Life Lessons I Learned In My 30's

Thank you very much for sharing this. One lesson I have learned in my 30s - listen to the advice and accept support from other moms. <3

OMG Jen! We're just a few weeks apart in age! I feel like my 30's have been really interesting for me as well. Thanks for making this video! I love hearing your thoughts about the growth process. I think it's really important to be honest with myself too - save the time and move on!

Thank you for your sharing and vulnerability. I’m definitely resonating with a lot of points here!

I really enjoyed this video, Jen!! Thank you for sharing! I'm close to entering my 30s now, and I really relate and connect with a lot that you've shared about being in (early) 20s and having a different mindset and perspective compared to now. I feel I learned a lot from your video, and feel much more comfortable and hopeful of the adventures and growth to come!! 😊

I've been watching your videos for years and what really caused me to stick around for this long is videos like these in addition to the beauty videos. I'm 33 (have acne prone skin, Asian American, not a mom, acrobat-- I remember you did aerials for a while) and loved the parts about having no apologies for being myself and trusting my gut.

Well said I’m 39 and at a similar age in my life and I agree with all you highlighted 😀

I agree with all of your points.

I asked my husband how he feels about his 30s so far and we both agree, we are happier mentally and financially, but can improve physically. Lmao. We embrace our imperfections more than ever. You can’t win everything, if you do then great! But aiming for perfection is the killer of joy.

With that being said, it’s normal to go through all the things we through in our 20s, because we learn who we are.

Gosh these are fantastic! Im in the beginning of my 30s and definitely feel like i am also in the process of learning these things and growing and figuring things out.

I struggle right now with me time, self worth, mom guilt! All of it all the time!

In my 20's until even the start of my 30's i would be SO self conscious about my facial imperfections that I would never go out without at least half a face of makeup, even if it was just for a quick trip to the shops or to pick up takeaway. Then suddenly something flipped inside my head and I just didn't care anymore. I went out to get groceries with zero make up on and felt fine to do so. It's probably because as you get older you're not in your 'prime' as you said and i just think, whats the point in trying to look like you're still in your prime, and probably because im in a stable relationship and im not trying to 'impress' anyone anymore 🙂 sry, long comment 😅

You look 25

Would you please make an updated mlbb video? I have used up at least one of those you recommended in the mlbb video years ago. But they are mostly discontinued now. Really need another one! Thanks and merry Christmas!

Love these reflections ❤️

As someone without an older sister, this video was extremely therapeutic and reassuring, esp as I'm wrapping up my 20s. Love you, Jen!

On point in every topic , THANK YOU I needed this … & yes please more videos like this. Wishing You and your family many more blessings for the New Year.

As a mother of two kids 4 and 2, and just turned 37 myself on the 12th of Dec, you couldn't have said it more eloquently! Those were the lessons I learnt thru my 30s, ive gotten so much more confident, happier and comfortable in my own skin. Thanks for the video!

I’m 25 and struggling with learning how to relax 🥲 I tie my self worth to productivity too & all of my hobbies are related to work as well, so it’s really hard for me to break out of work mode and just enjoy sometimes haha 🙈

Thanks for your lessons, Jen! ❤️ Really appreciate them & wishing you a happy new year!!

Thanks Jen! I enjoyed hearing your perspectives and wisdom. So proud of where you are in life! I’m 26 and feel like I’ve come a long way as well. We’re always working and getting better!

I love this so much. The lessons really resonated with me as I'm entering my 30s now. Thank you for sharing!!! I would love more videos like this.

And here i am at 33 = no kids and no hubby😂 enjoying the freedom i suppose

loved this so much, thank you for sharing these lessons :)

Another fellow mom here w 2 kids under 5 and all you said here really resonated with me also ! Thank you for making this video it was really insightful

I'm 23 about to turn 24 and this was super interesting to listen to your experience! I keep worrying that I am throwing my 20s out of the window since I'm almost halfway through and still figuring a ton out, but I have been seeing more videos like these that have convinced me that maybe the 30s are "where it's at," and not to worry about wasting time. 😆

You're my inspiration! I watched you for so long. Thanks for sharing your life lessons.

