How to talk to a Woman-- Without Being Creepy w/ examples

There are a TON of guys that simply are not capable of reading body language.
Girls are interested in people and relationships growing up; boys are interested in things.
Girls study the signs of communication and what-not, because they're necessary for relationships (of all kinds), whereas boys are studying trains. or dinosaurs. or planes or tanks or cars.
There are a metric ton of men that WILL. NOT. PICK UP ANY CUES you drop.
You will probably have to tell them point-blank to fuck off, that you're not interested, or that they're bothering you.
And it's actually much kinder to be that direct, as whatever emotions you think that you might be sparing a person by not saying blatantly "piss off, not interested" would still be felt even if they were capable of reading body language.
And perhaps women are so 'emotional' because they read into things that simply do not exist because many of these same men do not think about how they act and how others might perceive it as a cue regarding their emotional state--often because society doesn't care about the emotional state of men (unless it's bad/angry) so they simply learn to control their actions/movements/expressions to be as neutral and bland as possible. Just a thought that might be worth thinking about.

Approaching women takes a lot of confidence. It's harder than most women realize. I appreciate your gracious response to the first gentleman. Something men have to realize is compatibility is a numbers game. You can approach 100 women and get rejected but the next one might adore you. Learning social skills at a young age is so very important and easy to overlook. Unfortunately as western society demonizes men and the wake of metoo less men are approaching women. Forbes said 45% of women in their prime years will be single and childless by the year of 2030. Unless something changes the future is pretty bleak.

So it's true that there are more lonely people than not. People afraid to come off as creepy, so they don't try at all.

He's developing dangerous behaviors. If he cannot read cues he is inherently dangerous. If he's actively ignoring cues and training himself to ignore cues, he's training himself to be dangerous. Cues are part of developing safe communication which is the only path to safe connection.

I think what makes it creepy is asking is a girl out before you really know anything about her, it not flattering. Those are basically dates just about sexual attraction, allot of girls (almost all men!) date this way. I'm a guy that would be thrilled to date a girl that actually was interested in me because she liked ME, not just for looks, resources or attention. So hard to find!

That's the price you pay for handing out silly smiles to random strangers.

"I knew that I wasn't attracted to him."
Then you should've just said "No, I don't want to go out with you."

men only understand direct and blunt communication. on day one when he came to work you should have said im not attracted to you like that and im sorry but no. none of this im tired after work, or maybe later kinda thing, just gotta be very direct and very specific. more than likely he would have said ok sorry no problem and you would never have to deal with him again. its really that easy with 99% of men. this all was completely avoidable if you know how to handle it. also most men are so completely lonely and we get absolutely no attention from women, not even a smile, for such long periods of time, and face rejection nearly every time we approach a woman, we can over react and get a little stupid with hope and desire, and carried away with emotions and over think our chances, i really appreciate you at least consider he may not be creepy, hes just social awkward and not mature enough or experienced enough to read body language.

My parents met at a wedding and my dad got extremely drunk and these 2 girls helped him get home that night. Next day he found out where one of them worked and payed her a visit. He creeped on her and it worked 😂 and hes no chad by any means. My mom was very cute at that time. Persistence is what made me exist today. Us men have a lot on our shoulders. Gotta keep the population in tact while not come across as creepy...

Its men like this who ruin it for the rest of us 🤦‍♂️

Bro had his foot in the door and fumbled the bag incredulously

Its hard for desperate people to read those non verbal signs given and they will need strong confirmation like "no, and I'm not playing hard to get, this is straight up no" rather than polite response which I understand where you coming from.

With your female perspective, I could say I fell in the trap of thinking that the smiley gesture is anything more than friendly. I ashamed to say yes to the trap after all the obvious non-verbal signs yet unobvious signs to me at those moment. I did not act out to stalk people but more like looking at them more. Now, I have to work on not to over stare!

Thanks for showing how creepy it is when the desperation is strong and give good advice for educating a proper socializing conduct. It's nice to see there's little reasons to hate the whole male population from one man's behaviors and be like “Oh I will not smile and be friendly again". The whole internet is crazy about the hate between each man and women which I believe you pick it up from your videos' comments. Thank you for your kind words on the bad examples.

Wish you all the best in the journey to develop yourself!

Man, how can some guys be so god damn creepy. How out of it do you have to be to think that it would be cool to show up at somebody´s workplace all of a sudden and then keep on stalking. Simply not normal behavoir. You need to call the cops on this guy IMHO. He is not a normal guy I can tell you right now. You are way too kind. The fact that he came to your workplace should´ve been enough.

thanks for the good advice, i always read body language and how someone is responding to me, if theyre energetic, n giving in the ocnversation i stay, if not, i leave, i think im good in understanding that, i dont think i am that shy but im mostly scared if it turns out awkward n i cant keep the convo going, so i kind ahave it rly hard to talk to girls, ill be workin on it tho cus rn im 18 n i needa get sum action fr

Some women approach guys in exactly the same way. I think it's good to steer clear of such people when their first approach is odd (or creepy!).

I'm normally very good at understanding when a woman doesn't want anything then I walk away immediately and don't ever reach out to them ever again.

Unfortunately, u label ppl as creepy based on your weak perception of actual character within strangers which likely stems from too much Social Media time

Scary sociopath vibes

But I guess, the thing about asking too many questions, it could actually vary from person to person, ig

I do not smile at strangers.
Why would you do that?

