How Your Trauma Explains Your Coping Mechanisms

I'll never be a victim again so I'll beat everyone to the punch. I dabble in all mentioned but self-abuse is a major one for me.

Not only do I abuse myself so others can't, I do so as to not abuse others. I have a lot of rage and hatred, eventually those will turn to deep despair.

The only peace I will have is the moment I draw my last breath. I will never be happy, but I will endure. As all I do is survive.

What I’m the omori

this whole video describes me 🤕

Well 4/7 ain’t bad :)

As somone who ysed to have anger issues, apathy does wonders

The last one is normal for me ive evolved i dont show any emotion in front of family anymore and i dont burst out ether 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yeah I know I have some of these problems. But I'm a little to scared to look inward on myself at least for now

I got a bingo

i see myself in 1,2,3,4 and 7 😊

More i watch the video of this channel more sad i get
Edit: cause i check every box of like most video

real

Growing up in a abusive household really sucks when you’re an adult, I’m 21 and still struggling to connect with people, I’m having a lot of difficulties to open up to people and have trust issues, I’m currently living alone and would sometimes prefer that way, I would just stay inside and do nothing all day and just stay on my phone and smoke a lot of cigarettes, I don’t know if that’s my way of coping or something, I just want to put my thoughts out

All of these...👁👄👁

Brooo I relate to all the points whyyyy 😢😢

HEY , GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY , I CAN RELATE TO THIS TOPIC, I ALWAYS HAVE BEEN ALONG, IT'S HARD FOR ME TO TRUST, SOMETIMES. PLEASE HAVE A BLESSED DAY. INTELL LATER ON MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY. TEE 🙏💯🙏💙💪👻

the emotional deprivation one and emotional inhabitation one where on the spot i swear i didn't even knew these things existed i never know how to feel so when im in curtain situations where i know i should be said and i know i wanna cry i just sit there and question myself like "why cant i cry" or "i wanna cry but i cant" or even "what am i supposed to feel like in this moment?"

You know every one of these videos I see the more concerned I get about how bad the childhood I thought was normal was

What would utter apathy be

Rough

The only ones that don't apply to me are abuse/exploitation and abandonment

bruh

Imagine not being able to trust anyone. I dont need to, bcs I cant trust anyone.
Better hide than deal with the problems and have hard talk, huh

Number 7 definitely me

Dear god too many of these sound like me

Anyone else relate to all of them at any degree? Or only 1 not? Just me,

Yes baby! Strike! 7 in a row!

Please, stop being GODDAMN right, like a little too right

God loves you

LMAO Nobody wants to talk to me BECAUSE I have these problems. 😂😢

All of this comes down to how you react to others.

And remember, no one ACTUALLY cares. They say they do, and they might for a while until they get bored.

Dealing with things internally and figuring it out on your own is the only way to deal with mental health problems. External sources won't be there forever and you need to heal yourself.

I have about like 4 of these

Is it bad that I can relate to 1,2,3,4 and 7 💀

You mentioning distrust in others is actually really accurate. I’m extremely paranoid about people I’m not incredibly close with. If it isn’t family and only family in my house, it isn’t home anymore. I stop acting like the king of my own castle and I instead act like I’m just visiting. Hell, sometimes I even grow suspicious of people who drive behind me at night. I’m also paranoid about my tools, because I grew up with knives, axes, and guns around, and I’m familiar with how they fail. So I get paranoid about how the tools I have will fail me

is it bad if you relate close to all of these......?

I lean towards psychopathic/sociopathic tendencies as coping mechanism for my severe PTSD i completely turn off emotions and detach myself, its easier to see those other more successfull people or people other than those i do care about as objects, its less personal for me - then it all becomes a joke, a mockery, a game with stacked deck... its still better than it was for me during PTSD when I cried and lashed out at those close to me due to my own failures.

I feel very unworthy all of the time and i am very apologetic. I try very hard on my grades but theyve been slipping. I just dont onow what to do i can get a therapist or counciler cause when someone i trusted tryed to tell me of a good one my mom just said "no" and "your fine"
But im not fine
Fine is a false word
Simply a word used when someone is NOT FINE.
im not fine i need help

And also yea everyone depends on me like i can hold all of their issues im just a nice person and i dont mind people venting to me
When my gf broke up with me i didnt mind because she trash talks my best friend who has been the only one that has gone through EVERYTHING with me
All i want is approval
So im a people pleaser
And i tend to come off as bipolar or 2 faced because pf that. I tend to go from one side of the convo to the other and then back instead of agreeing with the side i agree with

My mom says i spend too much time of the internet but its the one place i feel i can be partially me the one place i feel partially accepted
Like school is my way to get away from my parents but then. Theres people at school i want to run away from too
Ive been taught my entire life that i acted as the victim. But was i truly acting is the question. Ive throught of running away so many times
I've given up on trying to express my emotions I burst out alot

So confused. My childhood was fairly normal and yet I fit like half of these.

either i actually kinda show all these behaviours or im just overthinking and playing the victim

All of them

Ah, the uncomfortable moment when a video pull the blindfold in your eyes and see you really have more problems that you think you have a prior

Somehow this video sums up my existence, not sure if i should be worried?

Same

The last two are me. Slowly realizing it and trying to change my habits. But it's hard. I remember telling my best friend that I'm like a sponge. I would slightly change how I act around certain people back then because I wanted to be accepted. This was in 8th and 9th grade. But ay the same time I was a loner because I didn't want to get attached to people. I moved to another city when I was 12 and was told we would only be there for a few years. I remember thinking that once I moved back to my hometown things would be the same as before. Had to learn that the hard way and it just made me more self-reserved. But now that I'm an adult and I have begun to see what is good and what osmt so good for me. Still learning, but I would say I'm much better than I was before

im like 3 and 7

i always had a spoiled sister and a single mom i always picked to take care of myself so my mom wouldent be over welmed and i always just drift away trying too make sure others needs are met before my own i always thought that if i take less others will get what they deserve and what i deserve was nothing i always thought that i was worth less to others becasue they did more they were better at everything i did sports my sisters are pros and best on their teams. art my big sister won a small competition in my town i was always in their shadow so i just picked to turtle myself and pick others before me i always tried and was never enough i always help yet never ask im scared of being a burden i know this is long and no one will read but i just wanted to tell anyone who is willing to read

I now realize I need help..

thank you.
I really did needed this so I was aware before it was to late and live with it for the rest of my life

thanks for everything again

i teared up watching this..idk probaly becuz i relate to most of these

Holy balls. It clicked when they said emotional deprivation and that coping is trying to be stoic and strong not wanting to ask for help or show weaknesses. For a long time even still I hate how I have this nagging sense that once I prove to no longer be of use to someone I will just be left behind or forgotten.

It’s really interesting how much trauma one can accumulate when being exposed to polar opposite environments throughout developing years. My parents were young and split before I was born so I grew up being tossed between parents and family members constantly. My mother was/is very overprotective because of the extensive abuse she suffered as a child and wanting to shield me from that.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, my part-time father was completely hands off whenever he had me, and like the friends he hung out with, left myself and other children vulnerable to abuse from older children that had already been abused due to their parents’ extensive neglect.

I have both been spoiled and neglected. I feel entitled to nothing, for many years even my own mental health and happiness. By separating myself from family, I’ve finally discovered who I am now and who I want to become.

I love this channel for how much it educates me about myself, especially when the people in our lives are not capable of validating our feelings, let alone traumas.