable child.

I don't know for sure if it was my fault or not, because it wasn't forced, but at the same time I was a child, it happened several times until my 9-10, and afterwards, I was always disgusted and guilty (besides an irrational fear of getting pregnant) I didn't tell him that so he probably thought it was consensual, I would say it was a dubious consensus. For a long time I told myself that it was no big deal, until I realized that it affects me in mosts aspects of my life, I never told anyone in my family or friends about it and I prefer it that way, people would certainly be horrified, I don't blame my cousin because I never expressed that I didn't like it, I'm more angry with myself.

I wrote using a translator.

Unfortunately in some states in America, children from 14 can be tried as adults

The boy who diddled me was looking around to make sure nobody was around to see. He was 8, I was 5, he knew what he was doing. (He called it “exercising.”)

If a a 13 year old and a15 year old... touched a 9 year old is still child on child sexual abuse?

Thank you now I understand everything it didn’t happen to me and I sure in the heck didn’t do it but this just opened my eyes so thank you so much I don’t want to go into detail because I really can’t but now I know thank you so much for opening my eyes

In kindergarten, one of my classmates would force me to kiss her everyday and would try putting her tongue in my mouth, she would also cling onto me all the time. I tried telling the teachers but they thought it was cute and they would get mad at me for trying to push her off of me. And another time, I was at church waiting for the bathroom, and a boy grabbed my arms and started rubbing himself on my body. He started saying a lot of things I didn’t understand but I knew it was wrong so I began crying, he then let me go and I ran somewhere to be alone.

This topic definitely needs to come up whenever I get a therapist

I was sexual assaulted in a tree house by my best friend... Child on child sexual assault isn't taken seriously my is especially not because we were both 11 and female I can't go to the places i know she goes to in fear that she will hurt me again....

I feel so ashamed I stuff with my sister and I had a weird feeling that made me wanna do it and I was curious

its annoying because i dont remember anything at all, he was older i know that, i know we played these "games" but i dont know the extent of them,

i wish i could remember so i can feel the appropriate amount of shame

I rescued my daughters from their monster of a father when they were 2 and 4 years old. I never knew how extensive their abuse was until they shared a couple of experiences with me spontaneously a couple weeks after we left him. Then over the years I would catch them in behaviors that disturbed me and also where they were acting things out on each other which grieved me to no end. I used to scour the internet looking for what to do because counselors wouldn't get straight to the point with them, which never brought about change. They are both in general counseling but I'd really like for them to get a good understanding that they should not carry any bad feelings or immature behaviors into their lives. I want them to have the hope that they can be released and have a good life, which I've been teaching them forever. Thank you for the video and all the honest comments. Peace and love.

It took me a few scrolls to even find this shit. 😢❤

Molestation is Sexually Assault
I wished I told the SSA but I was ashamed. Now, nearly forty years ago, the memory came back to me. I'm new to the trauma. It's so hard to find a therapist. I did apply for a therapy within my county. I hope they can help. 😢

Thank you, thank you, thank you !

Thanks for this. I have someone very close to me that discovered had this happen to her. She seems to have dealt with it better than I am

I realize that this catapulted my distrust people and myself and tendency to fantasize about life as well…

Ma’am I’m the 5th child outta two miscarriages and I’m only 22 and on top of that I have autism like my experience with this is my brother sexually abused me 4 times in my life my brother is only 4 years old than me on top of that I was scared to say something about it to my special education teacher when I was in middle school because I was scared I was gonna die because my brother had a gun at home plus he pointed it at me and my mom failed to get me on meds by the time I got on meds I was in 10 grade plus I had a lot of bad behaviors in school from middle school till 10 grade and I got sexually molested by a basketball team twice but it was my fault but my brother raping me I feel like I could of said something but I was scared to do it because my mom favoritisms my siblings and there dads over me and my dad so for the sexually abused men out there your not the only one stay Strong and live to fight another day

I was abused as a child, I mostly ignored it, after 15 years I remember with nightly nightmares

This is so important. I went through this and i wish i seen this before. Because i was abused by many kids many times.

