Having A 3rd Baby: MY BIGGEST FEARS #thirdbaby

You talk waaay too fast, and all over the place 😬
I can't even finish watching.

Total random suggestion for the fall/winter activities!! Go to your local mall!! Even if the mall is practically dead, go! Warm space for the kids to run around is gold lol

Highly recommend a floor bed!! My oldest was also sleep trained but literally stopped sleeping when he turned 2. So now, he starts off in his room then comes in freely to his crib mattress on the floor thats on my side. My youngest, almost 2, was a major cosleeper but now mostly sleeps in his bed, sometimes coming into our bed. Im hoping to introduce him to a floor bed with his brother if we have a third, so they can cosleep and i can cosleep with the baby.

Erin Stanczyk (Eat Move Rest) just had her 3rd baby and they all co-sleep as a family of 5! Maybe ask her for some tips!

I'm due with baby #3 at the beginning of July ( I have a newly 3 year old and an 18 month old currently) and I feel you on being on the fence ok having a 4th. A part of me feels like I was meant to have 4 but I can't agree more with you on pregnancy with littles is so rough. I'm very sick 1st trimester every pregnancy. This one has been the roughest physically and emotionally.

I love that you’re making this video it’s like everytime I have the same worries you pop up with a video saying some of my inner thoughts out loud. Also pregnant with #3! Not planned none of them ever were but I’m like 1-2 was the worst for us so far. I’m holding onto hope that people I’ve talked to were right and that 2-3 feels no different in terms of chaos.😂

I've found that while yes, my tiny "big" kids need my attention, they also need attention from each other and from their dad. They don't have to have all their attention needs solely met by me. Does it still fall mostly to me? Of course. But their world is being expanded with each new little person/sibling that comes into their life. It's amazing to behold my almost 2 yr old little boy say "hi baby" so sweetly to his baby sister. This is such an intense time, but SO worth it!

ALSO, my Boba wrap/baby carriers have been my main-stay when transitioning from 2 to 3 (my 3rd is 2 months old). It's all about logistics. You will likely eventually find a rhythm of when you devote one-on-one time with your older kids. After the initial postpartum healing, I found that my older kids played much better together if A) I kept their toys rotates and B) I spent time reading some books with them. They really respond well to that focused time with them. Then they typically play well together while I sit and nurse the baby, do a few chores, etc. You'll find what works and it will be a beautiful life!

Get. The. Nanny. if you can make it happen.
Both my oldest were end of July babies, which was fine for illness. But they stayed home with me, so I had the flexibility to limit their exposure. My 3rd, who is 2 months old is a winter baby and has already had a cold, despite my best efforts. I can hardly imagine what her exposure would have been if my other 2 had been in daycare.

Age 1 to 2 is the hardest for me. Lol when they become mobile and start climbing tables and stuff lol

Not completely related to this video, but have you heard of Lunapaca cloth diaper covers? I recently did a deep dive on these alpaca wool diaper covers. I love that they're completely made of natural materials, no plastic or pul. It's similar to sheep's wool covers, except that you don't have to lanolize them, they're hypoallergenic, super soft, trim fitted, and they dry really quickly. Anyhow, it I ended up buying some for my second and thought I would share, since it seems like the type of cloth diapering product you might like. Thanks for all the info you post, it's so informative and helpful!

lol! The “no” phase in our house looks like this: “you need to go pee”
“NO. I WILL NEVER PEE” 😂

Hey Shayla! 😀 Will you get your third baby's placenta encapsulated? If so who do you go through? I'm 8 weeks pregnant and thinking about doing it myself!

Baby # 3 absolutely rocked us. My oldest was only 4yrs old. Having two toddlers and a newborn, then 3 toddlers is challenging. BUT….. that being said…. I’m expecting baby # 4 😅

Im 24 weeks and pregnant with my third lol 😂 googling is constant. I haven't been pregnant in 10 years do this is like starting over. I have two girls who are 13 and 10 ....and now starting with this one. We may have a 4th but that's only up to god lol 🤣 im only 32 so there's time. But im so nervous starting again 😅. I

2-3 was super hard. 1-2 was so easy so I said I’m going for 3. Now I’m expecting #13 at 36 years old and Dh said let’s just keep going cause children are amazing. I co-sleep we have two pack and plays on the side of our room. Our youngest are 1 and 2.
I don’t sleep 😅

Thank youuuuu for getting all of this out of your brain and into a video. I literally could’ve made this video. I have a 3 1/2 year old and 1 1/2 year old and in my first trimester with number 3 and feeling so physically terrible that everything seems impossible and like a never ending uphill battle. Good reminder to realize that in 4,5,6 months time things will look different than they do now. It’s nice to read comments saying 2 to 3 was the easiest transition😬

Yay we’re pregnant! Congrats!

