Avoidant FEAR of emotional intimacy

I have question. Can people have affair or cheat on someone without never never having no sex?

The fact that someone puts someone else through what they fear is what really makes them crap

I appreciate the fact that Ryan posts videos every day, even on Sundays 🙏🏻

Oh, and let's not forget the monkey branching they've been doing while planning the discard. RUN.

Thanks. Well said.

Please, someone help me to see if I did right. After a difficult relationship with a narcissist I went through years of healing and never get involved with anyone, precisely cause I knew I was not in the best place to offer something else but pain to whomever might come to my life. Was an excrusating process and then I felt more secure and open little by little to a new relationship with someone that maybe to late were avoidant. Everything was somehow perfect I myself wasn't pushy to label the relationship so soon, I just asked for some clarity to know how I would manage my expectations and time and suddenly everything changed. As soon as I got the doubts and what seemed a soon coming discard, after everything I went through since I recognized the pattern, I told him I loved him but it was mandatory to stablish no contact. Was I too harsh? Was I over avoidant to the avoidant that was starting to confuse me? I know he didn't expect me to do so, in his words he was trying to get me understand that he would discard me and with his attitudes. I blocked every way for him reaching out and it was so painful but I just felt I couldn't go through all over again. Yes I was radical, and saddens me he had to experience being dumped this way but I could see that if he would have been the one to dump me we wouldn't care about me. I'm concerned about if I'm wrong for letting in those type of people, I was doing well and just thought it would be different. What hurt me must is that in his view I didn't even deserve the truth so I could make the right choice for me, he just withhold information for me stay in suspension to go with his hot cold behavior. I just wonder if I was rude for stablishing such a radical boundarie that seems I'm the avoidant, but I just didn't know what to do. 😢

Sorry for my Typos, 😕

My girlfriend dumped me i begged and pleaded for couple of days she blocked me and its been 2 weeks since no contact she still haven’t blocked me on my other Instagram account she follows me there and now the thing is she has gone for a vacation with her sister and her sister is sending me her snaps idk why but its really bothering me should i contact my ex and ask her i m trying to move on and your sister is sending me your snaps and it’s bothering me that might give her sense that i am moving on and she might get scared of loosing me and she might also feel the pain of loosing me little early thn usual coz rn she is still in relief stage after 2 weeks

This describes my boyfriend of the past almost two years to a T. He has a huge fear of emotional intimacy, and he has openly admitted this. He went through a very tumultuous divorce years ago and he's afraid of going through something like that again. I know that he loves and cares deeply about me, but he just completely shuts down when it comes to emotional intimacy. He does occasionally have fleeting moments where he expresses emotion, but those are few and far between. I've been trying so hard these past 22 months to break through his wall to no real avail. I've tried to make him realize that I love him and I am not going anywhere, but it's like this overwhelming fear totally consumes him. It's so frustrating. I just don't know what else to do.