Why You Can’t Make Friends

That’s a terrible way to phrase it tho. Most people want to be around you if you’re just chill. So just open yourself up to people and get to know them.

True I agree

Wtf? This advice ain't for me👎😭

Every girlbhas a tonne of friends. Do they ALL "being value to people"

Guess ur ruls only apply to men. Which would logically mean ur bwing sexist against them. Which is misandry.

Which means ur a feminist ally. Dont all this for some pooooosssieeeee.

But u ARE BECOMING one in the process. And when we have conservative government ull go back to being traditional. People like u just care about the lifestyle not the morality behind it.

So in othet words, because you don't give people anything they can use you for, you dont have friends. Bro, they aint your friends

This isn’t true. Really bad take. A lot of friendships are just matters of fate (for want of a better word). There are thousands of potential people out there who I would find so valuable and fascinating, but because they’re shy or lack self esteem or are introverted, that value just didn’t get the chance to enter my life. I could have made the best friend I ever met yesterday if only I’d commented on the shitty customer at the front of the line. But I didn’t, so that friendship opportunity never materialised. Your friend group is not a reflection on you, it’s a representation of the thousands of throwaway encounters you make that actually materialised into something better.

Says the immigrant who fled his shittie home countrie

Tbh i don't really bave frineda because
They awawus leave me soon..

I know I'm useless so I know why I only have a few friends that for some reason still stick around.

There is no friends better to be alone than around fake people you can be a great person but some just people dont value you for you like they should its best to stay away from people like that.

In a lot of cases this is not true but in mine it is

It doesn’t exist

This hit hard because It is true, I also have no friends, but don't know how to change and where to start😢😢

No quid pro quo im out tired of one way streets

I don’t agree with this.
My loneliest period was due to going through depression after a lot of stress.
I lost my confidence and didn’t want to be around people
Value wasn’t the reason.

This isn't always the case.

Friendship doesnot require greatness, it requires innocence

oh please I am a blast to be around but I don't have friends like that. Let's have fun together and you go your way and allow me to go mine . Depending on how I feel I might not reach out to you in months or even yrs, because I know how phony, back stabbing and jealous people are. At the end of the day I enjoy my own company or that of my little family, but that does not mean I can't have fun with people without having a fake friendship. People try to befriend me all the time but I protect my peace.

These comments pass the vibe check and it makes me smile. 😊

... ... huh? ... ... what if I don't have a large quantity of friends by choice and because I like it that way? Also, I seldom go out (again, because I prefer it that way) and I hate the pressures of keeping up with people. Even I manage to maintain a couple friendships. There could be multiple reasons. Some people struggle in group or social settings. Some people have misgivings putting themselves out there. And some people, like me prefer to keep one or two good friends because that's all we personally have the time or energy for. Just because your social circle is small doesn't mean you're unlikable, and not all people who appear to be alone actually feel lonely. Only you can answer that question for yourself.

I have no friends because I don't go anywhere. Whenever I go for a program or an event, I make friends but it doesn't last because after the program I'm out

That's not necessarily true. I know plenty of people with multiple friend circles, and the only thing they provide to them is toxicity. It might just be that you don't have good social skills.

Everyone frikin hates me

It's hard to make friends in your 20s after losing your friends because

1. People are judging you for your looks and how successful you are

2. They think you want something or don't trust you

3. They already have close friends and think your trying too hard

4. They are fake most of the time

5. They only use you for stuff since they don't know you that well.

Not true! You could be a great person at heart but you beauty appearance not up to anyone standards!

Carlow vela ?

I have just one friend but he only visits me the day after I got paid from my job. We play video games for about an hour, then he gets up, takes money out of my wallet & leaves.

After self reflecting for a long time I would say The reasons I don’t have a lot of friends is
I’m not very social
I’m not initiating
Low self esteem
Low social battery
Don’t show interest in others/convo

I Andy think that my long term suicidal thoughts when I was a kid carved a thought process in my head.
I pushed away everyone so when I died nobody would be sad. And now I do it unconsciously

I’m not sure how to get past these things other than deciding not to care and go back into de-realization and Anhedonia state

i dont have friends but i dont know what the reason is, i always crack jokes and i always make people laugh, but those same people dont say a single word to me

Well I have always beloved and mentioned that being yourself is wrong. It creates complacency in your heart to never change. You tell Alcoholic to be himself and he will continue to be an alcoholic. But you tell someone to be the best version of themselves to drive or be better and to work on themselves things will change. That alcoholic will know they are not the best they could be and will have it give that up to be better than who they are now. It takes real self reflection to be great.

so what do we have to do in order for people to wanna hang around us? this loner shit blows man

You are great and i know how u feel because i had no friends since 2021 and i am still learning things about myself and plz remember that confident people have no friends insecure people do
If u are real u wont have no friends
If u are fake and insecure u will have a large following of friends
Say no to popular people and say yes to those who walk alone
Much love ❤

Making friends is easy but loosing it is most difficult

Sure......

Your way of making friends seems very business like and almost artificial. There is a time and place for that for when you try seducing (pause) them by asking to talk about the things they like and try diverging that to a talk in where you wanna trade opportunities and ideas (networking). But those aren't likely to be friends but more so people you are on good terms with and prolly not try to mess things up with to avoid losing them for your benifit of career or something else. This hasn't talked much about the more so warmer, easy going friends that are far more long lasting

NO SHIT. NO FUCKING SHIT HAMZA. WOW THANKS FOR THE ADVICE WOW I ABSOLUTELY DID NOT KNOW THIS ALREADY. WAY TO SAY FUCKING NOTHING BRO

Most of people saying I have no friends at least they have 1-2 or maybe more
I literally have no fking friend and I have never harmed someone.. I know how to talk I play video games.. but all my friends gone I have no one left they all busy now with their things

My problem is that I cut them off and then start from scratch over and over. I guess I don't want the commitment 😅 or they were not what I was looking for.

THAT'S ALL IT TAKES FOR YOU SCAVENGERS TO LEAVE ME ALONE?

Um no. This is so ignorant. Some people are just timid or not as good outgoing as other people. So according to you, people with a small circle of friends are not as valuable as someone who has a ton of friends? Psychology is not for you.

How many of you simply have interests and concerns that are simply too complicated or serious for many individuals?

something sounds off about all that, but i ACCEPT that you see yourself and life that way

I already think I’m not great

I think we should all be friends!

Honestly , it hurts a lot when you don’t have friends , I’m at the same place !!! but you still don’t have to give up !

Friends = shit

It’s call Envy 😂 love to be by myself life is great!❤

I remember watching this vid a while ago but your wrong there a red people who make me better person I may not be a social butterfly but I do become a better person remember there are some people who do come in your life to better yourself AND EVERYONE IS CAPEBLE OF Making a friend regardless of who you are or how different your personality is you can make friends regardless do not be put down or feel like you can't you can

this advice based on himself

This sounds like an immature take. There can be so many reasons why people don’t have friends.