Off The Record: Why is it So Hard for Asian Men to Date White Women?

Being an Asian guy myself, I have to say that most American Asian guys are not even handsome by East Asian standard.

I'm Korean who was born and raised in moderately Muslim country in Central Asia. That multicultural experience and being a minority left me thinking, no girl gives a damn if you're Asian

My first Asian crush was Data in goonies. I was 13 when it was released .
What a dude he is still today 👍👍😎

My best mates growing up were asians, some of them liked white girls so they dated them.
I liked asian girls so i dated them.

Its Because everyone in this world thinks we have a small package that didn't fit their needs and that's why it's pretty hard to get with them But, as always they like to eat our eggrolls in their mouth.

For this its gonna take long rime...

Not hard. Asian guys are too picky, unlike white dudes. We seen the Asian women white guys go out with...not for dating quality.

my first "GF" was white. 2nd Grade. Her mom let me come over to play and we were playing her her room doing what kids do, then she showed me herself and covered back up right after. I just thought it was funny and thought she had cooties at the time. IT all amounted to what the guy was saying, kids dont see colors i saw her as a playdate and she saw me in a similar way with a slight hint of my playdate being a bit more mature than i was. I remember she was the type who claimed the whole playground was hers at school. Crazy i still remember this

If she doesn't have traditional values, she's a no!

when there's more diversity there's more people who fit the stereotypes

Asian guys won't be happy with that trade off. Asian women are what Asian men desire

I (white european female) had a 3 years lasting relationship with a japanese guy. To be honest, before I met him (dated only white men before), I wasn't ever thinking about going on a date with asian guys and swiped them left on dating apps. I think because of subconcious prejudices (I'm not proud of it, but want to be honest). And I do meet a lot of people from different cultures in my daily life because of my music profession (there are many musicians from all over the world in europe) and still didn't try for a long time. There is a lot of anti-asian racism in the classical music world. I met my former asian boyfriend through work. I simply gave it a try because he was nice and I found him attractive, he was well-educated and cared about his looks. Even though the relationship didn't work in the end, I see asian guys with completely other eyes now. I find them very attractive and would definitely date an asian guy again. It was a huge enrichment to have an interracial relationship. During our relationship we talked a lot about the stereotypes. He told me how insecure he was about his masculinity and was thinking that european women would find him weak, nerdy and too thin. I was his first white girfriend. It was very hard for him to date in europe and he spent many years alone (I think it was better while living in Japan). Very often people didn't recognize us being a couple, that was weird. One day we checked in a hotel during a holiday trip and the receptionist wanted to give me another room and couldn't believe I would share a room with him and asked several times if I that is what I want. This happened both in europe and in asia. And often servers in restaurants in europe would only talk to me (other way round in asia).

The two Asian nationalities who are most aggressive in dating white women are Filipinos and Koreans.

Among Gen X, white women don't like Asian guys. It's not like that today, but Asian males have the lowest sexual market place value among women. Not that postmodern women are attractive anyway. Tattoos, 350 lbs, short pink hair, feminist attitudes.

“ Look at that sun burn!! He is allergic to everything!!” This line really got me hahahahaaaa

it's hard for asian men to date white women because white women are sexually racist. I saved you 29 minutes.

Asian people are worried their parents to marry other race.

Asian are the most attractive race on Earth this time. My parents always tell me dating only Asian girls are the best. That’s why my country Malaysia 99.9 percent don’t date other race. I am Asian and other race are really interesting me

Hapa here! I prefer Latinas. Always have and always will.

asian john travolta lol

Hi everyone, I am not born in USA but currently in college in USA, I really wanna ask that what should I do if there isn't any girls I want in any of the groups no matter it is offline or online dating apps, nobody gives likes to me, it is really wierd, I dress the best I can and being confident, but nothing happened.

My question is...why is it only white or asian? Lol

Ive noticed asian girls only want white guys, and asian guys only want asian girls and white girls.

I can think of 15 friends and people in my realm of friends off the top of my head who are Asian guys that have married non-Asian women. I think people think this is a problem when it's actually not.

Ok there is less white woman dating Asian make compared to counter part. Is Asian man don’t want or white woman don’t want. Which is?

I ❤Asian men ! Nice looking people! But never dated one . lol

Breakthrough beginning at 22. Dressed tastefully. Spoke eloquently. Graduated school honorably. Hit the weights diligently. Never had to even try and women never cease to flirt and seek me out first. I don’t sound like I’m emulating any other race (cough Black Americans cough) and am my own Man doing and saying whatever tf I want or need to. Managed three companies - last position being #2 after the owner of the company. Boss of minimum 50 mostly white workers. Most of y’all are jokes wherever I go and wouldn’t want to be seen within 100 ft. of a weak stereotype making my former Army Captain father and me look bad.
+ They need to stop blaming media and finally blame themselves for once. I don’t watch movies or tv and don’t need to bc I’m out there living the adventure anthology IRL. Women AND men like me and I like them hahaha!