Love this so much, Jen! Your wisdom and insight is so helpful ❤

Just beautiful Mashallah.

OMG I so resonate so much to “vocalizing my own feelings in the moment” 😭 my life long struggle. Especially bec I feel so much shame about sharing my emotions towards the person, not only that I get numb in that moment (due to so many years of doing so) that I can’t even recognize my feelings and emotions in that moment. I usually understand afterwards what I felt, so that makes it extra difficult to vocalize in the same moment. I need some time and space to be able to process everything and then can communicate about it, which not everybody appreciates and understands. It’s still very challenging but I am making progress . Thank you for sharing this, Jen ❤️ happy new year, wish you all the best for you and your family ⭐️

omg, as a Asian girl, I am so relate to your point when you said you didn't feel self worth if you were not improving yourself or learning something, I think the way our parents raised us or the societal expectation of the Asian world seeped in our mind that we always think we are not good enough and seems like we will never be! Thanks for the video, it makes me realize I have the same problem!

You look more like 27 not anywhere near 37. I don’t believe you 😂

I'm 26 and I love videos like these! It feels like listening to a big sister I never had! My biggest learning for the past 3 years of covid is intentional buying- I really was forced to purged buying makeup and othr things that just hang out at the house now because of the pandemic. I have to use up everything first, and if I don't have a space for it I will never buy it. Also applies to gadgets, clothing, fragrance or house decor. It makes me very contented on what I have now.

hey Jen! I've started watching your channel since about 9 or 10 years ago, and... we were so YOUNG back then! so many things happened since and I am happy to follow your success and challenges all through the years ❤️

She looks 21 😮😮

About that Me Time, my doctor calls it the “super mom syndrome.” I think I know what me time is, but who has the time. That’s the old me. You have to make time. Thanks for sharing your stories and experiences. I enjoy the video.

Love that you take the time to self reflect and share with the world. I’m only 32 but totally agree 30’s are better than your 20’s.

That was so well said!! Love it. Thank you for being so real to us~

This woman is 37. Thirty-seven.

I have loved all your heart to heart videos since the first one.
Thanks for opening up to us. I am encouraged by you to self reflect. You have made a positive impact to me, thank you so much❣

This really speaks to me on so many levels. From being programed to accept what society dictated for me, mom guilt, communicating with my spouse...ALL of it. The more I go into my 30s, the more I'm able to realize and appreciate all the points you've touched on. Thank you!!!

Great articulation! You taught me a lot through this content, thank you☺️

I resonate with the first 2. I’m 35… I’m going to add to embrace our strengths. Sure validating others can be helpful to the person needing a listener but I’ve learned that I will have people who specifically use me for listening and it becomes automatic. If they need or want validation and it’s not something they are getting from me they may need to branch out and lean on others who can provide that. I wasn’t realizing that was also blocking me from your point #2. It’s asking myself, “What role am I playing in this relationship?” If I am just the listener all the time and the person taking is complaining that I am not giving them everything they want and need then I need to say, “Sorry I can’t listen anymore without saying what I think or feel. You are inviting me in on this, what’s supposed to be a conversation, not a monologue, and so I can no longer be mute for your benefit. Either find someone who can listen and validate or what I have to offer is ways to change and move forward.” It’s okay to give people options if you can’t fulfill what they need or want instead of us changing ourselves to accommodate (unhealthy use of Fe).

37? Dang girl you still look 25 to me

Dec 30

Is mine happy birthday

oh wow! Does anyone know what camera/setup she uses?

I literally thought you were in your 20s

Hi, you look amazing ANDDD we share the same birth date :)!!! Thank you for your wisdom and transparency!

My children’s names are Ezra and Araiah ❤

Resonating so much on the first point about “try to understand before seeking to be understood”. People always have the intent to reply whenever communicating with others. It mostly ends up with “I think…I feel…I suggest”. However, listening is all about “you”. It’s also one of the most meaningful lesson that I learned this year.