They’ve Pulled Away?? AVOID THIS MISTAKE

That was awesome. Ty

I really appreciate your video because it forces me to deeply thinking about both profound and sincere relationships.
Interesting perspective.
Thank you so much.
I've been learning the English language and the subject you are talking about is perfect for that.
Please keep going.
Take care.

This is brilliant! The rush of oxytocin with the new person, which was experienced after years of no intimacy, tends to overwhelm everything else and can become addictive. I think many of us have experienced this. This is why what you do to bring us back to reality and remind us of what is best for us is so important. Thank you for all you do! 🙏

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So basically she left a healthy relationship with a guy who loved her and was committed to her and went and fucked some random dude who was a player and was seeing multiple women and didn’t want to commit to her. Shocking 🙄 modern western women are hopeless.

It saddens me listening to this.

Great explanation.
Getting little complex when its really do nothing but keep options open, let him lead or not..... Focus on own life let best man win you over to engagement. Thats the only time to be exclusive, invest, have sex or fall in love reserve these forever aspects until a gent is sure about you as the only 1 for him and he ready to make it fir keeps. Otherwise whats the point attaching your heart to an dying limited relationship.

Know who you are and your worth. Never put yourself up 'on offer' to a man who has dozens of women waiting to be picked. More peace and no stress without such a man.

Seems to me like a case of Limerence.

Thank you MATTHEW!! XX

I just hate that this is even a pattern or “game” that is played. We like each other, why can’t that be enough? I like you, I support you, I see a future with you, and you like me, so why are you hanging me out to dry? I just can’t fathom that shit.

The person getting too much attention may also feel that it's not real; that anyone would get too much attention so it doesn't feel sincere.

Lost a good one to overcommitment and bad communication. It feels as though I’ve learned this already from though self reflection, but for some reason I stubbornly refused to acknowledge it. Thank you.

There are many other coaches but your videos and what you talk about is most relatable...at this point I needed your videos exactly

I totally screwed up my current relationship, it was love at first sight & her feelings were very strong as well. After a few months, I was still putting 100% in, telling her how amazing & beautiful she is on so on & she started giving less & less to the point where I said I missed the cute names she used to call me, her ‘love you’ pic messages and other bits. She’s backed off now & we’re on day 2 of her needing ‘space’… I’m guessing the ‘talk’ will be coming soon & I’ll be single again.
Moral of the story, give less to get more.

Thank you SO much for this. I've been doing these patterns non-stop in my life and didn't realize what was happening. This completely makes sense and thank you also for saying what to do when you start going into those patterns. I really have to take a step back

The dating scene is so horrible . Men usually go with women on benefits or has no ambition or self respect. Strange world we live. Hopefully this worldneeds to restart.

Why people nowadays so complicated. Haissst 😏🤭

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他做男人做到超过衰烂糟透坏恶狠毒辣
没有人会要的啦
我做男人远远好多

When people pull away it means we have reached the unavoidable end. Every one leave so I just let it happen.

In this moment, I can’t face what I’ve already done. I’ve already done the things that are the worst. Sigh…
Now I know…

I see myself here in inversed parts. Exactly what happened to me and the lady I was seeing.

I don't get it.... If you investing low amount and receive high amount... Whats the point of avoiding this girl?

😔😔😔

I'm seeing comments in the more independent mindset. While this is a good mindset to have, I don't think its a good one.

Reason why is because having "Leverage" to ask if a person is still willing to hang out with you or take things in a more serious direction, almost makes it seem like the other person never wanted to try to begin with.

I'm not saying waste your time, fellas. But I'm 24 and I've only had these situations happen to me so far. I think coming to a mutual conclusion that things just aren't gonna work is better closure.

I know nothing about relationships. Nor how to get in one but it seems like a lot of pre-emptive thinking and less communication. They could just be shy and don't know anything about...anything so talking to them is the most boring thing ever.

But to them they're having the time of their life...even though they seem distant. Just silently breaking hearts.

What's the point

Great video (as always). Thank you ❤
Please please please add a PayPal payment option, so I could buy the Momentum🙌🏻

Don't. Hold. Something. Or. Someone. Who. Does. Not. Want. You.

I totally agree. I got stuck in this loop. Part of it was that it was a cultural connection as well as a romantic connection and finally, we were effectively locked down during the pandemic… mix this with me being an empath with weak boundaries and her being very emotional immature if not borderline NPD. It wasn’t until when I tried to tell her that our arguing was having a negative impact on my daughter and her response was… “I don’t care”. That was it. She’s gone.

