Babygirls vs. Littles and Ageplay [DDLG & BDSM]

This is a very personal thing, but ageplay, and caregiver / little roleplay really rubs me the wrong way. As the baby of my family for years and the youngest daughter, I am sick to death of how older siblings and only children have this warped view of what it's like to be "little" / "younger" / "a child". Reminds me of all the times my older sister degraded my achievements and hardships. No matter how much older I got or what I did or experienced, I always had things "dumbed down" and "made easier" for me by virtue of my age even as I reached stages my older sister waxed poetic about being hard as hell when she was dealing with it while I just dealt with it and did better than her at every turn. That's a very personal reason to not have or like those kinks though, so I understand that few probably gave those kinks for the reasons that bother me (although I have met enough who describe the appeal of these kinks to them that my disdain still stands). Basically, these kinks feel like a deluded characature of what it's like to be a younger child / baby of the family and that bothers me to no end as you can tell ^^'

Im Baby Girl🎉

Daddy dom here, and i have a bbg. She never calls herself "little girl" nor do i call her that.

Yo real question is there a one for boys cause yo I'm lowkey a little boy but I'm mad curious if there's mommy's

This all blows my mind.

By chance, if you have enough content. Could you make a playlist for ddlg. ❤ please 🙏

imma be honestly only been in 1 relationship (so far) and it was a verry subtle dom relationship like the occasional gentle dom thing happening so i have very little experience with relationships in general (and none with the more inappropriate aspects) but i do think of myself as a bottom and a lot of the trans girl traits also apply and im trans so you know very physical contact and being called good girl or anything else like that but at the same time im autistic and i hate being treated like a child but at the same time i relate to some of these aspects and i'll be honest even though i hate being treated like a child the only time i dont care is if its not condescending yknow? i dont know how to describe it but they use a similar voice to people who do say condescending thing but they dont quite have the same tone yknow like they treat me like an equal even though they're talking in a tone that someone would use to talk to a child

If I'm being honest I think I'm a little...also I blame my autism and anxiety for that as well. 😂

Got the reference.

Kids today, smh. /s

These are the best vids on these topics thanks

have a off the topic question where did you find the slime rancher shirt

Watching this again just helped reinforce that I am oh so little.
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I'm still very new to the community and like... my Daddy knew exactly what I was when we met (Babygirl)....I on the other hand just knew this was how i preferred to play out or just exist as lol at the end when you were describing a babygirl i was like yes! Yes please and thank you ^.^ I love watching your videos to expand my knowledge xD I showed my Daddy your vids and he approved, he actually really enjoys them too because you're spreading the RIGHT information versus what a lot of social media/Internet tells people. Thank you for the wonderful information <3

It's all just so darn SEXY!!! I wanna play.

I think I'd be a baby girl or a middle. I got out of a bad relationship where I wasn't allowed to express the things I was into (to the point where when at an anime convention my ex was there because 1 I still live with him because I have no where else to go and financially can't leave, 2 his friends became mine when he made he loose contact with all my original friends (I know, big red flag I was too dumb to see), he was following me around and I stopped to look at a booth in artists alley that was selling sexy monster girl stuff and he was disgusted I was even into that. I didn't get anything because I couldn't decide and he was getting pissy with the amount of people in artist alley.
Anyway, I want to meet a guy into this stuff and see if I'd truly like it, but my ex has made me fear being in a relationship because every time I think that I could put myself out there I think "what if the next guy lulls me into a false sense of security and when abuses me like ex did". Then I go back to reading fanfiction.

I like the distinction! I definitely felt out of place as a little as I don’t do role play or age play, it’s just my personality is more playful and wanting extra care. Babygirl seems to fit really well, and I love that nickname!

I am a middle and I really prefer there to be no sexual relationship with my caregiver right now or at the very least not a sexual interaction when in the age regression headspace. I need to be able to act bratty and niave and emotionally vulnerable without the implication of sex being involved. Hopefully that makes sense.

i never knew what it was called that i was expressing, but i think from this discussion i exude a baby girl attitude. thank you for having these talks because i'm trying to discover more about myself and learn about bdsm and kink and it's a little overwhelming to navigate as a noobie ❤

I think one of the key distinctions is that a little surrenders competence, whereas a middle/bg wants to surrender duty. It's two very different motivations for "do this for me", and for one there's only one acceptable response in the dynamic, whereas in the other there's a tension to play with between going along with the request or refusal. So the two things are completely different.

Ngl I thought this was going to be about ABs vs Littles

To me, babygirl sounded like it implied babies and baby stuff. Can't imagine why. Well know I know.

I like that you are wearing a Slime Rancher shirt ❤

your make up is on pointe in this video.

I'm a little. Thank you for the support and love.

Hey sweetheart. There’s nothing I love so much is being tickled with beautiful fluffy soft feather dusters and Rabbit fur mmmm I could have tickle torture done 24/7. ….. really 💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️Especially with you doing that to me my baby doll💋💋💋💋

Coming in late to the video but i live in the south. Baby girl is most commonly used by fathers to their female children. This then translates to spicy vanilla relationships in our culture. It’s not necessarily a basic vanilla term but it’s not something synonymous with a BDSM or D/s dynamic. Although a lot of individuals down here who’s partner calls them baby girl 9/10 the baby girl calls their partner daddy. I don’t think this is strictly an empty term of endearment but i also don’t think it signifies the presence of a D/s or power exchange relationship. It’s somewhere in the middle… i hope this made sense 😂

I like the idea of being mature but wanting a bit more attention/care. Being able to be a bit childlike in a place you feel comfortable resonates well with me. I hope to find such a place/person someday.
Thanks for sharing!

