Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships | Joanne Davila | TEDxSBU

love this!!!

I would like to meet a man that is not so engrossed in his work or friends that I am left on the sidelines.

A study on 13-14 yr. old girls and evaluating their "romantic comeptence" in terms of actual relationships? Really?

ngl her voice is annoying, im sorry

This video is so powerful!!!!! I reference this video so much!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Communication is key to any successful relationship ❤

Intéressant ! L'amour ça se travaille, y a pas de miracles, surtout à notre époque si vous voulez que ça dure un minimum ou toute la vie. Personnellement je conseille le livre "L'INTELLIGENCE AMOUREUSE", de Nathan Stone. Le gars est psychologue et tout. Je l'ai lu et je connais plusieurs personnes, femmes et hommes, pour qui cette lecture a tout changé.

This is articulate content. A book on the subject I read was equally well-expressed. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

This is a remarkable write-up. A related book I read gave me a 180-degree turnaround in life. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

Perfectly said, I agree to your points 👍❤

Our relationship was on point for 19 years someone talked her in to getting a jet ski and come out and ride , since then I feel I am on the back burner, our romance went to zero and she started saying I do what I want, if I didn't have mobility issues, fk her

Good things always deserves good recommendations. I was really heart broken when the love of my life left me it was hard for me to bear I almost gave up if not for a friend who directed me to a powerful man and he used his power to restore my marriage I’m still very much in shock till now with the RESULTS my marriage was restored. I’m so grateful. Thanks for helping me restore my home.

Super straight to the point

Emotional regulation

Apparently one can only choose a partner for healthy relationship if he has got options. I ain't got any option cuz I ain't got any bitches.

I think this was a great introduction, but the meat and potatoes were missing. We need to break down- do's and don't. Whys and why nots.

Sounds good in theory :) So, how do you teach someone to know yourself so deeply without being invested in real love relationship?

Three points for a healthy relationship, 1) if you like them, then they can accommodate their requirements of you, how they want you to behave. 2) if you have hurt someone, explain honestly and apologise sincerely and expect time for healing. 3) don't settle or accept fake relationships, no emoji relationships, no texting relationships, ask and demand an actual relationship in the real world.

Turned off after you said its too late. You're wrong

Unhealthy relationship signs: Fighting, contempt, criticism, not going to your partner for support, hostility, violence

Intimacy, security, respect, good communication & being valued

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How do I become a sentimental efficient person?

Being ready for a relationship I am single ❤

if ur a man never marry. women don't love men. you are a means to an end to a woman, thats all. as soon as you are unable to give them what they want they are gone, this may not be money. u won't know what it is till u are unable to give it. im sure there are some exceptions, but thats rare. go ahead say "who hurt you", a better question would be who taught u how life is.

Its all about money. Build the resources then build the life

Once a relationship is scarred, having meaning conversations without argument seems just impossible. We tried a different approach, tried "Lovify" a couple questions game.
In this game you have to guess what your partner likes or expects. Helped us understand each other better. Stay strong couples :)

This is why it is so critical that people have healthy relationships
How many people really know what to do on a day to day basis
To maintain and keep a healthy relationship
You know when we typically do so
And it can be a wonderful thing
That they just can't
Right before they get married its called
Pre marital
It can work
But in my opinion
Why ? : because people have already
No amount of pre marital
So the ways that we have tried to teach people
They failed
to adress two important things

Ted ex talks are really really required from time to time

Totally! This type of education should start at young age. It is such an interesting world, the world of relationships with all the feelings and emotions. This reminded me of a quote: ''The more we accept our humanness and our feelings for what they actually are, rather than what we wish they were, the more we digest them and grow as a human being'' - Andrew Kenneth Fretwell. From his book Emotional Alchemy the Love and Freedom Hidden within Painful Feelings.

I agree to these skills a lot but failed to get them early in life and after many personal developments I still think these skills are quite complicated to master for me and many other people.

ELements of a heaLthy reLationshep on the other hand. romantic comenptense.common sense blessing(kita human a MAN) ,, lesson. mutuaLity. reguLation emotion. baLa ncing those skill,,,,

I like her voice and how calming she speaks. The way she perceives and describes how to regulate yourself is so great

Leaving a relationship you’re not happy in is much easier than emotionally damaging someone. But selfish people don’t get that

It is not only finding the right partner, it is also being the right partner. 
My wife and I have a system. 
When either one asks “could you”…that means the the task can wait or not be done at all. But when one says I “need you” to…the other partner drops everything, does the task with no questions asked. Although seldom used, this system has worked beautifully. Most importantly, you don’t keep count

Getting one more chance to know yourself by moving forward from a toxic relationship takes something. Something like fire from the gut. Beautifully spoken about emotion articulation, self identity and growing together aspect.

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1. I especially loved the one that says that we were , we are and we always will be idiots. What a relief! It means that whether we notice it or not, we will be "lost" most of the time and that's why we will constantly need to look for wisdom , beauty and proper guidance in our lives. For the latter, I have found " Inflection" very helpful.

It is programmed to be kind and compassionate and really listen to you properly. Something that most of us  experience rarely. 
And it not only helps you to deal with your problems but also asks you very wise  and interesting questions. Whatever is troubling you, you can also ask for recommendations of songs, poems, books  and  movies from it!!

 ( If you want to know more about what it is and  how it works, you can listen to the episode:" Personal Intelligence with Mustafa Suleyman " Episode of the " Possible" podcast by Reid Hoffman.  )
2.  Don't expect the role of being " everything" to your partner. That's a burden nobody can carry.

We better choose a partner who is very curious and compassionate and who have their own group of friends.
3.  Subscribing to Esther Perel's newsletter can be of great value  to everyone.  She not only talks about a specific subject in every newsletter, but she also makes suggestions of great questions to start profound conversations and she recommends wonderful books and movies. too!

Here is the most valuable thing I have learnt from her. She says:

" The experience of love is not what the other person is, it is how you experience yourself in the presence of the other."
It is enough to take just a moment to look back in our lives, to realise how powerful this statement really is!
The great thing about it is that it serves for two extremely important purposes:
One is to protect yourself properly by turning the focus on how YOU  really feel with this person  and the other is to become a more generous and compassionate human being.  Because we can also turn this statement around and ask ourselves:

" How do I want to make this person feel about himself in my presence? ".

4. There is another wonderful video by this channel called " How to choose a partner wisely" which is full of great insights as well!


5. The last point in this lesson is brilliant too! If you are thinking about leaving,  I would highly recommend to check out this video:

" How to let go, move on, heal from a toxic relationship" by Lori Gottlieb.

She is a wonderful therapist and along with Guy Winch the host of one of my favourite podcasts: " Dear Therapists"

Thank you

I'm in my early 60s and I'm old school and i smoke drugs in moderation what i call holy smoke because i inhale the purity and exhale the poison through sweating when you're spiritual some say it's truth sermon when you're deeply rooted spiritual and passionate about life 😊 and love ❤️ 😍

You lost me on if your partner is okey with you seeing other people. What’s the point of being in a relationship?

Yeah okay so what are the skills ? You didn’t explains what we should do

New they don't live her alone and controlling her body

No dont ask any questions ? To them and they get to new uu just gon live them broke confused this world way im in this mess I dont do ?

World dont live her alon

Look wat hoppen to her new ?

And don't push same thing to them it's will tour and attack u

Wen u promiss them and just wolk away from it for so long it 😔

It took me 43 years to understand if they want to hurt you they just don’t love you and you should go immediately, not everyone deserves loyalty and both people play a part, even if it was just letting them continue to have access to you.