The Single Most Important Parenting Strategy | Becky Kennedy | TED

Wow. This is amazing advice. Thank you so much.

Well, I dont think yelling is The Evil Thing... Its a reflexion of an exaustive life and is totally understandable the way you did. I've talked to my soon since he was a baby and always explaining him real things on his "own words". I do my best for him and I dont feel guilty if I have a single mistake... why whould I? He is a real person in a real world and one of his tasks is "understand the world like it is", hence I dont need to make up a fake world for him. If he says some like your son did (my son already did it as well), I explained him about his "perfect life", talked about a lot of poor kids that dont have even a bed to sleep at night and their food comes sometimes from the trash... and we have to be grateful for what we have. He never said that again, because he understood what's going on and I gave him the opportunity to think as a person that lives in a real world. Kids grow up living in a real world, not in an imaginary world.

Good message. Good talk.

Becky got a dumper

Incredible talk! This is something all parents need to hear. There is so much pain among so many adults who were once children and treated poorly by their parents. Repair goes a long ways! I was constantly given the silent treatment and faced emotional neglect as a child. As a result, I grew up with terribly low self-esteem and now I am left dealing with cPTSD. Through countless therapy sessions, I am finally rounding the corner. I now have a child of my own and I am able to be a much better parent to her and hope to model the recommendations you have given in this talk. I sent this video to my parents as well. Thank you for this work you are doing!

This very good. It is what is taught in the Gospel of Jesus Christ. The steps of repentance I was taught and the importance of building and maintaining relationships because families can be eternal. I am glad others have discovered this but the knowledge and patterns have been available for a very long time. And it works.

My god this is amazing informative video. Thank you, I need this to work with my 4 year old daughter. 🙏🏻

Great talk! Repair is fundamental! Thank you so much!

Asian parents like "humph... my kids yell at me?"

And what if he does it again, and again.. and again

Hang on, what about repair of the damage thay son did to his mom? His behavior was actually insulting.

What. An. Amazing. Presentation!!!!!! Needed this reminder to repair the damage I've caused my sons throughout their chilhoods. Gotta go prepare...

Heartwarming sharing. Parenting is like flying a kite. You pull and let go throughout. It’s a journey.

I wish you knew how impactful your talk has become 🙏 you’ve changed lives

Thank you.

The phone exercise made me teary.

I know my parents love me and we have a good relationship, but I also know that phone call will never come lol. Asian parents are not known for introspection.

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Thank you

Wow - the 2 stories are very powerful. I could immediately relate to ‚the chicken‘ story as I am a working mum with 2 teenagers. For me connecting with nature e.g. going for a walk helps before a ‚repair‘ or any other listening conversation with them.

Absolutely spot on. A wonderful TED talk. Thank you

I am so glad that I watch this video when my kids are 2 and 3 years old. It’s not only lead my child growing but also I am leaded.

Interesting talk.. Thank you very much for sharing it to help lots of us find feet around this scape..
Allow me: I do think there should be an emphatic way to let the kid know that their manner of approach is not the best in the instance.. I mean, it's not benefiting the kid to try and be 'soft' all the time..
I liked the outline to 'Repair'..
Thanks again for your share..

Look at Indians from last decade for the solution! In fact even now there are few families where two or more blood related files stay together under one roof! Don't believe this would solve the parenting problem? Go try it for 2 months!

I did that when my son’s were grown. What a difference it has made in our relationships. My (psychologist) mother never did that with me (us). Great TT.

Great!

What a bullshit talk from such an incompetent professional :)

If she constantly yells at her coworkers family etc that’s not a sign of needing better repair, that’s a sign that she needs more resources in her life and support. She might be on the verge of mental breakdown

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I saw such an improvement with just empathizing with my kids that I missed the last important step (until this week): "what can we do better next time?" And just in this week I've seen my children picking better choices to problems we have endured for years. 😊❤

Is somebody cutting onions in here or what..

3 elements: name what happened, take responsibility, state what you would do differently the next time.I keep thinking about what happened the other night in the kichen. I' m sorry I yelled I'm sure that felt scary. it' wasn't your fault. I'm working on staying calm, even when I'm frustrated

When you become a parent, all you are is a memory for your children.

Am glad I heard this before becoming parent
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I understood...❤

I don't strive to be a perfect parent, it's not possible . The question is whether there's enough inner strength to balance and juggle between your eternal chores that aren't going to be fulfilled ever, and the relationship.

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Great talk Becky, I will be a better father because of this.

Thank you!

Thank you miss

Great Ted talk! Thank you!!

This is the most beneficial, and self-improving TED talk I've heard in my life considering I grew up in a household where there was not much conversation about important issues. Thank you for shedding some light on the basic ways to communicate effectively with others in my family, and also with my partner. Thank you for being on this earth!!

I needed this today, thank you

Man my parents fucked me up, not going to do that to my son if I can help it. I've never heard a sorry in my life.

Thank you! 💛💛💛

Extreme ownership. Live it.

That is exactly what my husband has told me to do when I snap. He's not a psychologist, but I've come to realize he's right.

Outstanding! 👏