Escaping Depletion: The Unhealthy Quest for Completion

Escaping Depletion: The Unhealthy Quest for Completion

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Check out this clip from my Podcast/mini series: Betrayed But Not Broken - All Episodes now Available (free healing betrayal workbook included in episode 3 desceription)
When we first gain initial strong attraction to someone, we tend to gravitate and attach to traits we witness in them that are a bit depleated within ourselves. Such as confidence, compassion, or witty humor. These qualities are very desirable to us right away, because they are pieces of us we have always desired to possess and really wished we had more of internally. They are so captivating in others because we have likely dreamed most of our lives of behaving in some of the ways we see this wonderful amazing person behaving so naturally. They are like puzzle pieces we seemed to be missing and they just snap right in perfectly, creating the bigger more complete picture. Or to put it another way, they have the water to fill the empty parts of our cup. These traits make up what is referred to by Relationship Coach, therapist, & Creator of Integrated Attachment Theory, Thais Gibson as your "golden shadow."Well. If you have been stumbling through a desert for the better part of your life, maybe hitting lots of snags along the journey, spilling your canteen, sharing your canteen with those who only drank, but never poured in, and you have been there dragging along, dehydrated for many days and nights, you will reach a breaking point where it feels like if you don't put some water, any water, in that canteen soon so you can get a drink you may meet the end of your days very swiftly.

If you weren't crawling across a scorching desert with an empty canteen, and it was just a regular old day in your life, and someone came up to you with a smelly weird canteen of water and offered it to you, you'd likely turn up your nose and decline it. However, when you are depleted within your canteen and so excessively desperate to fill your canteen by any means necessary, you are going to tend to overlook more that could be wrong with the water being offered to you because you are dying for water! Even if that water could have poison in it, it is going to be really hard to pass over that drink.
Check out the full episode linked in this short to find out how you can make sure you are not operating with an empty canteen in a scorching desert, willing to accept just any water that comes along and offers itself to you.

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#quench_your_thirst #thirsty #golden_shadow_work #Why_we_fall_for_those_who_complete_us #you_complete_me #attachment_styles #attachment_theory #fearful_avoidant_attachment #anxious_preoccupied_attachment_style #dismissive_avoidant #psychology #mental_health #self_love #build_up_self_esteem #i_am_whole_and_complete #spongebob #spongebob_squarepants #thais_gibson #personal_development_school #poisoned_waters

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