I am unsure if this is abuse but I have experienced something that made a huge change. Also having my body talked about since I was young sucked

I came into terms i was 5 or 6 when this first started i remember in 2nd grade me and this guy would do something in the boys bathroom i don't know if he influenced or i did but he was the dominator so i believe i was abused first but it never stopped 3rd grade i did it again with another person it felt normal but wrong at the same time i knew i would get in trouble but never knew how bad until i got way older it continued highschool and stopped it was a total of 17 people including 7 cousin's, 4 family friends, 3 classmates, 3 friends. When i tell u this hit me last year October at the age of 22 im now 23 and feels so disgusted and guilty it eats me alive but then again I keep trying to tell myself i was so so young at a very early age and had to been influenced its so hard 😢😢 dealing i don't know what to do

Welfare told me I’m crying wolf (saying I was lying). This was decades ago, but it still stings nobody believed me and made it out like my abuser was angelic. I never got to say anything about the older same sex child who also made me do sexual acts. I didn’t know it was wrong. I never got to tell about yet another boy family member who made me do sexual acts. As the one boy said to me as he made me do things still “Nobody’s going to believe you” so pull down your pants.

What counts as abuse? I am not sure if I was abused.

Is it possible that as a 53 yr old, I am still depressed and malfunctioning due to this very thing happening as a 5 yr old?

Fantastic and a very rare type of video. The only thing I would say is about the therapy thing. I was luckily put into therapy very early from the discovery. And I will say this very simply you need to be ready for therapy. Because it is hard and makes you feel like your reliving the abuse a lot of the time. So I would say use therapy but therapy will be ongoing. It wasn’t until I was in my 20’s that I was really ready to deal with my emotions. And heal.

Wow the fact he knew about that stuff and I didn't speaks volumes

As someone that was abused and became abuser to my brother thank you for this video it is so hard i dont now why i started i know should of never happened now and i struggle with that guilt everytime my brother says why did i do it my brother and i are not close anymore and i understand the hatred he has towards me i should of never did it telling others that you did owning up that you were at fault for the action is a major part of the healing process. I have come to terms that my actions have consequences i probably will have a rocky relationship with my brother if i do ever again have brother bond with him its probably gone forever. I have come to terms told my close circle what happened to.myself and what i did why i continued it for years i do not know but i know now im.never going hurt some one like that anymore becausing seeing your brother with that hatred hurts he has drawn boundaries and im respecting them. Im just glad now every one nows i did it its out there and thats important in healing for yourself as both the abuser and the abused

So I have a friend who is hyper sexual from abuse as a child (and a rape at 15). While I get that she's doing it as part of control, it leads to constant abuse and self destruction. Every single man who comes into her love abuses her and takes advantage of her condition, and disappear...which makes her feel even worse. It just leads to endless loops. She's a beautiful young lady who is slowly becoming less beautiful, desperate to get married and will never get there based on this behaviour. Solving it is the big thing, how the F does someone solve it. She refuses counselling. Trying to help her is like being dragged down into quicksand.

Just came across this and it helped thank you ! Just found out my daughter was SA but my younger brother who is 5 years older then her and I’m lost and don’t know what to do . I have found out a year after last in incident and he hasn’t been around since then but I’m lost !

What if someone was too young and didn't understand their actions when they interacted with another child, but as they grew up, they came to regret what they had done? The child who was on the receiving end of these actions is now leading a healthy life and doesn't remember, while the person who committed those actions as a child is now an adult and regrets it, leading to depression as they reflect on their past ??

I am shocked watching this because I just remembered I’ve had sexual interactions with girls before, and I might have been abused and the abuser.
I think I had an earlier exposer to the internet and that led me to searching for explicit things, and even going on chats. I grew up repressing my hypersexuality, thinking it was only shameful. And now it makes sense that child on child abuse is something that harmed me, and I never thought about it like this. Thank you for the video.

