How People Can TELL You Have LOW SELF-ESTEEM

This stuff always makes me laugh. Much of self esteem comes from one's perceived status in society. This idea one can have a concept of self outside the view of others is strange. Humans are social animals. I'm an old, ugly woman. That's not internalized- it's something society reminds me of over and over again. We all know there is a pecking order. But who cares? I simply understand how society views me and act rationally in light of that knowledge.

As I'm unattractive, I don't date. That's not awful, it makes rational sense. People focus too much on self esteem rather than learning to accept their own limits. Some things were not meant for me, that's fine. Know yourself and no one can use it to harm you.

I'm 57 and still have this I can't make it go away. I've done so much work on myself the last 15 years through 12 step work and therapy and it's still here.

I've noticed she talks ALLOT about the problem of living with trauma with no actual solution. But hey, you can purchase her course! Knowledge on trauma without the solution leads to living with a victim mentality! Not into this anymore- her or being a victim.

So I’m not the only one who gets stuck waiting for parents to realize I’m not the ONLY PROBLEM in the family?

Dealing with an aging parent that continues to shame me is making my life absolutely miserable right now. Also just coming out of (hopefully) a situation that involved online stalking and harassment for several years. I get kicked from every direction, and absolutely do not know what to do about it. I have good habits, am responsible, and productive., but my life sucks.

How to act normal with other people—-> a life lesson I seriously need!!!!! I love the original title

It is not necessary about low self esteem.I know some grumpy people with bad mood or dark cloud and i dont see any low self esteem on them.They are just energy vampires.

I got an apology for “anything I might have done or said in the past”. I’m pretty sure made them feel better but it did nothing for me. Probably made things worse.

One thing I try to remind a dear friend who has low self esteem and gets into the same self-doubting spiral repeatedly, "You cannot change the Done. But you can change how you move forward from Right Now."

This channel has taught me so much about DearFriend. And then I recognized that the ADHD I thought I had is much more likely to be C-PTSD. And then I remembered some of the early childhood trauma that conditioned me to anticipate hostility and respond in like-kind. And now I can work on healing myself. And if DearFriend can notice improvements that I'm making, he may become interested in healing himself too. I know I cannot change him, but he has shown himself to be teachable when he wants to learn.

The part about being late for work all the time -- that hit home with me. I get stuck in an elastic sense of time and hurry-paralysis stress response. And yes, I feel awful about walking into work late. Being scorned, or potentially fired, for being late only tells me they don't like it. It doesn't teach me how to overcome this tendency. "Healing the C-PTSD" will be a good start. ❤

Random note: Dogs do not feel guilt. The "guilty look" is in response to your anger, body language, words, etc. They may look confused because frankly, they might be. If the "scolding" comes hours after the incident, that guilty look is definitely not guilt as it no longer has context to then.

They may be concerned because their person is upset and it makes them uncomfortable; they don't want you upset and perhaps they may be fearful and scared by US.

Can we attend the connection bootcamp if we live in a different timezone? Thank you, Anna!

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If more men are emotionally unavailable. Then how can all women get good men. Number and ratio comparison

Anna, Your skills are down to earth and fabulous. Thank you for picking me up off the ground with your positive attitude and understanding. Today is a brand new day, moving forward. All the best!

Video on moving forward?? Please share.

Can't find your link to moving forward. Appreciate your time and energies!

I have to admit, I really love the Fairy!!

We are all already depressed so you all should stop writing more depressing things. I get it that you are hurt....i am too

Anna I healed so fast ..and all credit goes to you ❤ I cant express what you mean to us ...truly a fairy 🧚‍♀️ thnku God for saving me from this 🙏🏻

I had a good childhood with my parents,however I didn't belong in elementary, middle and high school I was some what bullied at times never fit in so I stayed to myself. Now I'm 44 year old living a lonle life, no friends, not close to colleages, or family, and when I get into a relationship with a guy all of my securities come alive because I feel Im boring that man because I have no social circle.