My dad got a vasectomy after I was born (2nd kid) and my mom found out about it when the clinic called her and told her he was ready to be picked up from surgery. Lol Seth, please talk about it first!

I love they way you talk, and your perspective of live. Love listening to you channel aswell as your podcast. We are just planing Baby number 2. Wish you all the best❤

I love watching your videos ❤ you're so real and just feels like i get to chat with a close friend 😂 If i could talk back sometimes I want to remind you to take a breath and remember all the things you've worried about before and then got through 💪💪 you're a strong Mama and all these things you'll work out once the little one arrives, the same way you did when your second arrived

Im due in the middle of July! With baby #3❤

We have a 2.5 yr old, 1.5 yr old, and 2 month old and we are thriving! Easiest transition so far bc 0-1 you know nothing, 1-2 you still have to entertain your first, but 2-3, your kids play w each other and you just sit there and nurse and snuggle (and occasionally intervene to discipline haha).

I was totally relating to what you’re saying about the car situation though. I moved my two to the third row of suburban while I was pregnant and was climbing way back to buckle… at least it’s easier now that I’m not pregnant 😅

I have the same fears but with having a second one.

I'm six weeks along with our first child an honestly I feel the same 😅 we absolutely want to be parents but reality is starting to set in, I'm excited and scared at the same time.

How do you not worry about labor!? Maybe it’s because I’m attempting a VBAC (in roughly 2.5 weeks) but I am STRESSED about it. That’s what I dwell on probably a good hour or two a day. I have moments of panic where I think “omg there are only two ways to get this baby out of me”, I am scared, it’s out of my control, and that’s if it goes perfectly well! Transition and pushing are terrifying because I didn’t get to that part last time, but what if something goes sideways and there’s a complication! Idk how to be chill about it

Invest in some really good quality baby dolls for your 2 girls with clothes accessories and all the same stuff as the baby is going to have or need . That way you can be a mom to your newborn without feeling like your not being there enough for your older 2 . So here's the way this works all three will sync with one another .. one will shout mom I need you and second will start crying because baby is crying its a big stressful mess. Que girls I think your babies are crying like your sister / brother whatever come on they need feeding or changing or a nap whatever and they can mimic what your needing to do with their own baby and around the house jobs turn things into games I swear everything became a game for my other 2 who can put three things in the wash basket who can fluff the sofa cushions up 😂 honestly it works a treat. As far as sleep goes we all stayed in the same bed because we co sleep we always have there's no Need to worry because you can sleep top to tail easily so older two at one end and mummy and baby sleep at the other end of the bed . Please don't stress anything it all works out how its supposed to and if ever in doubt or having a rough day I used to just stop and think there's people that have like 10 kids one after the other with no age gaps and they cope ... so I can do this . Wishing you all the best and good luck with everything x

I want to pump only so others can feed my newborn on occasion, but I plan to just use my haaka. I have a pump if needed, but the haaka is just too easy 😅

I love your channel. I have a 20 month old and a 6 week old baby.
Can you please do a video interview with someone about maternal instinct and others holding your baby?
I feel crazy, but I dislike it when a lot of people I don't know so we'll hold my babies.

I have 3, ages 8, 6 and 2. Its always hard with a new baby but please know this, you know what you are doing. At this point your a pro even though it doesnt feel that way ❤

Okay this is what’s worked for my independent toddlers! I put outfits on hangers. Pants, top, socks, underwear. And the kids can pick out one hanger! So they are picking out my pre-mom approved outfits and still get the independence part! It’s made a huge difference!

I have a 5 year old, 3 year old, and 1 year old. The oldest has claimed the baby as his own 😂 going from 2 to 3 was a very easy transition for us, but i have had to learn to be okay with the baby crying for a few minutes sometimes before i pick him up in instances where I'm like, helping the toddler on the potty or something. Other than that we're so happy and having 3 has been a dream. Oh, and we did get the oldest in his own bed, but often he snags a pillow and joins us in the family bed wherever he can squeeze in 😂

Getting out of the house with kids IS an Olympic sport!

