The downfall of the narcissist

Listening to these stories, I feel like I got off a little lighter, coming away from my first marriage with a modest equity settlement, finally completely blocking my ex-husband who would still bully me for money if I let him. The more painful part is, 16 years of watching my younger adult son leaning ever deeper into his father's path: bitterness, grifting, lying, condescension to me and completely blocking his loving brother. This month marks the first birthday he'll have when he won't be hearing from me. I'm done being his dad's and his punching bag. His brother and I are family now.

A proverb for you. The people that are the hardest to love are most likely the ones who need it the most.

So in layman words, there is no justice and narcissists rarely reap what they sow? Very discouraging!

this is an inappropriate video. You do not take into account that the narcissists also Suffer.
And they (normal, not celeb narcissists) often commit suicide when they "fall".
You are sooo inappropriate.

I wanted to thank you so, so, so much Dr. Ramani. I bought your book "Don't you know who I am." Gaining incredible wisdom, after 26yr fake and phony relationship with a 70yr old woman with 10 yr girl brain. God Bless you Dr. Ramani have a blessed New Year 2024.

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Preach it, sister! You are such a blessing! Thanks for helping so many regular folks! There is a special place in heaven for you!

Dr Ramani, I went through narcissist abuse by a fellow employee with a lot of education. I wasn't phased that much because I responded back with a solid statement countering their actions towards me. I know with the deceit, lies, manipulation tactics, and the smear campaign they ran against me, I had to respond back to counter their statements to possibly save my respect and overall self worth along with my job. There was only one time in the last 2 months that the narcissist seen me but absolutely no contact between us. When I noticed the narcissist after the one and only time we'd seen each other after 2 months, the narcissist was standing about 25 feet from me glaring at me as I went to my work assignment.

My mind went to trump when she said orange jumpsuit 😂

True. My ex was like a cat with 900 lives. It's amazing how lucky he was with enablers. I never saw justice. Crazy how much of a human recking ball they can be

I have seen the Justice of God in their lives. It was a perfect outcome. Only my God knew the seconds , hours , days, months and decades to See this realization.

OMG! This is my life. I have PTSD. My wife has spent all of my money. It has gotten so bad, now I’m on social security benefits for mental disability. I’m so stuck. She finally came home 2 nights ago and cried for almost 3 hours non-stop. I can see you crying for a little while a few minutes and it being fake but I don’t know how you pull off that kind of time and that hard if it’s not real. I could be completely wrong I don’t know. Last night the same all crazy chaos creating wife showed up. I’m so worn out from the constant fighting over nothing. I don’t know why they create the chaos and then start bawling over it or taking the result of her chaos and blaming me for it. It’s insanity or it’s she’s possessed or both. If I had the finances I would just disappear and move from Texas to Washington state.

The bigger the splatter!

When they bare discovered they are hated and they are so grandiose they don’t see their enemies.

Narcs are gamblers..they may "win" people over and situations, temporarily
...long term they end up losing because karma catches up..x 100

So they always win ?

The key...........trust your gut from the get go.......... If it smells rotten at the beginning......immediately flee........

Your videos have been really helpful to me. Only recently realised that it's not me, it's him (not completely, obviously, because nothing is so black and white to a non-narcissist).

I'm seeing how my boundaries go but preparing for eventual exit.

Thanks

I don't know, the boxer comment rings true in my case. My mom punched me in the face because I called Her Mommy dearest. So I punched her back. I didn't realize how strong my right hook was, and she fell to the ground with a broken jaw. The family couldn't press charges because she hit me first. But that month when her mouth was wired shut and she couldn't speak was bliss.

