how to master DETACHMENT: how to stop caring about other people, cut toxicity out, & stay unbothered

HI MY LOVES ❤ if you have any topics you want me to cover in my next self-help talking video please comment them hehe okie love you all so so much :)

I really needed this video tonight ❤thank you

as an overthinking fellas, everything you talk about is so relatable 😢 and this really help me

But... How should I stop thinking about my embarrassing past?? 😢

Honestly i have terrible social anxiety i have panic attacks from tiny things that happen at school because of how self conscious i am i always feel like every just acts like my friend because they never invite me to anything and its been honestly really exhausting and i want to thank you because you seem like such a positive person and this video made me realize that i need to work on it

This is a great video for advice for Middle & High Schoolers. Not relatable for adults at all. But thats a great audience!

Miss lenalift had left my awareness up and made my emotional support to my self getting stronger
Love it ❤

ur video aesthetic is so cute 😊

There is this girl that doesn’t like for I don’t know what reason since we don’t even know each other much and I was always so nice to her. We have the same class and every time I see her i feel anxious and I don’t wanna be around her. I tried to switch periods but I couldn’t. When I’m not around her I’m happy. How do I ignore someone who brings me negative energy when they are in the same room?

i think most people needed to hear this

Anytime i try to detach, I feel like im not being ny authentic self anymore,i feel like I'm being strong and just doing it just to stay strong and i end up giving in to my attachment because i feel like myself. But it still hurts me,why do they treat me like crap 😞😞😞

thank you

Wow, she is speaking right to me. This is what I'm going through.

It hurts so much when people are ghosting and toxic

I want to approach people to make friends, but I hesitate and create a scenario on top of my head that hasn't happen in reality.

Thank you for this video!! I love this channel it’s so good vibes 🤍🤍🤍

PERIODDDD

Your video actually changed my entire mindset, thank you! I needed this. 💗

Needed this , thank you 🤍

I’ve been watching you for a while now, and you are just so inspiring and you give me so many good tips, and u are drop dead gorgeous!!!❤❤❤❤

One thing I would add to the part where someone might have just gotten the wrong first impression of you and thats why they dont like you - it is a big step from overthinking but still not true confidence to rely on this assumption. You didnt necessarily have a bad day, it could be that they simply dont like you because you are not their vibe and you need to be okay with that too. Some people just dont click and thats fine. If I ever sense that this is the case with me and someone, the first thing I do is remind myself that I dont like everyone I meet either. And if you think about this, it is a loop. By allowing yourself to feel your true emotions and giving yourself permission to not like and not want to please everyone you meet, in becomes easier to focus on the people you genuinely care about and at the same time allow others to not like you and just ignore that/move on. Whereis if you constantly focus on pleasing everyone, as She said in the video, you will not be connected to yourself and who you actually wanna pursue

Thank you so much! I totally needed this please keep posting great content! I have had so much anxiety lately and your content makes me feel loved and encouraged . Praying for you and thankyou!

This is the first video of this channel that I've watched and I don't know if the cat's a feature in other videos, but just for this video and topic, I think that cat video-bombing is a reminder that we can all learn to be as unbothered as cats sometimes.

This might have changed my life, thxx Lena!

I really needed to watch this. i recently ended a 3 year long friendship with a guy that i began having romantic feelings for, only for me to realise that he used me as a rebound as he immediately returned to his ex girlfriend who had also hurt me greatly shortly after we stopped trying a relatonship. And after confronting him, He continually blamed and deflected everything onto me, even saying i was cruel and awful to him, yet suddenly saying things like "I miss you" and "I want my friend back" essentially attempting to emotionally manipulate me. And once i had enough and began experiencing deep depression I immediately blocked him on everything i had, so i could not be reminded of him or the person he is with on anywhere I might see their faces.
It was hard. Yet it was the best decision for myself.
A blessing in disguise.

