HOST FAMILY RED FLAGS | Au Pair Advice

i love the way you convey it, it's very easy to understand, thank you so much. i'm 15 and want to become an au pair one day💗💗💗

is it normal for the host to ask for your number to discuss further about anything you need to within the first few messages or could that be a scam?

I'm trying to become an au pair in america through an agency and currently going through a rough time, trying to find and match with a family. With this agency, the families have to contact me first so I don't have a lot of options :( I've only video chatted three families so far and I started looking end of July!!! And currently only one of those families are still an option. I don't how I feel about this family though. I have only talked to the mother and she gave me bad vibes but idk if anything she said was a red flag. That's why I watched this video. She talked about the flexibility thing and it seemed very unclear exactly what my day to day routine would look like. She didn't seem interested in spending time with me on the weekends because she said she relaxes on the weekends and she wants me to explore and have fun in my spare time and not just stay at home. She also talked a lot about chores like, dishes, laundry, trash, cooking dinner and so on which is fine but she almost talked more about that than actually babysitting the kids. I'm very confused cause I think the age of the kids is perfect, and there's only two, and I love the location but I'm afraid to choose this family as a last resort because I'm tired of waiting to match with a family. And as it's looking now I probably won't leave till January 2024 even though my plan was September 2023. I don't know what to do. I feel helpless. I like having an agency as support but I wish I could look at the families as well and reach out to them.

OMG i wish i saw this earlier

Hi , which agency did you use and what is the age limit ?

Please guys , what's the difference between an Au pair and nanny?

i pretend be au pair in EUA, i from Brazil

How can we contact you in private please !

Here is some thing I find to be a red flag in general.. The cost of childcare in the United States is extremely expensive at least $1000 a week. It appears to me that his families are exploiting young girls from other countries and making them work as many hours as possible with the lowest pay. It almost doesn’t even seem legal to pay someone three to $400 a week to take care of their kids full-time. I have not been an aupair yet and I’m just thinking about it but am I right or am I wrong?

The problem is I just don’t like kids

Hey, I want to know more about this Au Pair world, since I have graduated from University now. Firstly, I want to ask what should we do when we got into a difficult family and they are treating us poorly, can we change family or we are just going back to our home country? if we choose to change family can we do it quickly? the second thing is about pocket money, is the pocket money that they give will be enough to cover all our expanses or do wee need to do a second job? I actually still have so many questions but I don't think rambling in your comment section will be wise, so that's it from me. I hope you'll answer me thanks Tylah!

Hey there . I ended up here cause I wanna help out my sister . She just moved to Germany to be Aupair to what it seems a lovely family. She is just one week into being with the kids ( 3 in total , a baby a toddler and a kid) and the host mum told my sister her level of german isn’t “enough “to communicate with the kids and that she needs to be more extroverted with the kids ( my sister is an introvert but no at all shy or antisocial) . It’s very weird because she hasn’t started German classes yet she learned German (A1) back home in order to be there and now the host mum is demanding her more skill languages isn’t that the point of the au pair thing? My sister starts German clases next month and they told her she needs to be available the whole day in the mean time to get more use to the three kids , apparently they told her she is not gonna be capable of handling taking care of the kids and going to class ( strange 😐)again isn’t that the point of au pair . Do they need a nanny instead? The host father also put on the cards the possibility of getting my sister a new family . So assume they do not want her . My sister is self conscious of her level of German and is very sad about it. Do you think she should change families? I really dislike the fact that the host mum judged her language skills so early, my sister also told me the lady doesn’t speak to my sister in german anymore and only does it in English. Definitely not cool. Help plz 😢

Why were you required to take care of their kids????

I learn what a au pair was in under 15 mins, never even heard of it at first

I will say as a host family myself, those who come into this for cheap care are sorely mistaken. It’s $20,000 a year plus room and board and other expenses it comes to closer to $35,000. This is a cultural exchange, childcare is just a component.

Loved this video 😍

Definitely choose the family over the location! My experience was: Big city, worst families, want a cleaner (not childcare). Countryside, normal welcoming families, who really introdused me to everyone they were related to or friends with, and wanted me to actually babysit.

