6 Signs You Have A Love Addiction AKA Limerence

OK but the book that the psychologist who coined limerence also pointed out that the evolutionary goal of the phenomenon is to ultimately lead to a relationship, it's not a bad thing. So the first step is for Billy to imagine how nice it would be to be with Becca, but then he'll eventually act on it. Just because he has limerence, doesn't mean it's all doom and gloom, we all do it. Those of us who don't are less likely to get into stable relationships, or are dismissive avoidant. The internet has twisted it into a bad thing for some reason.

Even before clicking on the video I knew that I have it

Can you please make a video on avoidant attachment?

Gosh I’m not gay and am interested in the opposite sex lol

Classic Schmosby

Is it considered limerence if you show all the signs but the only difference being the other person does like you back?

Um, can my husband get better? Is he gking to keeo doing this? He wont talk ro me he "doesnt remember" HELP

this is so me but not much anymore since i try not to be obsessed but i cant help it

Thanks for your videos

I accept im lovesick or whatever it is limerance , i just need this feeling to get out of my mind. Im gonna read freidrich neitch's books maybe 😂

Oh I’m soo screwed

How about doing a video of what signs are for healthy love

I've been experiencing unrequited love since my first love, and i guess this is the last time, i don't want another fish in the sea, i don't want a soulmate from god, just let me be alone, i don't want to accept God's destiny with his own perfect soulmate for me

I never really thought it would lead to this, but this girl is sending me mixed signals, so she has me obsessively thinking about her, trying to make her happy and get her attention, over any guy she may be talking to.

So you get this moment of reciprocation, which leaves you on cloud nine, until you start feeling down again a day later, because you've still not made progress with towards dating/relationship and she is not your girl, because she keeps you around for the attention.

Unless, she also actually likes you so i can just tell her or get rejected, but seeing you pine over her, will make you look unattractive.

I don't want the feelings to end.

This limerence thing really sucks. It’s the worse feeling in the world.

Many thanks for the video, I would love if you had one about "How to get out of Love Addiction AKA Limerence" :)

Pets help me out og limerence a lot 🌹

Limerence? So…What is love ?

I developed an unhealthy crush on a friend during the pandemic. It developed into limerence fairly quickly.

I took it upon myself to dissect the feelings into 1) needs 2)drives and 3) wants.

Drives are instincts. Like sexual urges based on hormonal cycles. My hormones have always been stupid powerful, and my sexual drive strongest just after my period and into my furtile stage. So I kept a journal and kept myself busy or otherwise occupied 😎 at these times.

The needs vs wants I had to break down and work through. I spoke with friends, talked to my therapist, and worked on filling needs through other means. This helped relieve some of the mental and emotional pressures.

I started shadow work to discover "why's" and find healthier paths - like learning to love myself. So the occasional compliments had less power over me.

I found other outlets to provide less hyper focused forced socialization that the pandemic dropped on us.

I realized I was also "touch starved" so dove into my fluffy blankets. It wasn't perfect. But it helped.

I am a girl who is used to be hostile to boys because of my original family issue. I have being undergoing tough times till now. This year, first time I have strong feelings toward a boy. I imagine him to be someone who can understand me and comfort me warmly without any obvious intentions. Every time I truly approach him, I get deeply hurt, due to the difference between my imaginary version and the real version of him. But I still wants to get closer to him and desperately hope he can become toward the imaginary version.

It takes me a long time to even have interest in a person. I highly doubt this is me, I'm extremely choosey

Thank you. Confirms what I’ve been experiencing and why I no longer am interested in romantic relationships. I’m much better solo.

Is love just a romanticize psychological illness? Namely Limerence?

kdrama gave me limerence ...

I am currently struggling with this condition.

I went on one date with this guy a year ago. I’ve thought about him everyday for a year. It hurts me physically knowing that apart of me longs for him but I don’t want to anymore…Limerence makes me feel trapped.

Every one is talking about their limerence experience but could someone tell how can we heal this.......

Limerence is soooooo painful…healing is possible!!

