Which Long-term Relationships Will Survive and Which Won't

Chemistry does not last, but COMPATIBILITY does. Finding a true match is very rare.

or because they don’t swallow their spit or clear their throats before speaking 😰🤢🤕

I hear this; but it’s not just this. A lot of people have no idea what a relationship entails. I am still learning. First is to have a profound relationship with your self. Then maybe a relationship with others…anyone for that matter, not just male-female. Most people get into relationships to fill a void, always looking external and therefore have agendas. This never works…period.

Relationships break down from a compromised support system. As in nature, structures do not stand the test of time without a strong foundation! The solution for this is BALANCE, SEAMLESS INTEGRATION, TRANSPARENCY and INTEGRITY!

It's very poetic, but the real world doesn't fit in this fantasy.

This video radically goes against my experience. I feel at all points the speaker is very black and white, this is or is not how relationships go, this is or is not what causes a breakup.

That alone made me fairly uncomfortable with the message, that's not how life works.

Thanks

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Thank you for this enlightening explanation

This video is so profound

I've said these things, but maybe it just didn't get across. Or maybe I could've done more. We aren't probably going to be together much longer. I love her very much, and she loves me, but for some reason it just isn't working, no matter how much we try.

True

I said I understand. I also was also willing to try to do things his way - twice. I guess I am one of the unlucky ones who will die alone because I only meet broken people who don't value what I offer and what I am willing to offer. I wish there was a away to reset my heart now.

Guys listen to this. I met man who met a woman on a dating app met for 2 weeks and he proposed hand in marriage. They've been together for seven years now. There are some people who are both easy to work with filter out the things in your life and stop focusing on the bad in them instead encourage the good with love. Realationships have a chance to last forever❤️🤣👍

Seems very co dependent people compromise enough to make it work any means necessary to keep the other person happy. Weak and afraid of being alone...

Reason: Haven’t been heard/seen. Antidote: I understand.

My problem is that I am no longer attracted to my partner. I don't feel happy and fulfilled. I find other girls more beautiful. Now, I don't know what to do. I feel like an idiot for even starting this relationship because I can't let her go for fear of hurting her, or whether I'm the real asshole for expecting my partner to fulfill my lust. I don't know what to even believe anymore.

So true

another big problem with communication is not that one partner isn't listening its that one partner does not know the right words to explain themselves. its hard to explain why someone is feeling so hurt when they don't understand themselves what caused it or why they're feeling that way.

But these familiar reasons were exactly why my ex and I divorced after 10 years. He needed someone younger, and I needed better sex. It was all very amicable. Life and love really aren't that difficult.
And IF we had ignored each other, we actually would have stayed married forever - not divorced.
I say this to show that this video does not apply to everyone in every situation.
Sometimes, the hearing and responding to each other's needs does end in separation - bc to truly love someone and want the best for them, you have to be willing to let them go in that same love.

listen to Osho as well. Maybe you'll find some value there. Contrary to what has been suggested here.

I don’t agree with this video at all. I think the reason good decent people have failed relationship is because one or both people are not happy with themselves. They think there partner will make them happy. Something no person can do. Happiness comes from within. When the partner fails to make them happy the other person blames them and the relationship breaks down. People who are complete and love themselves can loves others.

Prefer the dude commentary. Thanks.

I really wanted my relationship to survive. Our relationship was turning dull. We were avoiding each other. And communication was almost null. I thought of playing couple games to make things exciting. Tried a simple questions game Lovify. To my surprise, it turned out to be a miracle. I mean who thought a questions game can help you understand each other better. You had to guess each others expectations. And we got to know, we were so wrong about each other. Things started to align better with it. Hopefully we get married soon 💞

My tips after being together for 9 years about to be married:
1. Talk about the hard stuff (money, kids, responsibilities with the house etc.)
2. Be sure you're on the same page when it come to each others families (like respect and boundaries)
3. Play Question games like Lovify, to build understanding and keep things exciting.
4. Always date each other, go out together, plan new adventures
5. It's good to have a life outside of each other
6. Actions speak louder than words

I recently ended a relationship that seemed to initially have a lot of promise. You are right about the feeling unheard, unsupported in our individuality as a main reason to break up. I will go further and say that when one partner wants to dominate and control and does not include the other's ideas or opinions - yes, it is abusive, but it is still on that continuum of not being seen or heard.

