Is marriage dying? | Richard Reeves

What do you think the role of marriage should be in today's society?

Is dead already.

Where has the hour+ video gone??

2023, life is so dynamic that even dating wastes time. Mariage stuck the development of people when they need to dedicate time and resources to satisfy another one and even kids. Any developed society decreases the number of marriages and kids numbers. And I think it's the path of evolution today.

Men are not interested in entering contract where the other party is incentivised to break.

I don’t believe marriage is dying; marriage is for only those who believe. Let the others do what they will.

I hope so!

No mention of family court? Useless.

People get married to witness each other's lives, have a family with two parents, have a life partner and it is a Holy Institution. Marriage was never created on economics at all. It was created by God.
God designed marriage to meet our need for companionship and to provide a picture of our relationship with Him. You cannot be a mentally weak person and stay married.

Yes, please, liberals, do not procreate. Thanks.

40 years ago houses costed less, government provided more help and things were more affordable. Life was also simpler (because of less technology and ways to spend time). Nowadays if you don't have enough money or make enough money you cannot afford to have kids. And in USA this is the predominant way women date which is terrible... Europe has similar reasons too. Mostly around the fact that things cost too much, especially houses.

It's a status thing in my opinion. It's absurd how expensive most weddings are today. Really turns me off on the idea of it.

From my perspective as a man, marriage is just sticking my neck out. I would only do a LTR if I found the right lady.

Women freed themselves from their husbands and they married the government

Maybe it was too awkward to say out loud so I'll just put it out here: While women traditionally relied on a husband for economic security, a man relied on a wife for sexual availability - so he wouldn't have to be 'hunting' for a new partner every night. The idea of children comes later, not while seeking a marriage partner. And traditionally, men offer the promise of romance and security while women offer the promise of sex and nurturing. Over time, most couples find that husbands are unable to maintain that romantic promise and wives are unable to maintain being an exciting sexual partner. That's when they switch to their secondary longer term roles of security and nurturing, which also becomes a more suitable environment for raising children.

Ok so women want someone with 100K salary and help in household work. Well that's very convenient!!!

If marriage dies, society dies. Promiscuity will destroy society.

The rich use surrogates, have nannies, and send their kids to boarding schools. The reason why the rich don't get divorced is because the woman is not playing the role of the mother. The woman is just pretending to mother the children to keep up appearances.

Yes marriage is dying.

Economically successful -> establish themselves, capstone, signal lead to a ceremony 🎑.
Egalitarianism, shared commitment

Covenantal companion. Shotgun wedding 💍

Friendship is not a consolation prize, it's a prerequisite. My late wife of 22 years was my best friend, and that's why our marriage was good.

The sole reasons behind people don't want to get married nowadays is -

1 . Acceptance. Mutual understanding plays a vital role in family life . People get married they aren't ready to accept each other in physical and emotional way. somewhere we've forgotten the fact that everyone is different from each . Maybe , they don't have the qualities that you think that they must have

2 . Expectations, it is the main cause of behind your all worries . know each very well and live joyously

3. Equanimity, Who wouldn't want to be happy and contentment all time ? Everyone wants right ! .t
That's our ultimate goal as well. If you are leading a happy and joyous life and you never wish and want that somebody would come and ruin all this.
People think like What if they loose their Equanimity or Serenity by the person whom with are going married to ? Will they stolen their peace that they have had .

4. Nowadays leading family life is an hassle process in terms of financial wise. You need to have adequate money to support your family . Excessive rate of stationary all other stufff .....

I would say every authorities plays a role to be happen like this.

Human culture, as we know it, is dying. The scientific/industrial narrative we have followed for generations has dismantled any sense of community we may once have had, marriage along with it. What they have titled "progress" is nothing more than the destruction of beauty and genuine human nature.

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Marriage seems to be the only way men can, to a degree, be held accountable for his responsibility to support the mother of his children in rasing their children. Most men act like is only the woman’s responsibility to raise their children and feel like they can just walk out of the kid’s lives with their hands clean. It isn’t normal nor healthy for so many women to have to raise their kids single and without the support of a partner.

I do not know where to start.
Your ignorance is encyclopedic.

I have had zero interest in Marriage all my life......has zero benefits for a Man.
Exit from marriage for Women is a financial decision...we always lose. No thanx

Captalism is killing Marriage, family & Life. This break neck competition within Human race will end everything in this world.
BCS machine producing mass product & capitalism making it costlier will only lead to misery of life

How stupid this speech is, this so called expert omg😂😂

Men, hold the line.

Absolute trust and absolute respect are essential to any relationship.
Unfortunately most American women are taught by society to neither trust nor respect men. Sad.

Los latinos conservadores nos vamos a quedar viendo como joden la bse de su sociedad. La dura realidad es que hombres y mujeres no son iguales. Imaginense uns mujer recien a los 30 pensando en casarce y tener hijos, literalmente ya no le queds tiempo, todo lo tendra que hacer de volada. Y a eso sumarle el tema del dinero, desde que las mujeres entraron en la fuerza laboral han destruido el valor de la mano de obra en varios sectores. En fin que los sueños igualitarios tienen una cuota bien alta.