This is the worst 😔

I keep telling myself I'm not crazy and other people are going through this too, but I feel insane and out of control. I was fine as a single mom for the last 7 years focusing just on him and no one else until about 4 months ago when I developed an "infatuation" on someone who I have to see on a daily basis, someone I have never even spoken to because I did not want to develop feelings for him. I've gone through limerence my entire life, including childhood, going back as far as elementary school crushes. It was always unrequited love for me. My fantasies can be so intense it's like an out-of-body experience, a dream, where it feels so real and then it's not and I fall down hard to the point of developing pretty severe bouts of depression where I cannot even get out of my bed. I forced myself to make eye contact with the guy recently, and though it was a big step for me (stepping out of avoidance mode), things got much worse. I felt that fluttery feeling all night long and didn't know what to do with all that passion inside of me. Since he's shy too I really doubt he'll ever approach me. They say no contact works best but dammit I'm not moving out of my house. There is a chance he might feel similar but part of me is scared of that too so I keep avoiding, avoiding, avoiding and fantasizing to the point where I have lost my appetite, have trouble sleeping, think of him first thing every morning, etc. I want to add that in my case most of the relationships that came to fruition after a long bout of limerence were PAINFUL ones. The endings were absolutely devastating, but the men were not good for me and not emotionally available either. This is why it's easier to avoid the person. The thought of being rejected again is something I cannot fathom. Dating random guys sounds like a nightmare too. I keep telling myself there is someone else for me out there... Ugh.

I could never have a real love in my life, for I was always living in the fantasy of love. Only lately I have understood this pattern and that it's called limerence. I hope all my soulmates can recover from this and stay grounded. BTW I'm an artist and writer, too so imagination drives me. It's difficult from separate reality from my imagination.

They really didn't lie when they said that you can learn something new every single day. I experienced this a lot of times in my life and just 2 weeks ago I discovered that it is called Limerence.

It's just sad to know that it took me 7 years to realize that what I felt for him was not love. I waited for the day he'd like me back but now, I guess that day won't come. I'm finally letting go and moving on. Salamat sa tanan my Exodus. Bye!

I have a few thoughts about this... 1. Think of all the great love songs (and breakup songs) we have are due to the feelings of love and longing! It would be a sad world without those songs and each of us knowing and connecting to the emotions in those songs! So many songs about love and loss! 2. And it's funny how songs or music can be the sound track to a relationship. I was reminded about that last night as I listened to David Gray's album White Ladder, after not listening to that album for years. It took me back to one of the most profound releationships of my life. I was immediately transported back to the intense feeling of love and the journey I had with that particular person. 3. Isnt it better to have loved and lost better than to never have loved at all? 4. Some of the most magical moments of my life have been when I've had a crush and then been told by my crush that they felt the same way... it is like mana from heaven! 5. I guess the fall from heaven is the knowledge that those feelings are just a chemical reaction born from ignorance and once you get to know a person and their faults those feelings will fade and can lead you to the depths of hell! ♥

God! I just can't! I knew this "crush" wasn't healthy.

Good thing i can see the flaws on my crush , just choose to like them cause of who they are, i think what i feel is not limerence

On point 4: "Barbie has a great day every day, Ken only has a great day when Barbie looks at him"

I fell into this trap with my ex and it landed me into legal trouble and I’ve recently started watching these videos, suggested to me by the algorithm, 3 years later… a bit too late but nonetheless an exceptional video.

So WHAT is the difference between a crush and limmerence? It lasts longer?

this video called me out in 31,000 languages, including the dead ancient ones nobody's ever heard before

I'm doomed

This has been a living hell, it ruined what friendship I had with someone and over the last 3 years and destroyed my mind. Got diagnosed with CPTSD and OCD with the intrusive thoughts and "fantasies" mostly non sexual but just a life with said person the ups and downs and all that too. It hurts so bad that i had to cut her out of my life and it got so much worse because i effectively ghosted her, eventually went back to apologise but the damage was done it was too late to even repair the friendship and the excessive shame and guilt of doing such a thing to someone who trusted you and all you feel like was a liar the entire time of trying to be a friend. It's horrible, both sides were hurt and losing a friendship in the process due to my problems and illness just makes things worse.

I need a video on how to treat limmerence

First step is to realise there is a problem

Honestly what these videos don't touch is that you need to have multiple of these "symptoms" in the right intensity. It's normal to long for reciprocation for example. Everyone dreams of it sometimes. Don't overanalyze yourselfs people. If you think you are having problems, go see a professional.

I like ur content but dang I can't hear you, your voice don't carry. Speak with more tone or something. Too soft spoken

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