You should never feel awful for how things turned out because the reality is:
that person lost YOU. you did not lose THEM.
Get rid of the dirty soil, and fill it with new beautiful growing plants.
This is advice that i am sure will help me to detach and move on and be in a happier mindset. It will take time and it will be hard, but you and I should remember that our brains want what is best for us. The reality is also that our emotions may betray us as they go against what our brain knows and wants for us, yet our feelings can cloud and dictate your decisions through a false reality of happiness and cling onto a false of hope that you may do or say something that might backfire and will make you regret things.
With that being said, If you are expeirencing any of those feelings or have considered those thoughts, then you are allowed to be selfish. Dont let anyone else dictate how you feel, as you have the ability to accept positive things into your life as well as removing negative things.
Even If it is hard to let go, and it will pain you greatly, trust me it will get better and you deserve people that will love you. xxx

The master of not caring is sleeping behind you 😂

These edit’s have me laughing out loud rn 😂

Can you do one on toxic coworkers.

preach

Also ask yourself why the friend of a friend felt so comfortable to talk crap about you to y’all’s mutual friend. Sometimes the mutual friend is feeding them a narrative about you… you may need to cut ties with that friend too.

I was in a 6 month relationship when all of a sudden he started to become more distant but more active on snap (while ignoring my snaps ) so when I brought it up one morning before work, he finally told me he felt like he couldn’t give me the time, and that he was keeping me from someone who would actually make me happy. This was when his snap score was going up like crazy, and when I responded back, he ignored me. I tried messaging him later that day asking if we can talk and see where we stood, he never responded. I’m still confused cause I thought it was my first healthy relationship but turns out it wasn’t. :(

Thanks Lena ❤️

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If i have friends who didn’t set boundaries and then get mad at me for hurting their feelings and ending the relationship, am i bad because i set my boundaries. Also i am insecure but then i get random boosts of confidence, so i express it. And they called e a pick me for it. But then they called me chubby and i went home crying, and they acted like my friend then turned around and yelled at me for trauma dumping, never told me never communicated, I didn’t know but they would do it as well and they’re a saint for it but im the villain? It’s screaming double standards sis.

Imiss you ❤

I really needed to hear this. Thank you 😊

When people no longer text me back- I unfriend them. You thought they were a friend but they literally show you they are not your people. And I just cut off my bestfriend. She started making me anxious, overthink, question things. And then I start comparing her to a very decent close friend of mine that acts and made me feel like I actually haven’t had friends in years until her. I realize my bestfriend never made me feel comfortable. And I’m still attached to her still hoping she’d reach out, I’m sure she doesn’t even notice I unfriended her. It was to the point where the last time you tried to be a friend they clearly gave you an acquaintance vibes not even treating at you least like a friend

If they don’t care about you, don’t even bother trying to tell them how you feel. Don’t put no energy in it if they didn’t put any energy in it ether

Not me self destructing because of a toxic family member- Every single word SPOKE, so grateful that i found your channel x

Okay like I knew this, but I def needed to hear this

one thing that really helped me is taking my own criticism, i used to nitpick other people but all i said were things I needed to work on :)

The squeak when u picked up pika😂 omg

i felt left out by my friend group during a bad time in my life rn and decided to just stop contacting them, talking and in general by definition ghosting them. i dont want to argue and be whiny like "why wont you talk to me?" or smth else, im working on myself rn and this pause helped me see some things i let slide bc were 'friends'. safe to say i dont think ill be returning to that friend group, i do hope the anxiety and guilt from this decision will leave me be

The more I watch your videos, the more I realize how toxic my friends are. They constantly point out my insecurities and they don’t value my time. They take advantage of my friendship. I even have to give up my food at lunch whenever I sit with them because a new girl that’s pretty sits with us and they get mad if I don’t give her my food. They even hit me and told me to do stuff. You’re videos saved me a lot. Thank you ❤❤❤

I never had friends cause people always be mean but alone isn't a bad thing ..

all scenarios have me overthinking

Thank you for posting this babes. I was just ghosted by 2 of my friends and I kept thinking “what is wrong with me??? Is there anything different I could have said??” And I was getting really bummed and started hating myself 😢 but your advice is so right! I need to focus on building myself up and remembering who I am 🩷

thank you so much for making this video ❤ You don’t understand how much you’ve really helped me grow just in a few minutes of watching your video. I’ve been struggling with a relationship at work that I haven’t been able to really get over and you helped me open my eyes. I need to move on and I’m definitely worth it. i’m the shit and i kinda forgot about that 😅😉

Learn to master detachment, stop caring about others' opinions, and cut out toxicity. Prioritize self-awareness, self-worth, and valuing true friends.