The superpower of intergenerational living | Derenda Schubert | TEDxMtHood

This video is before its time. In 2023, intergenerational living is the only way. We have 3 generations in my household

Thank you for your amazing speech!!! I love your personality, so kindly and humorous.

So my 61 year old mom already lives with me in my house. She wants me to buy a bigger house with her and rent out the current place. I'm a 38 year old single woman. I've had often faced stigma in the dating scene for living with my mom. I told this to my mom, and she says marriage is overrated and unmarried couple shouldn't be living together. She herself has a boyfriend of 15 years, but she doesn't want to get a place together with him, because his divorce procedure has not been finalized for forever. And my guess is that she doesn't want end up responsible for his eldercare, as he's much older than her and in his mid 70s.
She doesn't speak much English and isn't good with computer and technology, so she's already getting help from me in those areas. She also doesn't like to socialize with friends, and she's happiest on holidays when she gets to see all of her childrens.
My mom's idea makes a lot of financial sense, as she's nearing retirement age, even though she's still young. She has a lot of savings from living rent-free these 10 years, and I'm making 120k a year and we both have solid credits. I don't have as much money saved to afford a house in the rane my mom's is looking at, but she does. So it makes fiscal sense to combine assets to buy a house and to end up with a rental property at the same time.
But I'm afraid that I might regret buying a house with my mom. She treats me like a 10 year old already.
But I don't want my mom to be lonely and I want to help her save for her retirement and be there when she's sick. My dad passed away 3 years ago at the age of 63, so in my mind, the possibility of sickness and death is just around the corner. Also, having a rental property will also secure my retirement as well. I'm confused as to what to do. All the comments are from married people with children. I want to hear from other single people.

In India, it is very common to live with your folks. Sadly, many so-called modern couples prefer living on their own to avoid taking responsibility of the oldies.

great talk thanks! What's her contact info or website please?

What is wrong with moving back with your parents? I think that there is a stigma that somehow is bad for families and embarrassing, but I believe that multigenerational living is a solution for many of today's issues

love this concept.. there are many things that we can learn from elderlies and there are lots of thing that we can do for them. Many skills and knowledge are 'tacit.' They cannot be fully passed from one party to another by written language. That is one reason why we need help from elderlies. Meanwhile, as learning is a life long process, we can help elderlies to keep being active and participate in the current trend.

Research found that the mental health of elderlies is damaged by loneliness. That loneliness won't be alive with the laughs and cheers of little lively kids. This also benefits the working population who will get less pressure from the older and younger generation.

The roles of grandparents have been under research for quite a while. Evolutionary psychologists came up with the 'grandmother hypothesis' where they explained the life after menopauses with the adaptive value of extending kin networking. This hypothesis clarifies the importance of grandparents since the ancient age, though it can't be directly applied to the modern society.

Not everyone would agree with my opinion but I am certain that you guys would agree on the irreplaceability of love, care and warmth that the two generations can share with each other. One won't be isolated in the final stage of his/her life while another will grow up with a safe and supportive environment

I am 66 years old and a graduate student getting my MSW in Florida. My cognate for my BA was Gerontology. I found Bridge Meadows while doing research for a paper several semesters ago and I am convinced this is one of the most awesome ideas EVER !! Florida has twice the 65+ population than the rest of the country and seniors live isolated. Florida also has some of the most foster care system gaps as well. I've reached out to them to find out how we can bring that model here to Sarasota, Florida and I hope to hear from them soon. With my business background, non-profit expertise and academic achievements I'm sure this could be realized. Reading about Dorothy Lemelson house was exciting. This talk was inspiring Derenda - thank you !!

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