One of the best videos on the subject. I specialise in human behaviour and related subjects. I watched one video out of curiosity, and then more and more.
The problem with those principles is....a subject of our interest changes and often circumstances with the person. Though what you said is true, quite often people display different patterns of behaviour. Strong attraction, especially from both sides is often created by pheromones, and we should listen to them, as they give us much more information about another person, than just physical attraction.
I think the best principle is respect yourself and proceed with some caution.
On the other hand..a friend of mine 18 years ago met a man in the street, she knew him, but they did not have a lot of contact. They started to talk, they were both separated. She was inventing reasons to invite him..one thing led to another..but..he came for dinners and a “ desert”, not considering their contacts as a relationship. She did everything you advise against.
For nearly 3 years. As we were in the same social circles, the rest of us did not see any future for them..,,,
Well as ..part of the financial settlement with her husband, my friend had to sell the house. It was full of problems, and suddenly the house was sold, she had to move out, moved with a friend, that did not work out and..moved in with a man who even did not consider her as a girlfriend. That was 15 years ago. They are still together, bought a house and have been really happy for a long time. From my observations, my friend, by being stubborn, pursuing him, putting much more energy than he did, but created also a nice home and finally he appreciated it...so...is there really a clear way to happiness?😀

You videos have so much more wisdom. Maybe it is because I am older. It doesn't hurt as much when things don't work out. Been watching you for so long, Happy it finally makes sense.

You are magical!

If they pull away- match the energy of that. Don't chase, don't be pushy, don't dwell on it.
If they decide they miss you- it needs to be known that it's not only their decision to make or break things.

Long story short...don't fall for the player.

Oh!! Attention is NOT Intention. Yes Matthew, PREACH!!!!

Why would I want to try and join a club that doesn’t want me as a member?

Yes it’s time to step back
The universe has my back
😊thanks bye adios buddy

Am in uae but when this uk fellow Ugandan inboxed I though things would work iut but when we swapped pics he pulled out just one week i had fell for him buh i swear i have not texted him evesince though he likes my TikTok vedios😢 am forgetting him

💯 % truth

I am so single right now lol, I have been mistreated by men!!

Experiencing this now with who was previously a very close friend who I worked with. She was and still is quite unstable in her life with constant drug use, anxiety, and being in toxic & abusive relationships. I was constantly being dragged into her relationship problems, with me being accused of sleeping with her by her exes (when I wasn't).It become a very one-sided friendship, with me being genuinely concerned for her, but this wasn't being reciprocated. It got to the stage where I felt like i was basically an unpaid therapist to her, feeling as though she could call me whenever she felt like it, but that I couldn't do the same with her. She pulled away and became distant over a year ago and completely cut contact claiming it was due to her then boyfriend, then wanted to reconnect earlier this year. Things were good between us for a few months, but then it became the same pattern and a one-sided relationship again. She constantly needed validation of her lifestyle and partying. She recently became distant again, saying she has this pattern of getting close to men then detaching from them quickly. She's in a phase of online dating and casual sex. I'm not sure if deep down she had feelings for me and got scared? Even though she is 40, she seems emotionally immature.

For some reason, I got quite attached to her, as deep down she is a really genuine person, and on a personal level I cared for her a lot.

Time for me to cut the cord. Emotionally, it was a lot to go through, and it actually felt like a break-up the first time it happened, and then when it happened again it felt like another break-up. Not easy and pretty painful to be honest. Grateful I have other good friends in my life.

I made all the three mistakes 😅

Stressors in his life, financial issues, health issues, hard work and more. I am giving him space to process these things and hope he will come back to me with new energy

I agree that we should ask when we have the leverage to do so. The more time theu stay with you, the most valuable you become to their eyes. Issue is, it is hard to keep calm and wait for the right moment when you realize they are under-valuing you.

I disagree with the part that we should be quiet, go away and wait until he came back to tell him which are my standards and my thoughts about the things he made that makes me feel wrong.

I believe I rather prefer to be the woman who makes him feel uncomfortable and let him know her boundaries than the one who close her mouth and stay patient for his return.

In my experience, many times they came back because the other woman started to set boundaries too. So it is easier for them to go back with the one that have less demands than face the problem.

I were the quiet girl and yes, it works. He came back. But the price I paid was to feel angry with myself for being a coward that does not say what she thinks when the problem is there. This applies also in business, and the recommendation is to prepare yourself to speak about the issues and do not let "the elephant in the room" to stay and get bigger

She needs to let him go. Now if I found out my love interest had this with me, and he was interested in another woman, I would be hurt and let him go. You have to be ready to let them go. The texts are long from me but short from him. I must step back.

This recently happpened to me. He initiated first and gave a lof of effort and time. However, as time passed by, I kept giving more and he kept giving less. I became controlling and possessive. In the end, I became toxic and he left for another woman. 😅

😂no he was never there at all😂😅😊 he was just playing mind games😅 it is his favorite trick😂🎉😊

As always, spot on highly valuable advice

so so good. I used to watch you years ago, and I could sort of tell you were sort of, I don't know how to explain it, but you seemed just different, it didn't resonate. Maybe because you were so young..i don't know, but NOW I just love how deep your assessments go. it's BEYOND dating, it's about self-examination, personal development...and then the bonus is the relationship, it's like love from the inside out. Holistic. LOVE IT and LOVE who you have become. Thank you and congrats on the engagement Matthew.

I was in a almost 4 year relationship & the first year I was everything then she started pulling away. All I was wanting was more of everything. I was head over heels for her BUT she started pulling away & I kept begging & doing more to show her she was my everything. The harder I tried the more she pulled away... My heart is 💔. This should not be happening at our age.