Survival Mode: The Right Mindset to Get out of Depression | Ruth Koleva | TEDxAUBG

This is a great story. But her situation is not depression, or at least a very low form of depression. Her story is rather how I got out of a rut, how I rediscover my passion.

That was beautiful!
We all have to learn a lesson from that.

Was it a piece of advice??? It was like a bio story!!

This did not help … whatsoever

I dont have a fear of change, i dont sit around thinking of things that traumatised me i dont have flashbacks or anything . But it aeems like i could be in survival mode i have alot of the symptoms ...how do you know?

It's funny to see how people who doesn't have depression tell that it's a choise and condition, thas why i think psychology is the most flaw of the sciences. The mind/brain is to complex and individual with alot of variable's to be a unique or system of treatment. Everything that a professional of the area can do is follow a treatment base on a study base on multiple groups, and still not nails you're specific problem, must have to unlock the brain at yours fully potential to began to understand and make more precise decision otherwise is just guessing.

This was a lot of word vomit

Probably one of the worst Ted Talks I’ve ever listened to. I’m sorry but I got absolutely nothing from her

Incoherent

No )::)::):):):)):):):):):):):)

How does someone like that get a ted talk dang. So much rambling and trite nonsense. I’ve seen more wisdom at a coffee shop.

This isn't really a deep depression. this is not having depression, this is more of being depressed. Depression isn't solve by throwing all away and starting all over. That does not work.

That was not a depression.. but its okaaayyy .. you dont snap out of depression like that ..

I don’t think this is depression this is a single person with no responsibilities doing something different and resetting good for her but not the right title

You're absolutely right. When we're in the moment where we are extremely scared and insecure, "Am I a fraud? Have I faked everything?(for me these were what the voices inside my head told me)", we tend to tunnelvision hard on our failures. In those moments I recommend just stepping out of your comfort zone just like you did. When I was struggling I didn't even know these were signs of severe depression.Thank you so much for the speech!

It's easy to say "reset your life" or follow your passion but that isn't so simple when you've got responsibilities. House and car payments, kids tuitions, being the sole paycheck. Sorry everyone, I've got to reset and find my ideal life that'll make me feel fulfilled. It doesn't work like that.
They talk about "imposter syndrome". I've lived that the last 23 yrs bluffing my way through a so called career I had no training in. I was also a dad pretending to know anything about fatherhood since I never knew my own. TV dads were my role model for what a family was about. I never was good at making friends, still have no real friends. Other than my wife who is more like a roommate, and 2 kids (24m & 20f) who didn't even bother to call or yext or anything for fathers day yesterday, I have noone in this world.
Oh well, at 59 there aren't that many tedious years left trudging though life.

How do you find a balance between pressing the reset button and taking care of your family and honoring your financial obligation?

I can't find anything here I came to look for.

I think about euthanasia every day because of all the times I allowed people to harm me thinking I was stacking up invisible future rewards. Maybe it was required to let me survive those times, maybe not. I continue to allow people to harm me and am helpless. Being alive is not a desirable experience

Fall back in love again? 😅 Sadly I always hated my job, but I also don't know what else to do

Sometimes we need to go astray of our path to remember why we were following that path, I get that now, I hope I will be able to

Thanks, Ruth, this is a very good insight

Most people who deal with severe depression won't agree with her because what she's talking about is a very light form of it or is not depression at all. Despite all that, it is a good story for people who feel a little bit stucked.

That's a very bad ted talk. There is no cohesion in the speech. She talks loads of sentences without really saying anything. I'm sorry, but it wasn't helpful and I'd say it's a disservice to depressed people. It's a serious illness that shouldn't be discussed by unprepared people, who believe themselves to be experts, but have no real formal education on the topic.

Probably, but she just helped me with mine.

I love the idea. Thanks. I used to love art and traveling. Now I'm just curling in my bedroom and do nothing for years.. I forgot who I am. You're right I will search on some part time job. I need to break free from comfort zone

The word u know was mentioned appropriately 82 times in case u were wondering!

This has brought together all my thoughts I've recently been having.thank you.

Don’t waste your time watching this

What a terrible talk, this is rubbish. She is such a bogan

Not much substance here. The highlight is when she said "and then I took a one way trip to... somewhere." What was the big message: "guys, if you're depressed, you need to make a CHANGE." You don't say?

Thank you for sharing your story with us!

But when ur blushing it’s easy to get judged

THIS IS BRILLIANT!!! I discovered that this is how you kill depression instantly. I was hoping that she wrote a book on this topic but i couldn't find any. Millions of people are suffering from depression and this is the cure i'm telling you.

Very interesting. ✨

Lousy. And no, I won't give her grace, TED is supposed to be curated, that's why I watch it. This sucks. Didn't even finish it.

Too many filler words with very less content. Sorry didn’t enjoy it at all.

I totally Appreciate this talk, Very Insightful & Helpful for those of us who suffer , I don't even want to say the D word. Thank You for your kindness & courage in sharing.

Thank you. I needed this.

Dismissive avoidant attachment style . Like lil baby or Gucci mane. Positive view of self negative view of others.

Love you Ruth

Why this is the story of my life ... I've lost all inspiration in playing and composing music... I guess I have to make a change in my life but Im so afraid of the unknown..

I really loved this , she did so well 😊🌻

Fell into deep sadness and changed my life in order to feel happy again. This isn't depression.

came here looking for something to grab onto, found nothing

I read the comments here, the woman may has not presented some factual things and expertise but she simply shared her life story and what she learnt from it. Depression has many faces and one of them is what she showed and experienced. I only disagree with the advise for survival mode,, because if people have been abused shortly or lond time they go into survavial mode and live as another personality, different than themselves. Survival mode is a coping mechanism and also has its downs. What I am trying to say and leave here is simply let the woman shares her story, her feelings and experience, don`t ever disregards anyone`s life. You wouldn`t like that done to you? People who goes and have gone terrible things in life, deserve to be heard no matter how similar or different their story is.

This is exactly how I overcame my depression. I had been bedridden for about seven months during which time I lost about 10kg. One day my uncle offered me an assistant job with his training program and it was a traveling job. He took me across the country with him and seeing new places and different cultures and doing something for a greater cause snapped me right out of the depression. And after that stint I went back to my life and started over

I love how they be like: go to an entirely different place! Do something different!
But it's only for people who can afford it, like, literally.
I guess despite being poor before she's doing fine now.

I will make a change I will get out on my e-bike and live on it for a week on the streets like I used to do when I was homeless and think about my life