The biggest misunderstanding is that CPTSD stands for Childhood trauma. It stands for COMPLEX trauma. So not only caused by childhood. It is the cumulative experiences in life...chronic and/or repetitive trauma by for example work, relationships etc...

It confuse people that don't have heavy abuse in childhood how they came to having CPTSD.

Is it just me or does anyone else thinks she looks like older version of taylor swift❤️

I think this video would be Way more helpful if it didn't have the added layer of trauma causing others to feel bad around you. Its tough enough without adding that layer of shame of others view points..

As someone with this problem, it really hurts every day. But I belive the biggest thing to do for healing is to acknowledge that you have this issue

I wish I had this info 20 years ago. Could have helped me improve my life. I'm learning later I'm life finally.

“Remember, you have been criticising yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”

Much as I cherish and agree with this particular quote by the late Louise L. Hay, I do find it a daunting uphill struggle to follow her advice. Your video is indeed a significant & stark reminder of the loathsome influence of poor self-esteem. Thanks!

Wow...! Thank you Anna. This video has so much valuable information. It has really put words to those feelings - "the underdog effect." I'm in awe. Thank you so much.

This was a very helpful video. I know it's not my fault, but it is my problem and I am very thankful that you are helping me overcome bit by bit. Your channel is a godsend. Could you please tell me if you have a video for memory loss I feel my memory deteriorating so fast and I know it's somehow connected to CPTSD?

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I’m angry about how the bullies in my high school have left such a long lasting impact on me. My self esteem has been low since then. I still think about them from time to time. The way they bullied me is to criticise me everyday, to make fun of me and pretend like they are joking. Ever since then, I can’t take jokes anymore, every time my friend make criticism or judge me jokingly, I take them seriously and cry alone later, though they didn’t mean to hurt me at all.

Your message is for not only adults but also teens! I love this! Thank you

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I have low self esteem don't know how to get it back

Thank you for giving me hope that it can get better for me

Shana kutul internet chala gaya. Mummy ke phone se bhi internet chala gaya

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"God knows, I'm weird." Hehe thankyou Anna you made me chuckle after a sad day 😅💚

I needed this video thank you so much

I was treated as the quiet kid who never talked,
because I never talked unless I really had to in school.
People told me that I was a shy guy,
"why don't you ever talk?"
like how am I supposed to answer that?
I certainly wouldn't say that I'm just afraid to,
even though I knew that was why inside.

Well I guess if you never develop good esteem,
you are left with quite a bit less of it.

Well said! ❤

Am I a loser or a failure? I'm 27, still live at home, having never moved out (housing is difficult in my city and I'm only on two waiting lists). I have never had a girlfriend or a date, and I don't even have a driver's license. I have both a learning disability and ASD, and sometimes I say unfiltered things or act weird in social moments. I assume my ASD makes me "less normal." I don't have too many friends now that I've graduated from college and most of my friends have left town. I graduated high school at TWENTY, having been kept back in preschool (speech delay) and homeschooled. I even graduated at a small charter school instead of the superior public high school my younger sister is at. I'm jealous of her; she's stronger than I would've been...and about to be a senior when I was a sophomore her age. I seem slow and helpless and do better with a guide than by myself (my ex-boss basically said that to my face).A disabled man who doesn't match standards, yes, but a loser too?

Low self esteem is ok

I don’t care who thinks I’m depressed

oh very nice explaining ...scientific words .

This answered so many questions. You are truly doing the Lord's work. I got tired of people calling me weird and I never understood why! This is the clarity I have been looking for. I had no idea people could see the stain on my soul. Thank you for posting this and sharing this information. Identity shift in progress. Focus and Self mastery!!

Thank you Anna! 😊

The work you do is so important. Thank you!!!!

I bought your book and I’m looking forward to fixing this and negative thoughts

This is one of your best videos in my opinion. It explains so much about why I’ve lived the way I have. I feel my best when I’m my “weird” self but I’ve finally learned how to get along with normal people and life is so much easier. I still draw my strength from who I know I really am though.