How to Make HARD Choices: Relationships, Career, and Values | Being Well

Decision, don't stay in an abusive relationship. Learn what is abuse and when you are being abused. Get help. Don't stay in an abusive relationship because someone thinks you aren't trying hard enough, that your religion says you should stay, that shame is a reason or that you want to please your parents. You do not have to be a married person to live a happy life. Learn about yourself as much as you can to the bone before you marry. It's a jungle once the years add up. Keep pruning your mind. Learn Stay Curious. Great podcast otherwise. I will be sending to my young adult children.

My decisions tend to move towards safety and then rebelling against the resulting construction. Probably need to listen to some prior videos

Me at 35, nervous calculating those number.

Dr. Rick Hanson is one of my inspirations.....

As always, it was a good decision to listen to this podcast. I was a bit reluctant at first to take the time, but came down on the side of I had some puttering to do and in my experience, Forrest and Mr. Hanson (aka The Tree) are an abundant source of kernels of truth, well presented and enjoyable.

I would love to learn more about the prevention disposition. Dr. Rick Hanson mentioned that this type could benefit from moving more toward the promotion side - does he have any recommendations on how one might do so? I am, as he calls it, a "cautious turtle" and would benefit from some tips on how to best navigate this. Simply trying to set more goals can be challenging when the rewards don't feel as rewarding by the nature of this type. Thanks! Great episode!

I just saw a quote from Rick about the brain is velcro and Teflon when sorting through negative and positive experiences. Heheh so cool, it was in a training video for case managers.

For the nepo babies it is easy to fill ppls brains w/ trash psychology. pls do not recommend this channel to me in my feed.
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Thanks.. I try not to make big decisions if I'm not in a good headspace

“It’s between me and God, baby.” Cute 😂 It’s so good to see you and your dad covering this great topic.
Thank, you!🙏 ❤

You guys are like the two older brothers I never had. Thanks for all you do

At the very end the concept of accepting the reality of the path not taken came up, and this has paralyzed me many times. Making a choice or decision that eliminates one choice and how to come to terms with that…..I wish this had been discussed, please consider adding material to help with this.

The reverse engineering ideas were so useful, thank you! 🙂

I am adult diagnosed ADHD, chronically indecisive, CPSTD, unaccredited bible school degree as a queer atheist. Decisions are HARD. SO SO SO HARD.

"Rational" decision making isn't always fully reasoned. It can be very influenced by emotions (unwittingly to the person). Much more left brained and missing out on the benefit, well roundedness and the emotional processing and regulation of the R side.

Too often when people talk about the rational thinking vs intuitive thinking...they think the rational is more "factual".
Many people on the autism spectrum, work linearly, rationally, and data based...yet, they are often having powerful emotional influences that they are wholly cut off from. They do not factor this into their assessment of their decisions & falsely believe that their decision making was based on rational reasoning. People not on the spectrum (who are more left brained) tend to be this way too.

We have to be carful to not confuse rational, with better judgement or reasoning. Intuition can be a deeper knowing, assessing, incorporating of the information gathered.
Of course there is false intuition, those can be hunches based on fear or other distorting filters.

I might've misheard too...but I thought forest said that those who are intuitive are less spontaneous. Can you please site the source?
This has not been my personal experience, whatsoever. It is more often the ones who see themselves as "logical" (as their main identity) who overthink, analyze, and get stuck. They struggle with spontaneity, as if more thought processes can mitigate risk, and all the unknowns. It can't.