What about for the child causing the abuse. As a child I was sexually abuse many times by multiple people. I started to be hypersexual. I then abused other people. I wish I could go back and stop myself. I hate myself for this. I feel worthless, like my life is not worthy. I don’t know what to do abt this. Could you please give me some more information on this?

This is a relatable video to me. Both me and my brother were abused child on child... I have also been abused by an adult. Thanks.

I was abused my dad; mostly verbal sexual abuse; I warned others; hopefully breaking the cycle!

Are you serious???

When I was around 11 I was experiencing a lot of mental turmoil and ainxiety around the idea of sex. To the extent of (I know this sounds stupid and i feel embarrased just typing this out) being unable to stop thinking about disembodied hands/phallicies assulting me and me not being able to do anything about it. I'd constantly cross my legs and be unable to feel remotely comfortable unless I had my blankets between my legs,and even then I'd feel very ainxious.
One day I couldn't take it anymore and I panickedly told my mom while we were driving somewhere that I couldnt stop feeling like I had been sexually assualted and I didn't know why and I've been showing symptoms of people who had been assulted. (I've always had a lot of trouble remembering my childhood and that was part of the reason that I was scared)
She was quiet for a moment, and then admitted that when I was 2-3 her boyfriend's daughter who was around 11 assaulted me.
She said that she left for a while and came back to the sound of me screaming. She said it sounded different,like I was in a lot of pain.
She said that I told her what she did to me, and when she confronted her boyfriend, he said that I was lying and that his daughter woold never do that. She broke up with him later and it was found that his daughter had been watching porn at her grandma's.
After learning this,I felt disgusting.
Having been raised very Catholic by my Grandma, virginity was considered this beautiful precious thing that somewhat defined your worth and the beauty of your soul.
And I also recalled that once my mom said that after you have sex, your soul changes.
So,I felt worthless.
And I didn't (and still don't) even feel like I was allowed to hate the girl because it wasn't like she was an evil adult, she was just some kid.
I just needed to get over it and stop acting like I was "special" or actually traumatized because others have actually been raped. People I know. My story seemed like a joke, an insult to even be compared to theirs.
It was just a chamber of hate and disgust and feeling like I didn't deserve to feel the way I did.
It is especially hard to process because my mom didn't want to talk about it, even a few years later when I wanted to talk with her about it.
It's a very uncommon thing to be talked about, and one of the most painful things is feeling like you don't deserve to hurt. To be angry.

It really fucking sucks and I ope more people can be educated about this.

This is just too triggering me rn. Thanks for the content...

Theres something I've been trying to remember all my life. My parent's used to take the side of bringing it up as a "funny story" at dinner parties, but it was embarrassing at the time. And WRT the incident, I dont remember anything before grabbing a kitchen knife (I must have been about 4) and chasing after my sibling, who locked themself in the bathroom. I was just crying and angrily stabbing at the door... those marks in the door remained there for years, mocking me. I'm fairly certain I didn't manage to hurt anyone, thankfully.

I really hope soon so much more of this abuse could be preventable entirely by getting both would be predators and survivors (who can unfortunately turn into abusers themselves) the help they need as young and as soon as possible. Prevent victim suicides. People need to be taught what is and isn’t consent and about how to identify if they’re being abused so they can report their abuser and prevent further abuse. Am I naive for this?

Sending a child to jail isn’t a solution. That’s only going to create more trauma and shame. I was abused as a child. I ran away from home which landed me in jail. 12 years old in an adult jail. From there as an adult I was attracted to abusive men. I ended up in addiction and ended up back in jails and prisons. CPS has too much control. Sexual abuse by children shouldn’t result in jails there has to be a better solution.

I don't think I was ever sexually abused. My childhood is mostly a blank though. I remember my parents fought a lot. My sister seems to remember more of my life than I do.

I wish more parents would speak on in home sexual abuse between siblings

What about when the child or children who did it are in the community and are not going to therapy like the victim is, and not being held accountable?