What about daddy/boy in the queer sense where it is more of a mentor type role/ age gap?

Girrrrl i love ur videos always informative and well spoken. Get ready for the BS though Oli London is now trying to use the kink community to get clout since he’s pretty much exploited everything else.

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The babygirl dynamic strikes me as a similar act to a sugar baby, just without the actual sugaring part. Sugar babies are spoiled, bratty, and they act sexy to show off for whoever funds them. It seems to me that babygirls do the same, but for love and affection rather than money.

Hi!! ❤ Love your videos!
I had a question about DD/BG or littles. Me and Master (i call Him this daily not just a roleplay thing) are sexual, but usually after sexual times, i regress In my age a little bit. I then act like a little when it comes to aftercare. I was just wondering if this is still little play? Or if it's just how i like my aftercare? Also if being little after sex is a bad thing? I've noticed lots of ppl say littles or BG can't be sexual?? Plz help lol. thank you ❤❤

Your slime rancher shirt is always bringing me happiness hehe ❤

Am I the only one that thinks this is sick! Maybe im misunderstanding but what im hearing is GROWN ASS WOMEN act like they are SMALL MINOR CHILDREN and they want and let men do sexual things to them. SO THEY WANT TO PRETEND THEY ARE GETTING MOLESTED!!!??? Is that correct? If so that is so damn DISGUSTING and Idc what anyone says, if a man is willing to “pretend” your a MINOR CHILD then that means they AN ADULT MAN gets turned on by LITTLE GIRLS so what’s to guarantee those DISGUSTING MEN wont go out and get the real thing - AN ACTUAL “baby girl” or “little girl” YOU ARE ALL SICK AF!!! How doea YT allow this crap on here!!!

Dont fall into boxes, find a niche inside a niche inside a niche if you have to...all it matters is you being happy in your own way 🤗
Love you all

This gives me more questions than answers tbh 😂 I've always described myself as a little, while also often calling myself a princess but not realizing this term also has kink implications. Now after watching this, I've realized that while in some moments I'm very much in a little headspace, in other moments I act much more like your definition of bg. Is it possible to switch or oscillate between both?! Or be one or other in different moments or in different relationships?! And can you be a princess while not being dominant at all, just enjoying being spoiled?! 😂😅

Not the Twitter bean dad reference 😂💀

I agree I consider myself more of a middle I can regress to little if my mental health is hitting me hard or if I'm just being extra needy.
But can't really say I'm an age player because I don't even know what age I'm regressing to?
Theo I do have something that I use for a sippy cup.
And I do have a pacifier.
Believe it or not the pacifier actually helps me with my smoking.
Trying to quit.
Can't eat because I'm just going to want to smoke, lollipops help a little but I'm still going to want to smoke after.
And because I have an oral fixation I need something in my mouth.
OK I know that sounded dirty lol
And no it won't help kinda hard to walk around like that lol

I had no idea that being a “little” included that smaller headspace. I really thought it was more of a strictly rp senario and was honestly worried about being in the community because I always engage by being in a smaller headspace

CG/cr Care giver/care reciever?

I also just watched pretty woman the other day for the first time, and i felt that i really related to Vivian in that she brings this child-like naïvete to this businessman's life, and obviously I'm not saying they have a CGL relationship or that if u relate to her that means you're definitely a little, but that sort of energy or 'vibe' she has is more what i think of when i think about littles/middles, it's not about outfits or stuffies (primarily, at least - i do personally LOVE my stuffies for sure) but it's about that sort of carefree and playful energy

Haven't seen the thread, but i think a lot of the issues with the whole thing about lack of clarity or people not realizing they are describing being a little while saying they aren't, comes from people not actually looking up stuff about it because it's "weird" and they kinda 'other' the people in that community and don't want to associate with that and don't find out about terms like middles, or ageplay, or agere, and then you also have all of these micro labels that are very specific because it allows you to alienate even further because of their misconceptions. In large part being a little or ageplayer or whatever is just finding what fits in your specific relationship, as with a lot of bdsm things, and these assumptions of what it HAS to be is, if anything, detrimental to people finding what does work for them.

Bean dad!

How do I find dungeons near me is there another specific term for it. I am new to bdsm and want to learn more and explore.

Can somebody please explain the “daddy open my beans” reference to me, it made me laugh so hard and I wanna be in on the joke 😂

It's giving kink shaming tbh which folks in the ageplay community are well accustomed to even from the kink community.

Evie I remember back in the day when I was trying to suss out my identity within this space. I did a huge deep dive on that therapy community versus the age regression community versus the age play community and all of the history and how the disaster went down on tumblr. And that's a really fun deep dive if you've never done that before.

I was going to say, this, but also queer and trans inclusive. CG/L is great, thank you for making that point. Great video. Thank you so much for destigmatizing this!

Thank you for this video, Evie. I’m always trying to figure out where I’m at in terms of ageplay and DDLG, and your videos have helped me a lot with that ♥️♥️

At the time when I found out about Daddy Doms, I actually could only find things related to Baby Girl, and because no one else I talked to knew about it, I thought it was the same thing, but I have recently come to realize that it is not the same thing.
I however do like the comfort of little items which is mainly when I'm very anxious or stressed out, but I do not go into the headspace, and feel more related to baby girl than I do to a little/middle.

I guess you could say that I'm a baby girl, with the little aesthetic

I really do not understand why people are soo obsessed with these lables.
To quote a pop song:
Do what you like. Do it until you find. Love.