How to Deal With Intense Emotions: A Therapist's Approach to Grief and Sadness

Im so sorry. I lost my bf rathersuddenly 6 mo ago. I understand.😭

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Lost my mum last month I’m 20 this helps a lot I’ve never experienced anything like what I’m feeling and I don’t know these videos just help

It’s extremely hard for me to cry. I don’t know why. I guess I’ve become numb to intense tragedies over my lifetime. Instead I react in disbelief or really aggressive amounts of anger. Like paranoia. I don’t mind sharing my displeasure to those willing to listen to it-but don’t be surprised if I cut upon your feelings. I’m extremely blunt and matter of fact when I speak. I don’t sugarcoat anything-to me that defeats the purpose of building yourself up from a tragedy.

Thank you ❤ I dont feel so insane as what you said your doing in the video as ive been doing this for 4 years and always thought i was nuts 😅

Good for you crying I am 3 years in grief just a mere cry sometimes, yesterday my birthday ot even a small tear it was so gloomy...my life has become gloomy

I love your faith 💗💗💗

This is helpful.

Bless your heart. I’m just seeing this. I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️🙏🏻✝️

I have had 4 family members and 2 friends pass away this year, one of them being my father. Having a demanding work schedule, dealing with my fathers estate, and general home repairs and break downs have me emotionally drained. I feel fortunate that I still have hope, but am just exhausted and need to sit by a lake while time stands still for a while. Last week we were all sick and I had to take care of everyone and yesterday our well pump broke. I have now gained the talent to weep at the drop of a hat for very little reason. Yet, through it all, I feel fortunate since there are others who have it worse than me and I also feel guilty for saying anything because I don't want to be one to trauma dump on people or fish for sympathy. Thank you for demonstrating a good example even while ugly crying.

Thank you. Dealing with deep grief at the moment and it helps to know I’m not the only deep feeler ❤

I stopped believing it was ok. Hurting. You were my miracle

I needed this soooooo bad 😢

So very sorry about the loss of your friend. Losing people, I've found, is the most difficult of losses. Most all of my friends died in my 40s & 50s of breast cancer. My husband died of 5 cancers in 2020. It has left me weakened in a puddle of tears. I still cry a lot. Miss ALL my loved ones terribly. I'm 71 & pray I don't live a lot longer so that I can go join them.
Yes, emoting is a good, healthy thing.
Take care.

Thank you for teaching us by showing us. Thank you for being vulnerable. And may you and your family find healing from this grief. ❤

Thank you for your authenticity. For being so transparent, emotional and thoughtful to express your feelings with the rest of us. I need to hear this, to feel it, and learn that I'm not alone in my own grief. I suddenly lost my first born son, Christopher last week. He was 36 years old. and I'm now coming out of shock and in to the beginning stages of grief. I share everything you are feeling within my heart right now. I cannot stop crying. You are so courageous for doing this video. and although I am so devastated. I can feel your pain. Thank you so much for posting this. It is allowing me to fell it all without avoidance. Sending you condolences and blessings. My faith too, is important during these difficult moments.

Thank you for sharing. Truly. Wanderhussy recently showed on YT what she looks like in the AM before makeup. Courageous. We are all human and the level of “fake” out there is unreal. I’m sorry for your loss.

Thanks!

Thank you
Sending lots of love your way 😊

Thank you for being so beautifully real. What example and love you have given by sharing this. Thank you. Thank you.

Thanks so much. I guess the good side of really letting myself cry and feel my body immensely is that we won’t go into deep hole ( like I did for three summers) because of the many griefs we are experiencing every day. I had been with friends today and walked in their crying and they just love me so much. I did my art therapy on their dining table snd 🎉will go back next week for more love as it cheers their hearts when I visit them. Persian Family with grandma and 50 year old daughter who cares for her elderly mum full time at home. We talk about important things, my kind of people. They are Baha’i and they tell me their spiritual healing dreams and lots of wonderful tears pour from their faces too as grandma ( I call her) remembers being healed by God as her coffin waits for her body in the corner, she had TB … I am so blessed. And just want to ask you…. What if I am crying on so many occasions and days for weeks snd no let up. I feel tears are better than the screaming from frustration that I do, but I’m a natural therapy kind of 68 year old who’s been mentally unwell since 8 yrs of age.
I’ve processed most of my ordeals snd abuses snd just wear my heart on my sleeve. Embarrassing for others when I’m an MC at a major event snd cry my eyes out cause the music touched my soul.

Good to deal with not using Alcohol 🍺 or drugs 👌

Emotions..that's my forte. I had an emotiinal problem when i was younger.
Ive learned.. as you said also.. you have to
"FEEL IT to HEAL IT."
Emotions can teach us so much about ourselves.
My Dad passed Aug 21' then 2 friend's and my Mom Feb 22'..
I was paralyzed with grief...but when I finally allowed myself to feel the grief it poured out for a long time. Rivers could be filled. So know that your friend is okay.
He's with God and his family. Trust God.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I PRAY FOR PEACE IN YOUR HEART.
GOD BLESS..
Take care.
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Hi, Mike here, I just stumbled upon this video. So sorry for the loss of your dear Friend! Yes, grief is a tough thing.
I lost my son of 27 back in 09'. New Years Day actually. That's how his day started and ended. Beat up by an acquaintance and left on a 9 degree sidewalk to bleed out! An adopted daughter of 25, A genius of a girl with a very high IQ got mixed up in the college party life and was swept away by a guy or a human trafficking ring i believe was found stabbed 17 times (or so the story we were told) Life has been tough since those days to say the least!
And now, my wife and I had a big blow up over the weekend that might be the nd of our 48 years relationship. She has had mental issues for years even before the deaths, But I stuck with her through it all. Now I'm told to move out. I am being treated unfair! I'm the kind of guy that loves doing housework and cooking and doing all I can do to make live better for this woman. I do all that at the age of 69 still working 50+ hours a week seeing no chance for retirement in my future!
Yes, grief is tough to say the least!!

