Incest Survivor interview-Star

This heartbreaking story tells a lot about how women are groomed into keeping their mouth shut just to please others

Shes such a kind soul feeling for her grandmother, blaming herself so very sad.

How incredibly sad, this should never have happened to you, its called Learned helplessness and progresses throughout the ages. a sense of powerlessness.

I'm bored. Let me exploit the suffering of those living on the margins of society to make a name for myself.

Privilege

Star is one of the most honest, real people interviewed on SWU. I wish her nothing but the best.

P. S. I could listen to her all day. Her voice is just beautiful.

What a tragic story, this woman has a beautiful soul.

I have watch mini mini videos. This is a most disturbing video. Oh my God what a shit this lady went through. I can’t even process what she is already went through. Damn somethings you cannot on see this is one of them. Thank you for your podcast and I appreciate it. My heart goes out for that girl and she’s actually a beautiful woman.

I appreacite you! You are hero and you don't even know it. God bless you.

Poor thing. This one hit too close to home. Good at grooming is right. 😢❤❤❤

Was her dad Aurelian "Grizzly" Smith?

She's beautiful

He needs to back the microphone up a little the noises of her swallowing were too much

AS A SMALL CHILD HAVING THIS HAPPEN TO TI HER AND NOT BEING ABLE TO DO NOTHING ABOUT IT((I Understand that part))BUT AS A FULL GROWN WOMAN I FEEL YOU COULD HAVE DONE SOMETHING,BUT YOU DIDN'T!AND THEN YOU TELL US ABOUT YOU HAVING Your 1ST ORGASM WITH YOUR PAPA.I Feel YOU BEGAN TO LIKE IT. THATS WHY YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING TO STOP THAT NIGHTMARISH ORDEAL! IT WENT ON FOR SO LONG....COME ON NOW🤔🙄😮 MAKE IT MAKE SENSE STAR,PLEASE??YOU Were HIS GRANDDAUGHTER NOT HIS WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND! JUST MY OPINION.JS...
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For sure your grandpa still alive rooting in hell suffering all the pain and more that he inflect to all of you. Star. im praying for you to heal in you mind, heart and soul you’re so strong and beautiful!! All the people plz pay attention to everyone around your children no matter if is the father, uncle, cousin or grandpa not because they go to church are godly people, some of them are real demons in the earth.

Star, you were wrong in one instance of this interview. It was no different, what your grandfather did to you and what he did to your mother. Both were rape. Just because you didn't scream out and say no and fight does NOT mean that you wanted it or enjoyed it, even if your body reacted in a positive way at one point. We are programmed by our maker to react in a certain way with touch of our sexual areas. That ensures the continuance of the human race. But God never meant this touch to happen in a predatory way as it did to you. What a predator takes away is your ability to fight and scream. It doesn't take away the fact that it's still rape. Through his deviant, manipulative, calculating actions, your grandfather, or your papaw as you innocently refer to him, took away your ability to say no and to fight. So your grandfather not only took away your power over your body but also your power over your own mind. In no way, not even when you were an adult, was this consensual sex you were having with your grandfather. Every single time, every single touch, it was rape and assault. Do not forget that. You have nothing to feel guilty about. And every time you feel guilty, remember that that is only a product of your grandfather's calculating manipulation of your thoughts. May God free you from your grandfather's grip and clear your mind of his control so that you may begin to see how valuable you are.

This interview left me speechless. Star’s survival speaks to her strength and Her storytelling is unmatched. I hope she is well.

She's beautiful

I'm pulling for you, Star! You ARE beautiful and intelligent and worthy !!! Love & blessings 💜

Omg 😩🥺😭 the hotel situation. I’m sorry that happened to you . I’m lost for words . Tragic.

Just said a prayer for her. Lord keep her in your arms and grace and her children

Stay strong and do the best that you can to move forward in a positive way it helps to talk about what was done it,s a healing process stay strong and be safe .

That was a disgusting question. How dare you victim-blame during an interview, yikes. Spend a few minutes reading over your questions next time.

She is so giving to share her story. One day, I hope she loves herself enough to know that it was never her fault, and to tell people like Mark, that. I thought he did a terrible job. Really clueless. Which is awful, because what he said to her was abusive. He knew it in his heart if not in his head, because he ended it so badly. He owes her an apology.

Star, you a tribute to us survivors of incest. Such an evil filth from satan to hurt the children. You do disassociate quite a bit so seeing a Christian therapist specializing in trauma would be very helpful for you.

I feel so bad for what she's gone through. I just want to hug her and protect her.

