What Makes a Man Suddenly Commit? | Matthew Hussey

I just got out of a relationship that was messed up in terms of the kind of culture

I may be a lady , but l really learnt a lot.

I hope everyone here find the one🙏

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This video is so true!
My bf had been single for four years. He want his next relationship to become the last one. In his single seasons, he dated some girls but never got into a relationship.
Until he met me. We have these four qualities in our relationship. We officially dating after a month you met. He give me his phone location, password. Show is love everyday.

I highly disagree with point on peacefulness, it gives off alpha male strategies forcing women to be submissive type of vibe. You should always be who you are and never act. Peaceful relation is two way street always!

Thanks so much❤

Since my divorce 8 years ago that casual hook up, friends with benefits relationships are all I seem to be running into. It's been a huge problem for me. So in the meam time I've been working on my internal happiness and focusing in on what I really need and want to be happy and I realized that what your talking about is what I've been trying to get to. I'm not openly searching for anyone right now, but I feel that if somebody comes along that is open for something deeper, I'm ready! Not perfect, not looking for perfect..., just more secure with me and how I can verbalize, communicate, and work together as a pair.

Thank you so much for the 🎁 gift 💝

I dating someone now, it’s been 7 months and he waiting on that “feeling” to overtake him before he commits 🤷🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️

What makes a man commit is often rooted in a deep emotional connection and alignment of values and life goals.

It can also be a 3rd person who is scared to be alone or lives in fears and base his decisions on fears ..all those negative thoughts that makes that person rush into it

Emotions can be chaos. Logic can ve cruel.
Women experience cruelty
Men experience chaos

Absolutely dead on,,,your delivery is extremely accurate,,,thank you!😎

That brings me to mind how bastards and fearful, easily scared men are.... All requirements. All reassurances they need... What a useless humans on earth

💕❤️💕 I can't thank you enough for this video and your guide. You've changed my life!!! Thank you!!!❤❤❤

"Why I'm falling to the same 🕳! Am I an idiot?" That what I said to myself when I watched the video " why he keep disappearing " over and over again. Nope, I'm tired now falling in love and be loved again. It sucks my life dry!! Now Matt tell me bec I do not have a experience about relationships. The only think that I learned about these toxic relationships helped me to believe that I fell into the same trap in the past and. I fear 😱 to do the same mistake again.

Thought he meant commit suicide

Can I ask a question? Is that passion of falling in intense love something related to younger people like 20s and up to 35 or so, and then 35 and over is when you become more cerebral and practical in your love choices? Just wondering if this is a thing as I notice in myself as being older, I refuse to fall for a guy just because he is hot as I am seeking a deeper mental compatiblity at the outset and not driven by animal lust

Forgive me, but this is not at all what I’ve found. Men are either traumatised by ‘mummy issues’ - ie they have a huge Ego but are wearing a ‘confidence mask’; OR they’ve been financially destroyed by their ex and don’t trust their new partner as a consequence - THAT’S why men are terrified to commit.

That moment when you realize you're doing all the right things just with the wrong people... <3

1. Having and sharing an exciting vision for what a relationship means - they say they share the vision and then move the goal post (I see this future with you just not right now...)
2. Showing vulnerability - they mimic it but don't actually reveal much and the little they do reveal terrifies you because it seems sociopathic...OR they demean/belittle/dismiss/invalidate
3. Communicating standards/boundaries - doesn't respect or honor them and manipulates their way around them
4. Bringing a peaceful energy - gaslights you to the point where your inner peace is replaced with confusion, anxiety, and remorse

Major red flag was how quickly they "moved on" from their previous partner. I found it alarming how cold they were towards them and knew it was only a matter of time before that coldness came my way...and it sure did. Blizzard. This person even went so far as to "warn" me in a "joking" way by stating outright "I'm arrogant, narcissistic, perfect, and I'm never wrong."

Also, they learned the language of healing work (they read books on it to improve manipulation NOT to heal) and that makes them extra dangerous.

Luckily I recognized the toxic traits and ended things after 3 months but I still caught myself wondering what I did wrong. Especially since there was no closure/conversation (they went into stonewalling/silent treatment after they made a mistake and couldn't admit it). All I can say is glad I only spent a few months of my time on them and if you see ANY of the dark pairings Matthew talks about don't doubt yourself. END IT NOW. So you can find someone who will respond to the above items appropriately. Refreshing.

Thank you so much. No 2 is big one ( for me). Not easy...

I want to hear about on line dating? How and when to meet ? There are some out here that need to hear this Thank you Matthew enjoy your videos but don't apply to me 😊

such an angel

Relationship still sucks 🤮

I actually hate our generation 😔

Omgosh Matthew you’re such a genius on the dopamine cycles. So real

Matt and Steve, thank you for this thought provoking content. I like the concepts and thoughts which were shared in the video. There is a depth, wisdom and different ways of thinking in looking at how we can be the person who we are looking for. Thank you Steven and Matt

LOVE.

Matthew: Are you married? Are you in a long term monogamous committed relationship? If the answer is no to either one, let me be the first to share my skepticism.

I fuckin love you Matthew. You communicate in such a good way, I love your videos. Keep up the good work! 👍🏽

Fascinating 👏 Matthew 🙂🥰 💐 ❤️ ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I am so grateful someone finally thought 🤔 of this needing to be explained , because even these men avoid acknowledging it ; men are avoiders mmmmmmmm-?

I think the world is just full of really jaded, hurt, broken people, and also jerks who just want to be players, and treat women like crap. If he won't commit it just means he's not worth your time. Move on!

Wisdom facts over feelings! Dopamine is mean ✅

My guy was always confusing. So i was trying not to react for few days but thn after few days i couldn’t control started getting angry. He just moved somewhere far away from me and he was also having hard time so am i. I was missing him so much i tired to understand him. But end of the day he came to home and say i got bored i really dont like talking with you because u will not Understand. He was always like that we have communication issues. But in the beginning it wasnt like that. When he found we have different views and perspective over things he stop talking i dont know what was his intentions with me. I tried to change cz i loved him so much but he didn’t wanted to put any effort. 2 days ago we had a fight he found someone and i was asking about. He got offended and said i told u ao many times i am bored with you there us nothing to talk with you why dont u get it and broke up with me. I dont know is that my mistake i tried to change. But whenever i ask for assurance he was always confused at the same time never really wanted to leave. This time he leaves me. I am so broken i loved him so much. My heart is aching.

I'm in a long term relationship but still love listening to Matthew's videos. His advice isn't only for dating but applies to human behavior and life in general. He's very wise!

Not caring about it makes them want it. Lol

What about if you been alone for so many years how can I move on .

Thank you Matthew. Very helpful video.

Thank you Matt!❤️💋

Is it weird that I'm a guy and I relate to so much of this? I stumbled upon your channel because I was going through a rough patch. Thanks so much for all the insights and thoughts.

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Thanks to you and your brother 😍

I’ve been listening to you for years Matt. I’m still single💋

Enjoy listening to you. Quite enlightening.

Women get dating coaches like Matthew Hussy. Men get dating coaches like Andrew Tate. 😔

Love your advice, it’s better to take care of ourselves and in the process attract someone who resonates with that energy.

Thank you Matthew, you have amazing advices and videos, thanks for all that you share 🙏✨♡🥰