4 social anxiety skills you need to start using now

This came at a really helpful time, thank you!

Hey Doctor Ali I have a problem of social anxiety.....and whenever I am in stressful, nervous or awkward situations my eyes get red and i get to feel a burning sensation in my eyes and tears often come out of my eyes....and i can't eye contact because of the burning even though I m confident at times:-(

Dear Doc Ali , much gratitude to your generosity 👍❤️
I Noticed anxiety since pandemic, whenever I have dinner, I feel anxious and bloating discomfort, please help me out..

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Im usually forgetful i see a lot of tips but when i try and use them irl situations they just blur away

Thanks you for the subtitles 👏👏

Is there any tips about how to sign back up for your favorite sports?Reasoning is you are afraid of what people will think of you or how you will screw up this time 😊

There is one problem.
I am social anxiety but with my friends I'm really open. And that is the problem, I open to people really easily and they seem like they don't care and it just makes it even more worse.

Good tips I'll forget them tomorrow 😅

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I am watching this for Omegle 😂😂😂

So this means I have to tan to people 😮‍💨

i have social anxiety and i dont mind complimenting people, my only issue is how to give follow up reponse. 😂

Thanks doctor ❤

And the other part is you have actually be connected to yourself and genuinely have a good time while having a conversation. Without it people will not stick to you

so be a robot

These tips might be good for someone who may just be socially awkward, but for a person like my daighter who has severe anxiety....she wont even go anywhere to be around people, except work, because she has to go to make a living, but she is miserable all day, eats in her car alone to avoid having to be around people... she wont even stop and run into a bathroom if we are out and about, because she is afraid someone will see her and she may have to talk to them or answer a question she may not be able to answer.... she has a severy anxiety aroung the fear of the unknown... annything out of her normal daily routine.... how to you overcome that with just learning how to ask the right questions or say the right things in a social setting..... which sje could never get herself to even go to such an event????

But what if I don't care to have a conversation...

Nice advice, but I frequently get accused of being patronizing and/or phoney when I do that.

Also, if I go around all day making others feel good, I end up feeling spent. Especially when it is not reciprocated.

As a supervisor it sucks. Gave up on myself for not being strong

Rlly problem is I can’t handle social situations like being around ppl scares me to death

I have absolutely nothing to say.. I can see how awkward I make other people feel. I mirror my anxiety onto them. Ugh it's terrible!

i think i have made a mistake this summer😅
Sooo at the end of my school year i was able to make eye contact and speak louder during presentations but... uhh this summer i have only spoken and seen my bff and my family and now when i go out i can't even look or speak or anything without having a panic attack soo idk how rhis school year is gonna go..😅

In my case, the problem is that pretty much everything I have to say is about me, and when talking to others, I honestly don't think they wanna listen to stuff about me, so the best tip I have to fix this is to listen to what they say and have to say way more, and probably the best way to do this is to think of questions to ask to them and just ask them since it will keep a conversation going. The other problem is that, even though I'm aware of this, I always forget it when talking to others 🙃

When i see through the comments iam really there is more people like me i want someone who can talk to me about social anxiety it would be better if they have social anxiety

If this works on my parents then it definitely works.

It seems you guys don't know what severe social anxiety is..😢

Social interaction is tougher than rocket science!!

The problem is tho I am very very VERY insecure about my voice 😞

But this would be like memorizing question from school and then repeat them when I meet someone... I just right now forgot the questions... that would make me even more anxious and feel bad and would zoom out while the other person is talking because I would be thinking "what was it that I have to ask?" and what about when they reply? I mean it is going to be a longer answer from the other person but then what?...

All I need help with is all my friends say there introverts but I never ever get to speak 😭😭😭 And I also always feel left out and wish that I could get all my feelings out !!! 😭😭

A lot of it is HOW you say it though. If you’re clearly nervous and not saying anything and then you randomly say “so…what do you do for fun?” And your voice is shaky or it comes off like you’re afraid to speak, it’s gonna make them feel really uncomfortable and now you’re just making your situation worse.

See, in my case, I have the self awareness to know that when I attempt to speak when I’m nervous, it just makes my situation worse because my voice projects fear, anxiousness and low value. This is why I’m mostly quiet in groups, I know that if I speak up I’m gonna isolate myself even more. One on one I’m completely fine, it’s just groups I can’t do, because if you mess up, now everybody knows, and everybody knows that everybody knows that you have low value. So you’ve just tossed yourself down to the bottom of the totem pole.

Ugh mastered these. But I'm tired of always doing for others. No one interested in me I never get to speak about anything.

But the thing is the colleagues in my office interest don't match my interest so it is very difficult to start convo

Hey everyone. Let's create a chat room for those with social anxiety😊

This really helped thanks!

I can talk all day to 1 person, I have a client based business, and talking is easy for me. but group settings..., please dont ask me a question!🤐😳 😂

but what if i could care less what they have to say?

I try talking to people. It takes a few minutes, but they will eventually back away and avoid me. So I know there is something wrong with me.

I study medicine and in my tution class there are literally 300 people....I don't even feel a bit awkward there ...but in a family function with relatives I feel like I'll die ...

Dr Ali. I'm not sure if this common, but have you had clients who have trouble balancing the converstation equilibrium? These suggestions are good, but it always makes the other person go on and on only about themselves. It never becomes a two way street.
In a relationship, it gets exhausting when the other party tunes out from what you have to say and get interested only when it's about them. Do you have an idea on how to balance the conversational equation? Thank you.

These are all good, but I don’t know how I’d do any of them when I can’t even say hi or get out any words

What if you don't care about what they have to say? 😬

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I wouldnt call this "getting out of your head". Im very good at doing all those things but I am still in my head because these are all things to continuously balance and more.