I need some help: I started chatting with a family and they seem to be perfect for me, she asked me some things I asked things to her bla bla bla; the problem is, the host mum seems really busy and she gave to me her attorney’s contact to move onto the documentation but I haven’t even video-called the family. I asked for a video-call but i’m a bit scared as this is my first experience. Please give me feedback🥹 (ps i’m going after brexit)

Hi I recently got a family on Facebook they connected me to their agency ( Agent au pair Inc ) and they offered to pay half of the fees the agency requires which is nice but now am freaking out , because I don’t want them to be scammers

Did u learnt he language ?

this was soooo helpful!! this is a huge possibility for me after graduating college, and I appreciate it so much ❤

Is it normal for your host family to pay for your flight to and back?

Hey, what agencies can I use???

I'm looking for an Au Pair in New Jersey. We are a great fun and loving family that need someone for the week days only. You will have your weekends free.

what were your working hours like when you were an au pair?

I have loved how true you have said it gal

Sweetheart.... I really love this video, but can I talk to you about something plssss 😰

Does they pay for your flight there?

which agency are you in?

I was thinking of doing Au pair - but I am really into Church & wonder about lots of things 🤔

the croisant earing!! i love them!

Please help me get work as a nanny abroad please 🙏🙏🙏

hey! did you get a certificate of basic knowledge of french before you went with them? i really hope it's not necessary, i am willing to learn french

How can I become an AU PAIR?

And is it okay to tell the host family that I wanna live in my apartment with my own money, not their money, and I'll be in their home just at the time of work
is it possible?

I wanna hear more about your difficulties! I'm having my own experience right now and my own doubts.
Kissies!

I was wondering what the visa process was? I really wanna do this but i’m worried since it’s such a scaaaary thing

Oh wow the agency I went to says 45 hours a week max.

Hey!? Looking to interview you. If you interested let me know.

Omg you lucked out on ur host family

Stoppppp the croissants!!!!! So cute

I love your videos!!! Thank you for all your tips! Im 23 and have been thinking about moving to Paris for a while. I just want to do it and have the experience while I’m still young. I’m going out there next month for a short vacation and I’m so excited. Your videos are so helpful ❤️

Hey, long time no see !

Everytime I hear you talk about your experience in my country I can’t help but feel happy that in general you had a wonderful time time there and that working as an au pair you had enough free time to discover Paris by yourself.

I spent 1 year in the States after I graduated from High-School and I can tell I returned to France much more mature than I was when I left.

My dad’s first job was a military, so by the time he met my mom he had already lives on 3 different continent, so he knew how positive an experience it is to get to be in close contact with different cultures.

My mom was more reluctant to see me live, which I somehow consider a normal : what if I were to me the wrong kind of people ? What I decided to remain in the US and never go to college ?

It would be kind of difficult for me to find a proper explanation to this, but I can assure you that when I attended college, I could see that I was a better student than if I been straight from high-school to college. The whole learning process was easier for me than it was for my fellow students. I even did things I don’t thing I would have done had I remained in France, like volunteering at the university library one day a week.

A personal advice : the farther away from home you spend your year abroad the better it is. You will get homesick from time to time in the beginning but when your hometown is at let’s say a 9/16 hour flight distance, you can’t say “oh that’s it, I’m going home tomorrow”. And that somehow teaches you that serious decisions deserve some serious thinking in life, and also there are things that patience : a good path toward adulthood (my grandma would always tell me : “Stef, getting to become and adult is all about managing one’s frustrations”😉.

Also, living abroad for a year brings you something that’s priceless (at least, this is what happened to me) : you get to know who you are + what you do and what you don’t want from life.

I think this is basically how this worked for you. Of course, I had no personal interactions with you during you stay : what I know from you is what you let us see through your videos.

Nonetheless, I have the feeling I gradually watched you turn into a fine and independent young woman 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

ma'am you are glowinggg! I've thought about being an au pair, but how did you tell your parents/loved ones that you wanted to do this? It seems like a great way to see the world but kinda scary too 😭

There are A LOTTTT of red flag families and we will NOT be ignoring them luv xx