My beautiful boys were all born by Caesarian. They are 2+ years apart. My husband was a commercial pilot and away from home for long stretches of time. When my third fellow was born I read books to the older ones while nursing the new boy. Lots of books. They snuggled up to me. It worked. I knew where and what they were doing and the New Boy was happy having a snack and being squished in the middle of it all. FYI Richard Scary’s “ Cars and trucks and things that go” HUGE entertainment..1000x. Read! ❤️

I'm sitting here on my couch with my 23 month old and my 1 week old both sleeping on me. This past week has been the hardest of my life, but God is faithful. I was planning a homebirth and labor was progressing normally. My water broke and I felt the need to push. Instantly a ton of meconium starts coming out. My midwife tells me the baby is breech and we need to call the ambulance. 10 minutes waiting for the ambulance and another 30 to the hospital and fighting the urge to push the whole time. Got to the hospital and I was too dehydrated for them to get an IV in me. They were trying to get me prepared for an emergency c-section but God and my baby said "no!" Someone said "no time the baby is coming!" I pushed her out in 3 pushes. She is perfectly healthy even though she was breech and had a very short cord. I felt like I had been hit by a truck and am just now starting to feel less sore. We get home from the hospital the next day and my toddler gets a cold and gives it to me😭 We also cosleep so I have to put my toddler to bed then get up and pump to feed my newborn because she's having lach issues. I didn't know it would be this hard. God is good and it won't always be this hard. To all the other mama's out there going through a rough spot, you are doing great even though it doesn't feel like it. You are forever leaving a mark in history by having and raising your children ❤

When my first was 2, we moved him to his own bed but same room. I had my second few months after that and my husband, baby and me slept together, toddler in his bed in the same room. But about 3 months after that toddler got sick and really wanted to sleep together, so now he sleeps with my husband, I sleep with baby in another room. Sometimes he really wants me to sleep with him , so I come for a couple hours while my husband sleeps with the baby.

I just want to say: with my first EVERYONE said he should sleep in his own crib, I was so stressed , I was going crazy. Everything changed the moment we let it go and started cosleeping

May be get your kids big floor bed and move both of them there, lay with them and then go sleep with the baby. That’s what I plan for the third myself

I just want to say how amazing and optimistic and inspiring you are. It's really tough being a mom, but you always keep the joy perspective, and that is so inspiring.
I have a newborn myself along with a 2.5y old and find the change so overwhelming, especially the struggle of allocating attention to both, which daily breaks my heart :'), so this video yet again has been a big pick me up! Thank you Shayla! ❤

Very nice

I have 4 kids pregnant with my fifth. My advice: do not do any permanent birth control measures until your youngest is like 4+ years old. Life changes so much once your older kids are a little older. Your life will change a lot in the next 18 months. A five year old is so very different from a 4 year old. Look around online and make a list of things you want to teach your 4 year old to do before baby comes. She can probably learn to unload the dishwasher, start laundry, sort clean laundry into who it belongs to, wipe tables with a wet rag, sweep with an appropriate sized broom, make toast etc. And if you make it fun, she will absolutely love doing it. As they get to the age where they start saying no, I distinguish between things that are a choice, and things that are not a choice. If they say they don’t want to get in the car, I literally say, “This is not a choice.” I offer choices sometimes, so that they know the difference. They know sometimes they will get to choose, and sometimes whatever I say has to happen right now immediately with no questions or arguing.

Loved the video. All of my thoughts with number 2 coming in three months time. We want four but just the first 6 months of sleep are dreadful... 😂

I'm also due in July (middle of) and my first was born in November. She's 17 months old right now. We were very lucky that she has only caught 3 colds since being ill (one was Cvid from a flight home from a Holiday) I am also concerned for baby 2 🙈

The second wife scenario was written in the Siblings without rival book, I’m reading it now and it’s great. If you haven’t read it I highly recommend, I’m reading it now and I only have one 4 month old babe lol.

Happy you’re feeling better. 3rd baby, woohoo 🎉

I feel like your voice is the voice in my head 😂 We just transitioned to 2 and had the same concerns about sleep and bonding. I pump once a day so I can go out with my oldest (even something small like the grocery store) and I cherish our little dates so much.

Just gave birth to our second. Sleep has gone down drastically. I have always wanted 3 kids, but my husband (and MIL) are pushing for just staying at 2.

This hits home!!! 3 YO, 20 MO and due with my third early August - also living in MN so I did have a winter with a newborn with my last and it wasn’t actually horrible. I think the summer was harder with a crawling baby who wanted to keep up with her sister because she wanted to constantly be moving but couldn’t walk yet..

I feel all of this in my soul 😂 pregnant with my third in Minnesota, and have literally said all of these words and due in August! Laughing because it’s funny, crying because it’s kind of not 😂

My 6 week old just got bronchiolitis last week! And an ear infection 😭 my girls are 24 months apart too so thank you daycare. Ugh. It’s been rough.

Due with baby #5 in August. I finally feel like we’re going to be complete after this one.

The possum method 😂😂😂 STOP IT

You will probably always feel that you should be giving more time to your children. Yes, it is difficult to spread yourself amongst more children, but you are an amazing mom, and they will always feel loved by you. You can do this ❤