Yes the empathic people always fall harder

i have a question- is this also a trait of npd. they don’t really provide connection or sympathy or what you need when u need but overdo when u dont need something? like when im sick i need him to ask me:see me n offer comfort but he ends up doing it when im almost recovered or when its a minor thing where i would be better off with space, he happily offers to see me but again late at night (work excuse)or in another case when i have insomnia n mention it he wouldn’t ask how i feel but every day he texts hope u slept well n i feel annoyed. i mentioned this in a frustrated tone n he said now forget it, i will never ask u how u slept taking the wrong meaning n i feel awful i blurted this. today he didn’t text asking. am i asking him to read my mind n how i feel n act accordingly coz sometimes its hard for me to know how i feel n ask.

Thank you, Dr. Ramani - you have no idea how much you have helped me. I feel like crying and what you say makes sense. I've watched so many of your videos and go back and listen to them, all on how to heal, how to deal with, knowing about,... all your videos are so helpful. Thank you.

Wow. This is me. My covert narcissist wife and I have two kids with autism. She's the bread winner and I'm the stay-at-home parent. I have nothing in my name. Getting out and self-sustainable is going to take me a long time.

The higher someone puts themself, the further they have to fall.

Thank you Dr Ramani, thank you love +

Wise words. Thank you.

I totally agree. It is the regular folks that get the hardest blows and falls because of the narcisistic abuse. Thank you dr Ramani❤

The title of video seems misleading. I want to hear about what happens to the narcissis himself when he loses everything.

I was married to a narcissist for over twenty years. During our divorce, I made a good faith offer based on our assets to settle everything. No custody battle. Just clean and fair. She told me to F myself. Long story short. I won custody. Legal and physical. The settlement was 50k less than I offered her and she paid me child support for two years totaling over 25k. There was also a no contact order where she couldn’t even see the kids. It can be done but I barely made it. It was so close.

I was going to therapy every week but im in the process of changing jobs and my health insurance doesnt take effect for another month so i stopped going as i was burning through my savings. This community is all i have now. Nobody else i can talk to about whats in my head.

Pretty much just isolating myself now and trying to move thru everything thats on my mind 24-7.

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I cannot be the only one to notice she didn't actually say anything in this video... Sorry doc - this one kinda sucked.

I can remember saying that to the first wife.

Dr Ramani is WOKE ASF!
I like you even more now that i know ur hip to the bs goin on in the 🌎 as i type this!
God bless you, Dr. 😊

All true, at the surface level. Nevertheless, they will eventually reap the fruits of black karma!

Loving oneself is Devil repellent.

Amazing intelligent woman and savior to the truth

Very well said and put into words. I have seen it time and time again, as I have experienced it. It's not easy to work through it and I am learning a lot as a person and as a professional.

Thanks Doctor. I managed to help mom crush down my dad (terrible narc)…and now that he is outside the door …more covert narcs (female) are showing up. Cutting the ties is the deal now…but it is sooo emotionally difficult.

Always the same topic

How can we prove sick behaviors in court?that someone is a psycho, an behaviour we maybe can only prove with a 24/7 spy camera. ANY OF YOU SAW BASIC INSTINCT???? IT'S THERE ALSO VISA VERSA.

this is a very depressing watch Dr Ramani - the message is become a narcissist - they win; the victims don't

Got that right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Though now that my children are older and are starting to understand the abusive behavior of their father, they just might be the ones that force him to fall....Fingers crossed...

No cure without diagnosis.

This ☝️ person up here helped me cause I escaped after serving 20. My ex covert narcissist married a covert narcissist, and she’s making his life a living hell
As for me I got all the information I needed from his chats and messages through that person above. .

Thank you for being brutally realistic and never keeping it rosy. Truth is bitter but learning to live with harsh reality is absolute practicality 😊

The Sackler name was recently removed from Tel Aviv University's school of medicine due to that family's role in creating the Opiod epidemic

It never happens quickly enough, but the house of cards they have built will fall.

The smaller they are the farther they fly. Thank for these therapeutic videos. Im trying very hard to heal. Your voice, content, and context have become a soothing escape from the kaos and turmoil I am suffering at the moment. Watching several of them a day. ❤

Whose side are you on...thank you for feeding my hopelessness and this feel like gaslighting...always nothing we can do..always you got away, but you're not much help...