No, I dont believe marriage is dying. As a matter of fact, manual communication is dying and replace with high technology communication. The best is, do self-control between couple. In the morning before go to office, turn off your cellular phone or laptop. Use the cellular and laptop only during office hours. Turn off again your cellular and laptop during lunch. And turn off your cellular and laptop when you get home. Use your family quality time.

If some men( narendra sinha) get married by their father’s choice they get upset,they fight,day ,night ,making married women (wife) life impossible ,they gaslight their wife ,but are caring , kind for other women,just because they are fair.what did women(wife)do to deserve this 😢

It's hilarious women are twice as likely to exit the marriage than men are. I would like to understand the rationale. Is it that women are less likely to be interested in monogamy? I would venture to say that it's not because it's the mans fault in the majority of these instances. I also think it's funny to say that somehow there's been more equality in recent years in marriage. The idea that marriage was an economic trap for a woman prior to the women's rights movement rings dull when you realize that the man was economically also tied to the family and not just Fancy free on with his own money. He also had to provide for the woman in retirement and for the kids to pay for college etc. The woman stayed at home had to raise kids that was her job in this instance. The man went out worked and provided for his family. In the scenario that there was a divorce the man still had to pay alimony he wasn't free from those chains. This is often the case even now even if the woman is financially independent. In recent years in order to be a middle-income family two incomes are required in to raise a family. often times the majority of one income is for daycare. Do the children benefit from this arrangement. Does the family benefit from this arrangement. Based on the state of the world marriage and children is such an antiquated concept. We don't need families and we don't need more children. Marriage is not for humans it's for the birds

My question is, why do we need a social declaration for personal relationships?

Never forget that marriage is a financial arrangement and nothing more. Don't believe me? Let your wife go out and f#@k a dozen people while you get a education and work full time to support your family. Then, file for a divorce and watch your life savings disappear like a fart in the wind because the only thing that matters is who made more money, not who kept their end of the bargain and who was horizontal under a stranger or ten. Marriage is a financial arrangement and nothing more.

Did this man said women filing for divorce because they no longer bound by economics is a huge success for humanity ? It's insane. Society is build on families, at least healthy one, what feminism has done us taken something that was put on the table as an option to having no options for women, they have to work now. This is insane. It's good to have option to work if that's what you want, but now there's none. That leads to decline of family structure, having and raising children ETS, humanity will suffer as a result. No one disputes that there were abuses sometimes, but going the complete opposite way ? I am a woman and don't see aggressive feminism as good

"Free women from the economic bonding" yeah now we need to work for other men that we dont know and do not care about us

Ah, what a nice story with data and graphs, but mostly a mindless claptrap. Some rationalizing and feel good message, but how about this. What part in it play men who realized that in the case of divorce they are to be expandable objects who don't get to see their children much and mostly become walking paychecks. Why in the world would I subject myself to that risk!? What's in it for me other than a hanging ax above my head which will drop any moment my wonderful honey decides I am not behaving according to her specification. No thanks. Here is how the society is changing and gay people showed the way. You invest your hard earned $ into donors and surrogatees and nobody in this world can ever take your kids from you. How is that for your fancy story of marriage decline? If it is 50% chance I'm going to become a visitor in my children's life after divorce, I might as well never get married but have my children 100% of time. The same goes for women and it's even easier for them since they only need donor sperm. Marriage ain't worth it bro.

If a man marrys today he is a fool.

To few benefits for men and too many benefits for women. Marriage is hard work. People nowadays don't wanna put in the effort. They think "love" automatically solve issues within themselves and makes the partnership jog on.

Pessimistic? Yes.
Realistic? Yes.

No thanks.

Marriage is critical for a society’s health and longevity. It’s the most important component that facilitates the father’s role in his children and his responsibility towards their mother. George Gilder says the Italians are on the road to extinction within a few generations.

I’m of the millennial generation. A lot of us millennials saw our parents either divorce or in very unhappy or difficult marriages. We saw our parents struggle a lot. My parents are still married but have had a lot of very hard times, poor communication, a mismatch of values, lack of respect for eachother, ect. It hasn’t always been the easiest thing to witness. But they will never divorce. But my siblings and I have all chosen marriage or want to be married one day. There were a lot of happy times too growing up. We were all born in wedlock and we all want kids so marriage is the way to do that (or so we have all decided to believe). There is not a whole lot of divorce in my family. Some, but it is not the norm. I have noticed that the children of divorcees tend to divorce at higher rates than children of those who stayed married. I understand why many people choose not to marry though. Being married is a full-time job just in and of itself.

Is it dying? I wouldn't even know! The women here are too stuck up to give the fuckin time of day! I never saw a wedding here or even heard of one! All us guys gave up! I'm serious,you couldn't even get a girl out for anything! So fuck marraige!

Are you marrying for love? Then she won’t my a pre nup or blind trust. See how much she means it since it’s a risk no sane man would take without one.

RIP