A 3-Step Approach To Help Heal Attachment Wounds - with Frank Anderson, MD

Very helpful. Thank you.

This is good - however, BIPOC peoples in particular have cultural forces that have impinged their childhood experiences. It's not just about their family of origin, but also the culture which has devalued and misunderstood their thoughts, needs, feelings, and identities, and overall a culture which devalues compassion, common humanity and human dignity. What happens is not 'release and transformation' as Dr. Anderson suggests, but internalization and enactment. The patient can also see their struggles as linked to the broader struggles in the culture for validation, respect, compassion, inclusion, etc. So that as violence is being enacted, they can link from their core knowledge about how vulnerability is impacted to build resilience, relatedness, and insight in the process of social change.

beautiful and very helpful, thank you!!!

I already did the 3 ways and they really helped me. But now what? I'm facing the struggle of disorganized, a little anxious and an avoidant attachment style? I see no techniques for the attachment styles specifically. This is actually more inner child healing.

I subscribed to get ideas for my healing work. I hope you can do more about healing poor attachment styles.

Wow, sounds great. Thanks

Love Dr Anderson's vibe

This is wonderful. Thank you!

I don't understand is the actual what is being done to improve

Thanks very much!

Perhaps too simplified for complex trauma

i dont belive the self can heal attachment wounds. others play a role in caring for us before we can care for ourselves. im speaking from personal experience. THE SELF is the problem....we never had anyone but ourselves.

This was helpful and explained in a easy way to grasp. Thank you.

Why not just use the maximum treatment effect size 3-pillars method described by Dres. Brown & Elliott in "Attachment disturbances in adults - Treatment for comprehensive repair" (2016)?

Transcript would be great to have!

I can’t actually remember I was to young

She feels empty and alone atm ❤

I need this process right now in my life more that I could ever imagine.

This work transforms lives. I need to do this.

I got emotional just listening to this 🥲 Just left another narcissistic relationship and decided it was time to get to the root cause of my attraction to these terrible people.

I discovered my root issue is attachment trauma. This video hit home. Going to keep researching and seeking healing and help from the Lord. Can’t do these types of relationships in any way shape or form again. I refuse!! I know it starts with first loving myself ❤ Thank you for this info.

Short and sweet. And very very helpful <3 Thank you!

These videos are great! Thank you. (Also, someone needs to coach these amazing presenters on where to place the video recorder (probably his phone). Video needs to be from above the man's head rather than up the nostrils...)

Great. Thank you so much.

This is effective.

somehow i stop at the part where i need to give love to my younger self

So true❤

Does it matter if the story the younger part is holding is false or inaccurate?

The problem is that I don’t know much from my childhood… its so blurry… I remember good but also less good times.

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We love Frank 💕

So useful . Thank you

"Im throwing it in the LAVA! - OK fine" that made me LOL 😂

How to lead ourselves to love the young selves? What to do with resistance? Is there a way to promote it?

Seems like by heading entirely inwards, the middle step leads into the "need to be loved to learn to love yourself" vs. "need to learn to love yourself before others will love you" catch-22

Hello
I am curious how this works of abandonment was at age 1 by parents then after a year given back to parents and abandoned by care giver?
How do I release? ❤❤
Thank you for you and your knowledge 🙏

At the beginning of last year (13th February, 2023),
the man whom I revered as my best friend,
abandoned and betrayed me.

In an instant, just like that, out of the blue...
He discarded and replaced me.

I guess it wasn't real friendship.

I'd like to say it must have been love...

But really, it must have been a trauma bond.

It's been over a year,
and I'm still healing...

REMINDER TO SELF:

Life/LOVE
is trying so hard, doing its very best,
to wake you up, out of the prison cell...
That you don’t even realize you're in!

AND...

ANOTHER REMINDER:

Subconsciously, an avoidant
feels reassured and in control,
by sensing that the anxiously-attached
is UNLIKELY to leave them,
even if they give (very!) little!

And they would be ABSOLUTELY right!

The anxious partner continues to stay
and tolerate being treated with either indifference,
or kept in a grey area, where the relationship is undefined.

Dismissive avoidants may engineer romantic pseudo-relationships in their lives
that enable them go a long time without having to deal with the realities of real daily intimacy, conflict resolution, and the (seemingly dangerous) feelings of dependency.
This pattern only entrenches their habits and prevents them from learning vital relationship skills.

You feel you’re in a “relationship” but in real life,
they are not physically present in times of sickness,
attending events by your side, or even doing mundane chores...
The illusion of intimacy is created.
And that's all it really ever is: an illusion!

This video made me cry.

What if you don't remember being a child?

This was fantastic! Thank you. Made so much sense out of bits and pieces I’ve learned over the years in this short video! <3

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I think it was really important that you made the distinction between having the inner child share a feeling and where it is in the body versus a cognitive thought