Ever heard of trauma bonding? I think that that describes pretty well the relationship ahe had with her grandfather

Wow!!! You are so brave Star!! It takes alot of courage to talk about these intimate details. My heart goes out to you Star feeling like there was no way out when someone is violating and victimizing you against your will! Thank you for sharing your story. You're helping alot of people telling your story!! You're a beautiful person!! You were so young !!

Her grandmother should be in jail too. 🤬

It isn't her fault, monsters exist and that is never the victims fault, i do wonder if she subconsciously provoked the romantic parters as part of the chain she was trapped in. Im glad she was able to seperate that chain from her own children. Sucks she went into addiction and started that vicious chain. Tragic and sad!

I'm sorry he did that to you

The light is within you and it shows. Take care of yourself

incest aside...she talks about all these men who abused her...even those who were non abusive before hand...I assume she is a button pusher...my older sister was like this ( 1.5 years older)...she would find nice guys and push their buttons until they broke.... I think she was just very self destructive...kinda a common theme with a lot of these people with low self esteem and a broken sense of self worth....anyway my point being...either she is attracted to bad men or she finds a way to push them into that role. I know it's a thing..I've seen it second hand(through my sister).

This is by far the best swu I've watched

I’ve seen lots of these interviews…most are hard to watch. This one is thoroughly heartbreaking. This poor precious girl….God bless her. ❤️💔

Your body's physiological responses are outside of your control. It's not your fault. You're not responsible for the things that pig did to you.

When you are a victim of sexual abuse as a child it changes your brain. It changes how you’re able to constitute right and wrong….

Thank you for your candor… you’ve helped me more than you know and I’m thankful for your courage and pray for your healing

I just feel like giving you a big hug. I think you are so self aware & honest. You are a beautiful person.

why is incest/csa so prevalent? it just blows my mind it seems every other family has an issue with this.

What an amazing young lady .. if only she could see the hood in herself and how courageous of her to tell such a story.. and yes there are so many people out here you’re helping if only you knew .. and you’re so articulate and beautiful.. thank you so much for sharing your life’s story dear .. 🙏

This is crazy and so sad!!😢God heal this woman.

Star, Of no fault of your own were a victim. You are a beautiful and strong woman and I am so so very sorry this happened to you. I really hope you can find a way to move away from the blame you place on yourself..I also wish for you peace from these horrors and good things in life.♥

When she mentioned his "raunchy old tighty whiteys" it just made it too real

I want so bad to wrap my arms around her and tell her she's still here and needs to keep telling her story so others can!!! Love you Sweetheart...

ROMANS 10:9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. 11 As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.”[e] 12 For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile—the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him, 13 for, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

I was this person. I wasn't sexually assaulted, but verbally and emotionally assaulted, by mother, father, brother, sisters, as well as non family. It went on for years, decades, in school, at work on the street, in the home, in relationships. The day I started to fight back was the day a therapist said to me "You know, Kris, you teach people how to treat you." I was talking about how a sibling dumped on me over the phone (I'd relocated out of state from family but still did brief visits and phone/email/social media). "She does this and she said that" sharing my victimhood in my therapy sessions. I fought back mentally against what she was saying: after all it's THEM not ME, right????? Then I thought about it, hard, and realized she was right. Unless they were threatening to put me on the street or physically harm me, I was the one who allowed their behavior to happen. Far from feeling blamed or misunderstood, this insight was incredibly liberating for me. If I taught people how to treat me, that meant I was could teach them a new way to treat me. In other words, I had the power, not my abuser. So Mark asking her why she allowed her grandfather to fuck when she was a grown woman is not insensitive or offensive, as the comments are saying, it's really the first step to her getting better.

It doesn’t matter how old you are, predators can spot vulnerable people. They just know what to say and do to reel you in. And then once they have you just at your weakest that’s it your theirs. You then realise what’s happened but you are the one that feels guilty because you allowed it to happen. They mess with your head,
I cannot believe he only got 7 years for abusing your cousin.
In the uk you are allowed to bring criminal charges to historic sexual abuse so if your Mum lived in the UK she would be allowed along with her siblings to bring charges against their Dad. And the fact that Nanna stayed with him tells me she was beaten down (mentally) otherwise you’d be out of there with your children like a shot.

The grandmother knew her husband was a predator, she slept with her hand on him as an alarm. It would wake her up if he wasn't there and was gone too long she'd go check on the girls, to ensure grandpa wasn't raping her daughters or granddaughters. Her grandmother protected this man.

I understand ! It’s not your fault ever. Never ever!!! You have no fault in this ever. No matter what he did to you or anyone else! I’m so sorry. I pray you heal
Edit. You didn’t like it your biology did. That’s it!