How To Accept Life Changes You Did Not Expect to Happen Over 60

Well, what changed for my life that I was not expecting nor happy about in fact, I’m quite devastated is the fact that once my husband and I decided to move from New York to Las Vegas to retire, we weren’t there a year, and he died suddenly of a brain bleed at the age of 57!💔 subsequently, I had to move back to New York which I was not happy about but I needed the support of my family and friends and be in a place where I could grieve where things were familiar to me. so I kind of had to go to homebase to evaluate what my life is going to be now without the love of my life. So here I am 61 years old and a widow. My husband died almost 3 years ago. I know we need to take the bitter with the sweet in life but I had my legs cut out from under me and this is definitely not how I planned the last part of my life and my Retirement alone! 😢

I was ok u til I retired in 2019 then 2020 pandemic came. Lost my youngest son to seizure. Stephen was 38. 2021 I moved to NC from NYC after my son suggested. I have 2 sons left both with kids. I struggling at 69 but refuse to give up. Life is constantly about change and I stay positive no matter what.

I don't think I really had a specific idea for my life after my 20s and 30s. I did figure out get married at some point but I didn't. I knew I didn't have children and I don't have them. I did honestly think I would get married someday but a series of relationships with unavailable man I decided that I wasn't particularly good at it. I wish I had A better idea what to expect or any knowledge about how to build a life for myself. My parents divor When I was young and I grew up in addiction so I am pretty sure that had an impact on all this.

Did not expect ageism and rejection in the job market.

Did not turn out at all as I thought. Mother just passed and I am left with all her debt. I was her caregiver for 3 years. I am taking care of her even more now that she has passed.
I could be homeless in about three months time. No, life did not turn out the way I planned and I am praying by this time next year life will be much much much better for me ❤

I have so enjoyed hearing your story. So interesting! Thank you so much for your courage to share.

It’s just right. Worked Got married. Then came Sherry and then Joseph. Rianna, Ryan. And then David. And now waiting. Love y’all.

I love it.....👍

I'm 62 and 8 years ago we decided to leave cold and snowy Maine to move South. Huge mistakes. The culture shock of living in the south has been terrible. We have no friends or family here even after all this time. Thank God I have a great husband. We spent too much with the move and now live in a very tiny house in a town that is miserable with no way out that I can see. Depression and anxiety has really become a huge problem for me. I miss having friends and being by the ocean and our beautiful home. Never thought this is where I would end up. Again, thankful every day for my husband but I never thought life would turn out like this. I see no good in the past 8 years, it was a waste of time at a time I don't have time to waste. Thanks for this video and this community.

Oh my life turned out much differently than I planned. Widowed, then divorced, then a mother to adult twins whose father turned against me. I've had many trials I didn't foresee. But I'm still standing and learning.

I can’t thank you enough for this video
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My life did not turn out anything like I had planned. I was sad for a while, but I picked up the pieces, headed out in a new direction and am living my best life Now. It is all about perspective and positive attitude. Hoping in the next few years I will be more nomadic. I am planning and working towards that but if things don't work out I will adjust my sails once again and head off on a new adventure. GOD is good.

Got married out of high school been married 45 years but have been miserable the entire time. So many things I wish I would have done differently.

As always you are a bright spot in the day ✨️ thank you

I feel like life took me on many unplanned paths. Some good; some bad! I'm always amazed how many people planned their lives and it all worked out for them perfectly! Or, they have "no regrets"! I have plenty! lol!
At this point in life, I think I'm going to just jump in the water and see where it takes me! I'm giving
up strict planning! Thank you, Margaret, for another great video!

Haha does anyone's life turn out how they thought it would? I love being on the roller coaster. You never know where something can lead

A movie called Sliding Doors suggests we end up where we are meant to be regardless of the choices we make. As someone who seldom planned anything in life the concept is provocative. The best things in my life were unasked for. Hmmm...

Thank you for being you! So realistic…you show such positive insight 🥰

I feel that where I am is where I was meant to be.

Thank you for your video. I enjoyed this very much.

I didn’t turn out exactly like I wanted to, but I did turn out the way GOD wanted me to and I am where HE wants me and I am BLESSED and HAPPY!
Sometimes we need to accept what GOD wants for us and not what WE want for ourselves

When you said that we must accept where we are in life I wanted to do that but couldn't figure out how. Then I realized that I am probably where I am supposed to be. This is where I was meant to be now. Looking at it that way I can accept it.

Yes, life is full of surprises! Great topic! My life has definitely been different and have had many challenges, but I have grown through them as a person. Have much joy, wisdom and knowledge I never expected. I am missing things from my life I have wanted, but have also gained unexpected things I never imagined I would have! It's been complicated and draining at times but you push through and see the blessings. Love your talks 💕😊

I love listening to you, I get a lift and feel it s ok. Thank you

That was my plan was to be a nurse.
I got into business and still worked in the hospital. I volunteer in the hospital now. Back off due to COVID. I am happy with and what I am doing, Enjoying life.

