My Hoarder Mum & Me (Obsessive Hoarding Documentary) | Only Human

She puts everything in black bin bags and would refuse to go through anything, the bags are stacking right up to the ceiling. How is someone able to do that?

My mum wouldn't let anyone touch her stuff. The most frustrating thing is that she will refuse to go through anything herself. She keeps everything without even going through anything. It's the most frustrating thing to be living through like this for years and years. She ignores ever single advice or support from the family. She keeps bags of old secondhand trainers that she is refusing to bin. I don't understand how someone is so blind to the problem and can't see all the benefits from a clutter free home. I want friends and family to visit. I want to be happy and proud. We are not poor but we are living like we are.

demonised ppl - their god is possessions....trash really...cos everything is vanity...But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

take everyday sth from Her house and throw it away

In fairness to this womanshe has raised amazing children. I'm glad she got the help she needed 😊

Unfortunately Jasmine, your mother seems to me to be a narcissist; do some research on the topic and see what you think.
I have a number of narcissists in my family and your mother is similar to them.

you can get profenseial cleanrs who deal with this and thair are better doctores who help

felt this story so deeply, thank you!

I have separated from my mother due to hoarding, it is very painful for me it has spoiled our family

Clear the old bird out of the house for a weekend and send in folk to clear it.

eww the amerians advice... gross and typical

I had some strong hoarding tendencies, and of all things, magic mushrooms got me back on track. Suddenly I saw my home objectively, for what it was. I saw it the way others would see it and I couldn’t stand it.

Turned my life around.

This is way different than American hoarders. They are not aggressive enough in my opinion and they don’t bring in professionals. I think having professional help really helps hoarders.

I feel sorry for the mother because she's not getting the therapy she needs to help her through this. I doubt she will stop hoarding.

When all the stuff is gone then it’s revealed the damage to the house

Wonderful compassion and perseverance to find the root cause and help heal that through the clearing process as well. Please also try EFT - emotional freedom techniques. easy few acupressure stimulation calming down the stress center..

Is she Indian or Black??

I do understand! Really!

One thing I've noticed about hoarding stuff, and that applies to me too, is that the more you got, the less you have. I think that pretty much most people have a hoarding instinct, to varying degrees. But most of those people can see the problems mounting and have a periodic clean out - like I do. A few just don't.

I was thinking a Museum for mothrr; she and everyone can visit and she can be comfortable. They can pay a small fee for visit.

I must say they are a Beautiful family overall, I can feel the love between them.

I have the opposite to this....
I feel its usless owning any material things...other than the absolute necessary....bed....chair...kitchen utensils etc
Which might sound simple but it definitely doesn't make for a cosy homely environment

is jasmine adopted ? her mom looks Indian and jasmine doesnt at all

hoarders are so controlling and manipulative

Thank you ❤

My mother has the exact same characteristics. Her hoarding is not this extreme as she has so many cupboards and wardrobes to hide it all but there are some rooms that have a really tight space because of all the things she has. I've realised you don't need the things to over flow in order to spot the hoarding. This disease starts very very early before things start to show out in the open. Although my mum's hoarding is not as obvious as its hidden away, she still has all the signs.. denial, argumentative, defensive, always thinking there is a use to it or there's a memory to it, there's always a reason not to throw it away. "These things are brand new, I'm not throwing it out" "No, I can send these overseas to someone who needs it" "These are perfect for gifts" "These can be fixed" "These are too valuable". There is always a category it fits in. It's extremely exhausting trying to get hoarders to see another point of view. It's a mountain of patience you need to have to wait for them to "sort" through things because they will happily sit there "sorting" but really all they do is try and organise to keep everything. It's a never ending cycle. Hoarders need help and this disease really needs more attention because it affects the family in so many ways. And most importantly it is not safe for the hoarder to be living like this for many reasons including breathing in all the dust the stuff has, the house is usually dirty because it's impossible to clean it properly unless you remove every single item and wipe it clean and it poses a huge fire risk. God help all those suffering and their families.

Why does the daughter look like an entire different ethnicity than her mum?

Pretty things😕

There’s some truly beautiful/touching moments between Mum and Daughter .

you could just kiss jasmine to the moon and beyond, she is that lush!

Acts 2:38
“Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost

Ive been thinking about it and it seems like hoarders store their memories outside of their heads. Everything gives them a small memory that they might lose if the get rid of that one object. They don’t see something like a photo of their family on a special occasion as more important than a broken dolls chair or a marble. The two are equally important to them. Its like they don’t know how to remember certain things if something visible isn’t there. The memories are in their head but they might not realize that the memories are still there even if the thing is not. And for things more practical, a lot of people during wartimes or periods of financial unrest or something like the great depression try to keep anything because they still have the mentality of needing to save money or rations to get even those small things. It kinda gets out of control in terms of what garbage they hoard at a certain point. I read about another hoarder and that person had dozens of empty potato chip bags but would not throw them away and couldn’t justify why they needed them.

Wonderful Documentary. Loved this! Thanks to highlight and help many others.

Even when they argue or are mad British people sound more classy then us Americans 😂

Trauma and hoarding go hand in hand She neds lots of help

Some parents are good at tidying up with their child, at the end of a busy day.

Toys my parents gifted me made me open up more than a parent beating me, right... . The kind of parents that try to find or tolerate excuses for beating their own child for too long. Also, my family would never teach me how to tidy up, together.

So, it isn't easy to not want to keep on keeping things instead of negotiating with these negative people, in life. Particularly, getting bullied on purpose by family members is so sick!

My father was also physically and verbally abusive from childhood onwards.

I have board games I have never even played with... . Even at my parents (it was my father's idea to make me homeless...).

I tend to want to hold onto: toys, books, CD's, computer games, games consoles, DVD's, board games (even though I never seem to invite anyone over). I am sentimental over some clothes and best wishes cards.

I think it will be an hour or two to go through all the DVD'S and which ones to place together in what bag for most easy archiving.

The run-down state of my flat makes me want to hold onto things more.

I am just sorting out my DVD's I picked up, mostly second-hand and steam vacuuming the carpet (I don't know where I put my dust pan...?!) I bought DVD carrier bags which are transparent, as I need a flexible solution in temporary housing.

You can re-gift anything from stickers to a washing machine. I have been placed in a run-down flat including mice droppings... . Moldy washing machine.

Some of the DVD'S I will end up re-gifting because they were free to me.

I have limited purchases of new DVD'S to a minimum, I mostly get free used stuff from other people in, now. I also have umpteen DVD'S to still watch and/or review.

Because it is my decision. I cannot embrace minimalism to the point that it doesn't make me feel scared of "emotional emptiness"

I am proud of everything I am deciding to let go off.