It seems to strange to me that when people try and control their love interest that they end up killing any form of love. An irony, because by being vulnerable instead of defensive (and controlling) you can create a really beautiful relationship that will give you ultimately what we are probably all looking for. I choose the vulnerability route, and have moved on.

As a therapist, I strongly disagree with this. Having someone listen to you but not change can make a person feel like they are simply being placated, and then the cycle starts all over again until someone decides to leave.

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In all of my breakups in long relationship was feeling heard and with time was getting even worse , just Simple things were being ignored...

wildly incomplete. deeply flawed.

Yeah, broke up for my bff of all my life because he was not empathetic with me and made me feel very alone, when he was supposed to do the opposite.

Лучше не бывает. Не зря потратил время

Listening and understanding is so important. But it wasn’t enough to save my sexless relationship. We talked about it all the time and understood each other and loved each other. But understanding can’t replace chemistry.

I see this matters a lot to you. I get it. Because I love you this makes me curious.

Nononono, this is so fundamentally wrong, do not rely on it! If your partner expresses what they see as an issue in your relationship and you say you understand but you don't change your ways, you did not really understand. They'll try asking you again, maybe a few times. Ultimately, they will get frustrated because your "understanding" does not solve the problem

Garage video! If you say you "understand" but NO action backs it up, the other will feel unheard bc you don't really hear bc actions are also a language - this is just a how to gaslight with care video

There will come some times in the future ,very far in the future or maybe not so far in the future, where people of all races, ages and groups will simply be OK on their own, they won't be needy and selfish anymore, they will have probably and maybe even ideally relationships with people but not necessarily in an intimate way. Of all people that i have met so far in my life, those who are crazy, aggressive, hysterical, tired all the time, not content with what they have, always complaining and always wanting this or that come from couples and marriages.
no single human being have shown me the worst of the human nature but only those committed to another fellow.....

My first relationship was with my best friend. She's my first love, we met in grade 6, and it's been about 8 years.
It's always hard work to preserve such a long relationship, but it's so worth it for the right person.

This is absolutely true. My wife of 13 years is always willing to hear me out and we give each other grace when we go through difficult shit. We have weathered tough storms and proven that not only CAN we endure hardship, but we are better together and want to be together in spite of our foibles. When you find someone who "gets" you and is committed to you, only a fool would throw that away. I used to be a fool, but not anymore

Who do the voice over? It is like emma watson’s voice 😊

I think you need more than words to make things work, they need to be backed up by actions as well.

This is why I was confused about mine. I had a feeling that they were having difficulty communicating what they had a hard time saying to me what was the thing that I wasnt able to understand.

But in the end, my ex broke up with me telling me that they wanted to convey but couldnt tell me why. Then they let me go leaving me, trying to conciously try not to care about them anymore as I plan to never see them again.

They really cared about me, and I really cared about them. But lost trust with them because I thought they were being honest about how they felt. So Im accepting the breakup and not daiting them ever again.

This narrator for this channel sounds like Emma Watson

Yes a relationship is a slippery slope. My current one is my longest , we started as older adults and now is LDR. The best one yet!

When playfulness and all mystery with one's partner is gone a boring deteriorating relationship sets in even when there is still love between them.

I understand

This is perfect.

Many Couples are glued by money and because the sex is great, but true love is not there. July 29, 2023.

This totally reminds me of Pride and Prejudice 🥲 so much to learn from it

I love my boyfriend but I feel so lonely because we see each other maybe once a week and he doesn’t call me too much or text me and when it does it’s kinda far between but then when we saw each other sparks fly but he wanted me to stop dancing and I did for awhile but I went back because I missed it and that was my social life and now I feel like I don’t know what to do anymore i hate how I feel about myself