The most clear way for a woman to communicate is to actually communicate! Use your voice, not obscure body language! Geez, is it really that hard?

LOL you can't just smile at every guy you come across.. that's a big no no ... and this is coming from a guy... if a girl smiles at a guy the guy is thinking "oh she wants to smash"... that''s how stupid guys are. don't do that

Problem is most men don’t know these rules women make. We are stubborn by nature and that “maybe” gave him hope. Lol

Haven't heard the second story yet, but I can relate to the first story, I've been in the same situation, what makes it more difficult is I don't want to be rude, or confrontational but I want to make it clear, that I have no interest in her, some people just don't get it

I have just given up on the idea of love. I have always been single, so it doesn't bother me that much if I don't think about it too much. The moment I start thinking about love and how much I'm missing out in life and underselling myself as a human being, then I become very depressed.
Apparently I have gotten interest from other girls in the past, but I was completely blind to their interest, so it's a bittersweet feeling. I'd rather have that bittersweet feeling than possibly getting rejected. But it's nice to hear that a girl had big eyes for me and I wasn't aware of it. There was a young waitress once who I thought was attractive, but I didn't really give her much conversation, but I was told from a third person perspective that she did get all big and dark eyed towards me, which is a warm thing to hear. Whenever she laughed, she did look at me while laughing, so that was something. But still, I let her slide because I am a very conservative and pessimistic guy.

Myra (nice name btw, sounds like an anglo-version of my sisters name 'Mayra') i got all you related on this video and i desire you nothing but peace after those episodes, you was such a brave girl to not surrender to awareness and respect lacks on those 4ss-h0l3s. Said that i can't done with my comment without asking you something vital for many men though: even with nice behaviour, charisma, witteness, sense-of-humour, etc... would you honestly say that cold-approach are an effetive and nice way of non conventionally attractive dudes meet women, especially the attractives ones such yourself? Be honest, i appreciate since now your answer, love and light for you!!

Jesus loves you Myra.

How not come across as creepy? Don't talk to damaged women! ;) Don't shoot the messenger!

I think it’s really cool you can have empathy for someone even if they’ve made you uncomfortable. People should be held accountable but that’s not the same as demonizing them.

Should we really be taking social skills advice from someone whose only claim to fame is she brags about having zero social skills?

I'm a man. I don't know how love starts but I sure know how it ends.

The first one was too obsessed with you. Secondly many men are not able to read hints from women. Thirdly I see that you had symptoms of a social phobia where when a man gets too close you tend to push away in fear you will actually enter a relationship. Self sabotage. So this third analyses focuses on the second guy. Finally just say :"Sorry I have a boyfriend" If you want to get rid of a guy.

Sounds like you should fish from your church.

I love it you say you’re socially awkward but you seem self-aware. Please be careful

I also watched your dear future husband video and I was drawn to you, since as I’m so far away, I wish you good luck.

girl. it is 1 year old, so you probably already know, but I have to write it:
there are incels, that are also without social skills, and various weirdos.
trust me... it's not worse curse to be alone. and without friends. actually the bigger curse is, to be in ill relationship. that's nightmare.
maybe , your "problem" have saved you from many problems, you dont even know.
some even paid by their own life in these relationships. maybe it protected you from many problems.

you cannot just talk to random strangers. unless you have 100% social skills and abilities. because you need to handle weirdos, agressors, psychopaths. They are really difficult to get rid of.

Try working on your social skills in the mirror instead of practicing on people that aren't aware you're using them as props.

That "creepy" man was probably a lonely and needy person and was anxious to the point of being "creepy".

I have not found better dating advice even on channels that claim to specialize in the subject. Thank you so much.

For any guys reading this. If a woman is not interested in talking to you, move on and find someone who is! It’s not that hard 🤦🏽‍♂️ also maybe = no!

You got a big time stalker 😳

"I'm sorry, but I'm not interested" You don't have to be sorry.

Honey, normal people dont come hang around a strangers job for hours. You allowed him to sit at your work until you closed alone?! You walk a direction he followed to the beach alone. an isolated area. Think about it 😮. Youre putting yourself in danger by not speaking up and staying near other people when you see him

She is a GOD!

So basically you are mad that he was really trying, and you were too much of a coward to give him a clear yes or no.
All the "mabey" or "we'll see" BS you women use, then get mad if a man tries too hard, and mad if he doesn't try hard enough,mad. If he doesn't put in effort, mad if he does..

How about you just tell him "sorry I'm just not attracted to you" simple as that... .

I mean ya he crossed the line and acted creepy AF but the point is that you seriously should communicate your intent the way you expect men to.....

Not everyone is good at reading body language or even verbal cues if you aren't outright saying what you mean.

I’m thinking you should practice just saying “ fuck off “ instead of “ no thank you “ that might work better.

He was desesperated. It wasn't natural

I myself am kinda the shy type and do not tend to approach women I find attractive, for similar things youve mentioned in your videos..I can be social when there is no pressure to "impress" the other person..But I freeze if its for talking to someone I would like to pursue romantically..In this video several times you say the word "smooth" about the good experience, how do you determine the difference between "smooth" and a well skilled "player"?

Based on the first story, is the reason why when women give this terrible advice to pursue and to try hard to win her over goes wrong! Never pursue!