I like what this buff guy be saying!

Agree with your saying. The relationship of Asian Man with White Female, still seen as an not ordinary issue until now. Vice versa if the case is Asian women with White Male. We have to admit both side either Asian man and White Female have their own negative stereotypes for each other.
For Asian Man, most of the White Females were associated as arrogant, not family caring, dissident, like party and drink alcohol, unfaithful and very freedom culture...
While For White Female, most of the Asian Men were associated as nerd, not social-able, not open minded, stiff attitude, unromantic and lack of confidence....

And also the negative stereotypes given from the Hollywood movies about the Asian Man. But thanks to The Halliyu Waves (K-Pop, K-Drama, K-Movie), slowly but sure, Because it influences around the globe, People from European and American, especially their girls and women can see that what the real of Asian Men are, how they treat woman, are they really unromantic as described by most of Hollywood movie industry And many questions and doubts in white females mind....
Some of them find that Asian Men actually attractive after all.

And because more and more AMWF videos or Vlogs are popping up on YT or other online platforms, people can see the AMWF not as difficult as imagined and possible can be done.

What race we are, what skin color we are. We could have a good relationship and interracial relationship (male and female of course), if we want to know and learn other culture, language, behavior, blend in, give attention and some efforts for someone that we love and want to be our lifetime partner. I think in any races, it will be the same...love and make your partner happy.

Dating girl outside of your race makes you more diverse and a better person.

Dude let’s be real. Because we have small dang dang. Period.

I got bored of white girls when I was a teenager. Maybe Asian guys find them attractive because they are genetically and culturally different. Opposites often attract - which is why I prefer non-Caucasian women personally.

Because small penis. The end.

This is a really interesting podcast that is missing the perspective of white guys dating Asian girls. I'm married to an Asian girl that grew up with American and has more traditional values than I couldn't be happier. It's increasingly difficult to find girls in America with traditional family values regardless of race, but you have a better chance with a girl raised with Asian parents that are more on the strict side.

i was raised Fairchild air force base area . Being a pk and military brat then after that my mother worked for the government. Was raised to treat everyone equal. my parents would brig us literally.

I’m Asian, 5’2”, and am married to a very attractive white woman. I’m fortunate to be above average looks but I had to work like crazy at the gym, my career, and to be social and charismatic. It’s possible for any guy if they are successful enough to bag a girl.

I blame Hollywood, the only reason why white and black men can more easily date outside their race is because movies have portray these races as attractive, funny, masculine, sexy, mysterious ect. ect. ect. Asian men in movies are just simply asian besides in Harold and Kumar, but even then, they were portrayed as mostly losers/geeky/ nerdy.

Eurasian here. It’s our behavior that determines whether we are liked or not, and every races have their own typical behavior, it's not only cultural, but also written in our genes. Asian men have the least masculine traits, that's why they are less attractive to non-asian women's eyes. That's the contrary for asian women, they are attractive because of their feminine traits.

Aren’t most of the JK guys married to white women? 🥴🫠 Except for Nick and Anthony?

Everything boils down to environment, confidence, and social skills.

Date and marry who the hell you want. Other ethnic women are no better than Asian women. There are good and bad one just like the men. Matter of fact all women are the same when they are bent over.

why is it so hard for asian american to understand asian in america makes up such a small percentage in the world..just understand it..and think abou it..

Money, looks, status. Intimacy is transactional. That goes for everyone. Women pick the market.

I used to be a white nationalist..im almost 40 now. It was long ago lol but i slept with and dated women of all races regularly...it works just fine! And im familiar with Nick Fuentes. He isnt racist.

Asian girls hmu haha

All Asian American guys are racist incels

Both my coworker (current) are married, he Vietnamese and she white. Hes shorter than me and she taller than me. Odd cute couples.

The deeper question is why Asian men is not confident. The confidence is the key for getting a relationship in the Western world.
Definitely not because of they are minority, less people doesn't mean you are not attractive. UK man is less in US but way more welcome than Asian man.
And definitely not because Asian culture is very far/different with western culture, that white women feel foreign. Difference doesn't mean unattractive.
I can think of one reason is that Asian men is the least strong race comparing with other race, and strong(not necessary super strong) is the major trait when women looking for men.

The solution is for Asian men to take the leading roles on Netflix, HBO etc.
The white man puts himself on the big screen and says "Look at me! Im always on the big screen! I'm the hero!" And gives all the degrading roles to Asian males.

Because these Asian men like to pick on the young, slender and pretty white girls. Sure get rejected more often than not. The black men and white men are less picky.