At the end it does not matter, the only thing that counts is LOVE. Blessing and happiness to all.

64 and starting a new career. Life is good.

That sun shining on you was just your halo❣️❣️❣️🙏🏻

I have experienced tremendous spiritual growth in this lifetime.

There were not many choices in careers back in the day. (Nurse, teacher or secretary). I married my HS Sweetheart & have enjoyed a good life. Our most unexpected trauma was the death of our son. When something bad happens we have 3 choices....Let it define us, let it destroy us, or let it strengthen us. We choose to strengthen our lives together.

I didn't get the life I ordered, but I did get the life I got and am thankful for it. Resisting your life isn't healthy in any form and it can blind you to the blessings that you have, preventing an attitude of gratitude that is healthy, healing and transforming.

I am so happy to have found you, gracious lady. I don't think anyone's life turns out as we expect it to.

I studied to become a musician. Rather than marrying a man I met in college, I married down & became a battered wife!

But life today is good with my 2nd husband. All is well.

“Life is what happens to you,
while you’re busy making other plans”
These words were written by John Lennon many years ago after the birth of his son Sean and are part of the lyrics
from the song ‘Beautiful Boy’. I find it ironic that he wrote it for his newborn at the start of his life, yet it applies to me, at the ‘other end’. ( to tell the truth I’m kinda impressed that I’ve remembered the words 40years after they were written, but can’t remember what I ate, or even IF I ate, for breakfast this morning ). 😳

The bangs in your profile picture look great Margaret. Younger.

My life is what I always hoped it would be. Marrying the right person has been much of the reason I’ve been able to grow and experience so many of my goals.

I joined the Air Force for a chance to travel. I was blessed with years in Hawaii and Germany. My husband left me and it nearly killed me. I raised two boys alone. I bought two homes . At the age of 45 I met the man of my dreams. Life can hurt you but you are strong. At times there are great rewards.

Happening now... I'm 72.... with a disability..... scary... daughter moving out of state and breaking away from me...!

My life didn’t turn out how I envisioned it at all. Married at 23. Three wonderful children and five grandchildren. Lived in four different states and made many friends. At 55 my husband divorced me. I was in shock awhile and very hurt.
I’m 70 now and have had a few dates. I haven’t remarried.
I’ve started to lose some friends because of sickness. Loss is inevitable but it seems like there are many at this age.
Loss of loved ones, loss of good health, loss of pets etc.
I have learned that attitude is everything, it’s a choice. I value every day I have. I try hard to be optimistic and joyful. Life is not to just endure; it’s to find joy in. When I serve others I feel joy and purpose. I have faith in God and know he lives. So grateful for Jesus who died for me. I count my blessings and there are many.‼️❤️

Literally nothing in my life has turned out as I expected. I wanted the simplest of things and just the opposite happened. Got married at 18 right out of HS. I appreciate your videos so much.

I have a story but it’s to long lol

My life has taken many unexpected twists and turns but for some reason at age 66 it all feels like it was meant to be.

“Life can only be understood backwards but it must be lived forwards.” - Kierkegaard (Danish philosopher, 1813-1855.)

I had no plan except to be happy and healthy. At 65, I have a fabulous partner, a lovely home and garden, my small pottery workshop business, financial security, good health, nice pets, no regrets at all. Australia is a great place to live - the climate, no Covid, free health care, beaches, bush, the list goes on and on. Cheers from me.

My grandmother told me "always look forward never look back"

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I wanted a daughter more than anything, she came along, but today she turned 41 years old and she is estranged from me, she said I may never see her again. This isn’t what I ever wanted

I am fortunate in many aspects of my life. I had a good career and enjoyed what I did but am happy to be retired. I always thought I would die before my child but unfortunately lost him to cancer when he was 41. Still, I had many years with him and we were best friends. I have a loving husband and a great extended family plus many friends. At 70+ I am blessed. I wish I could travel more but the Pandemic has made that impossible. Life is not what I planned but it is better than it could be. Plus we have 3 wonderful cats that keep us entertained and happy.

I enjoy your channel so much Margaret, thank you.

Hi Margaret what an intetesting topic. I was a secretary in the University of Belfast. I loved my job and it gave me a chance to meet interesting people. I went on holiday to Spain and I fell in love with a Spaniard. My life changed complely and I got married to him. Sadly my marriage didn't work out and I am now divoursed and still living in Alicante, Spain where I am happy and giving private English tuition to children. I have two adult children by my X husband.

I was hoping cancer would pass me by, but I am now in my 4th month of remission, and dealing with chemotherapy induced neuropathy. It might be permanent, but I am dealing with it, as it causes some balance problems.