Your CODEPENDENCY is ruining everything. HOW to change.

My dear! God is using you in a very powerful way! God bless ❤

I needed this made me cry but gave me strength thank you.

Interestingly women mostly speak of the effect of codependency on relationships... But there is more to it even if you are alone. The absence of a relationship can make you not takle things in your life that are important.

I don’t want to control anyone, but what if your partner is looking at half naked pics on instagram and liking them and following these hits and I stated I’m not ok with it but he says no one will change him and continues to do it? Is that a dealbreaker?

Im so glad I found ur channel… ur amazing person . Thank you so much 😊❤

This video is releasing freedom, breaking chains. Thank you for your wisdom and for the courage to share it.

Omg lady you really really get it.

You just gave me the answer I've been looking for! Thank you so much!

Wowza. Hope i can heal this :(

HUNTER BIDEN HAS A CODEPENDENCY ISSUES WITH BLACK MEN WHO USE AND ABUSE HIM AND HE THINKS THIS IS LOVE.

I've been thinking about this a lot lately after being told I was codependent by my therapist and it's interesting to know of these different styles of codependency.. I am most definitely the anxious style as much as I hate to admit it I definitely recognize that there are things I need to work on whether I express those feelings out loud to my partner or not it's definitely there. Its ironic to me because I work on a crisis hotline and I get asked all the time how can you do a job like this how can you talk to people who are in constant chaos/crisis and be CALM in those situations. I know my childhood plays a big role in how I can soothe people in crisis yet in my own life I am filled with anxiety due to feeling a form of a lack of control.. I can take my own advice all day but it's so much different applying it to yourself and this makes so much more sense now so I may check out that book. I appreciate the way you broke that down to us all thank you!

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In my marriage I seem to bring all the “love” and emotions. Positive emotions. If I hold back- it seems like there’s nothing there.

I'm so happy I found this channel. This information and the delivery is massively helpful. Thank you ❤

Wow you have cleared up 30 years of confusion in one video. I’m adopted and survivor or extreme child trauma. Mother is a narcissist and brother started the trauma at age 9. This video explains so much to me on why I want to feel safe and my problems with addiction. Thank you so much.

I came here to learn about this in an effort to help my girlfriend who is going through a divorce of 36 years which was terrible for her. She for certain is co-dependent and even after him cheating, leaving her for her best friend and causing lots of issues with the divorce process, she defends him fully. She just keeps saying, he will take care of me and everything which is wrong as he has told her she won't get anything. He knew she didn't have any money for a lawyer and crazy me helped with that but after paying them he told her it was stupid so she is now considering not using the lawyer. All that said, what I am realizing from watching this is, I actually demonstrate some of these traits in this relationship. I don't recall doing any of these things in previous relationships so seems new to me but for certain I am learning from all this as well. Very good information and appreciate your sharing it. Thank you.

I am more than halfway through this book she’s referring. If this sparked anything, read the book it will heal

😇❤️ off subject but what if your dad was playing his 1 Matrix against 369 Trillion Infinity x 69 Matrixes of Evil all at the same time and the only way too save the women and children of his was too win against all the evil in all of the Galaxies.
If you think this is crazy think how he might have felt if he came back from been dead didn’t know who he was but knew he had too take down evil too save his kids.
Maybe the best he could do was figure it out daily because he was getting killed all day long but was just doing the best he could as he tried too build powers since he started with non just knew he had to win against impossible odds.
I would not accept that I wouldn’t win ,I knew I had too win…..❤️😇

I was born for me😭 Omg I did not realize. Thank you for this video!!