Sorry for your loss 🙏

You are so good!

All right listen up okay I want concerning about this stuff that no one who are you or who is whoever it is to sit there and tell you tell somebody how to grave the correct way to grave or anything else but you know another thing is really stupid is that I seem to have you know relatives that if you cry you're not allowed to cry in a funeral so what are you supposed to do you know jump up and down what what are you supposed to what are you supposed to do at a funeral you're supposed to sit here and joke around laugh giggle TV what the heck is this crap you know I don't I don't get it I don't get you people you know I have and then there are some people that like I have that is on another side of the family like when I was was married to you know my ex his side of the family if you did not cry then you didn't care so it's like you have to look around and say oh well where am I and also another thing is that you know some people are autistic and they just don't deal with thingsthey don't deal with things the way the neurotypicals do they don't know how to do it maybe they don't know and they're not equipped to do it or they they have the only way they know how they show or do they some of them go through like a nervous breakdown like I did when I had lost my grandmother and it just shattered my whole world I don't understand why some people do go buy all kinds of reasons ways to do stupid s*** like smoke cigarettes and do things to end their lives really fast because you know you because they don't want to be here for whatever reason that's just you know not what you're supposed to do you're supposed to take care of yourself and do the right of the proper maintaining yourself instead of doing the things that they're doing and like I said before and I'll say it again people don't don't or not all people can grieve like everybody else can there is autistic people that just don't handle things the way the way that neurotypicals can handle it who who are you to tell me how to handle things or when did deal with things or anything else who who are you to do I sit here and tell you how to deal with things do I sit here and tell you how to grieve or the correct way to deal with things do I know so why do you say I have the right to tell me that's not right people shouldn't be telling other people how to grieve where people shouldn't tell other people how to you know the correct way to deal with things like other people can you know it's not right and not it's not right to sit there and tell somebody oh well you can't you can't breathe at a funeral well what are you supposed to dowhat are you supposed to do at a stupid funeral what are you supposed to do dance party song I don't get it I don't get why people tell other people at a funeral that you're not allowed to cry what is this s***

thank you

Thank you!! I have lost 8 people in 13 months, it's heavy, it's hard, I'll get through it but it hurts so bad right now. 😢💔

I have cried so much this week, yet I’ve also felt myself holding so much in. So thank you for this.

And I think you’re a quite beautiful cryer.

I really liked this video…I’m sure it wasn’t easy to release. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and modeling your content. Sending you love, compassion and kindness.
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Thank you for sharing yourself so vulnerably. Dear heart, as a professional in the field of mental health it feels important that you publicly acknowledge showing emotions as normal and how to breath through them. My precious momma was made to feel shame because she was a crier and I'm certain it contributed to her high blood pressure and stunted voice. I only learned in my late 40's that it was ok to cry in front of people. Folks still told me "don't cry", I educated them and said I'm going to cry because it's what I need. Bless your heart.

Just found out a couple days ago my father passed away. Was pretty sudden and so unexpected.

But were all here for a similar reason... Thank you for this video. Thank you.

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Thank you for sharing this with us my friend 💓💓💓 much love and big hugs from Texas

Sure it's our emotions not our truth in this fucked place

Thank you, this helps❤

Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability and for thinking about sharing this moment of vulnerability with others. That was beautifully done and I'm so sorry for your loss! Although it was 3 years ago and I know you've processed it beautifully, I know it is still with you! Thank you Jesus for healing and for therapy in a nutshell with your grace!

I loss my mom two months ago. This is hard and very hard to believe. 🥺🥺

Thank you!❤

I have always felt emotions stronger and deeper than anyone else I've. Some people label it as being a super or even Heyoka Empath. Even though it's a natural part of the cycle I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you 😢. You are so brave and strong to have made and uploaded this video.

adly enough you are aloen with your suffering mostly... nobody to talk to you vs you

i feel so much suffering for multiple years now i don't know hwo to cope with but i try still. I just don't know how long i gonna keep doing it because it eats me alive :( . Extreme chronic pain they can't find solutions for, depressions, extreme fatigue i can barely stay awake or can easily sleep the whole week . all advice is welcome thanks and may god bless you all

You are tremendous, thank you so much for sharing this with us - I honestly really did need to hear this and to see you go through the grief and laugh and everything in between and looking so alive was truly inspiring to me! I'm struggling still with the childhood belief that my emotions (except for the happy ones that uplift others of course) are a burden. I cried with you and am very sorry for you loss. He sounded like a very special person. Sending you love and gratitude

I lost my wife to alzheimer in may, this is gonna be a very sad christmas.

I bought myself a grounding Matt because i realized i was full of inflammation. We appreciate your vulnerability. Thank you for acknowledging we all need to feel.

❤ you are amazing I’m one of your biggest fan!! I look up to you so much just hearing you is so soothing for me

Thank you first time I have found you on my phone you are brilliant so so good to see you being yourself it's such a beautiful thing to be able to feel all our emotions ❤ bless you j.