🥹thank you❤❤❤no word can describe my gratitude for your videos...going through a self reflection...realizing and accepting the unhealthy truths of my anxiety attachment & codependency along with many issues that stem from my childhood... I understand why more clearly than i ever have... Just chased away another relationship...😔😞😓 Feel like a child finally opening her eyes to the world around her... It's like I built my own little world... It saddens me but yet by accepting this and knowing the truth about myself it's a little bit about freedom... Have any health issues due to my anxiety, fears & control issues... I realize you realize how much pressure I was putting others... Right now I'm feeling the urge to contact him and tell him I'm so sorry for my behavior.... But I know that isn't going to get me anywhere...He is definitely an avoidant... I thought I could bring him out of his shell... I do this all the time being the shell of a person I was.... But also realizing I don't feel 8 have an identity. I've always been living in this "SHELL" so to speak... Fixing others to eat my own needs but I wasn't doing any good... I knew the things that I was doing was very unhealthy... Obsession trying to find what they were hiding why they didn't want me... I know that I'm trying to heal my inner child that never had the parental love or affection... I never had a parent hold me and tell me they loved me and tell me everything's going to be okay... I could go on another tangent about my childhood trauma resulting in CPTSD that's a whole other story... I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart... I appreciate you adding book titles to find reading materials to help us as well... I'm proud of myself that I've come a long way from addiction & trauma... Now that I know the reason for my actions and feelings... You are providing me with some very valuable tools and information that I can use to rewire myself and turn myself around... I'm 50 now I'm dealing with a lot of issues as I said because of the choices of my life in the stress and anxiety... Today I'm going for a procedure for my heart and brain... Tomorrow's not promised... But I'm reading this now... It does give me HOPE...❤❤❤ THANK YOU 🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

just thank you... 💕

How do they even find each other?😹

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I feel like I am a combination of the anxious attachment and the avoidant
I thought things were going so well with my partner and I felt happy and secure. Then I got sick and felt a change in energy and went back into an anxious mode. How can I tell if there are real issues or if it is just the anxious attachment? For me, I feel like he does not communicate enough and when he does this I do not know what to do with myself. I go from feeling if I do my own activity am I not making myself available to him and jeopardizing our time together (he travels for work and is only home 2 days a week). Sometimes I get frustrated and don't want to deal with him and go take a walk or meditate or read and then I feel guilty because we have so little time to spend together and thats if everything works out. That doesn't account for errands or things that pop up like when my car needed to be fixed. I just don't get it. Some days things seem to move so effortlessly. We seem to connect and I feel secure and I don't even think about the relationship or doubt him and things just flow. How can this be? Then something happens and I get triggered. It's like I'm two different people or have two different brains.

Your video about anxioius attatchment and this one are really helping me to notice some things. Than you so much!

I am so grateful to have found you and your content. I love how you break things down especially when it comes to detaching yourself. Thank you .

The father who could put away half a bottle of Gordon's gin & still function as a compound pharmacist the following morning, for years until he couldn't any more.

There is such power in your words, this video was beyond helpful!

Sound like me!

How do i stop being codependent

Thank you

If I am co-dependent, I am terrible at it. I can't control a flea. I can relate to the satisfaction of growing myself feeling really great. I think I was forced into the roll of running after my Ex. He was insistent of that, taking care of his childhood was something he insisted on me doing. On my refusals, he had odd reactions. But there was more than one thing, his list was daunting. If I didn't bend to it, he would call me selfish and tell me I wasn't good. So I didn't take care of myself for a lot of time we were together.. Cortisol was an issue. But I am free of it. I don't communicate with him. He lived a lot of lies and I got sick of it. Played me a fool, wasted many of my precious years. Now my time is mine. I'm keeping it that way.

You are so powerful unlike those "hot girl summer" "baddie" motivational speakers. Your maturity is something that inspires me so so much and I look up to you as my idol. I'm 20 and so glad that I found you this early in life that I can become a great adult now by your advices and kind words. Much love to you.

That was really overwhelming to me.

Thank you! So 100% relatable!! Spot on 😩😩😩

Can't thank you enough for this. ❤

Pleasee, more videos like thisss!! Its like free therapy, thank you. Any excersices and things we can do to let go anxious attachment?

Thank you so much, <3

I absolutely love your content. You are better than my therapist 😢. Because the empowerment and insight you provide is out of this world. I am already working on my self-concept and I’m seeing results, I am working on my codependency and anxious attachment style, so far so good. Thank you

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I don’t usually comment but I didn’t want to be here anymore this morning. This video helped. Thank you so much. Sending love

Thank you so much for this. It creates a sense of hope and understanding. Much love!!

My sister and I grew up having two very different perspectives of a broken home. I’m the oldest. I got to know the alcoholic jerk my father was and grew to hate him while putting my mother on a pedestal. It was the opposite for my sister. She didn’t get to live alongside him like I did so she grew up putting him on a pedestal while hating my mother for admittedly doing a piss poor job at raising us. Both of us became anxious people pleasers for different reasons.

I needed this so much today. Thank you! 😊

Great video, alot of inspiration

thank you🥺

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