7 Subtle Signs of Emotional Abuse

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I’ve been going insanely crazy wondering what I’m doing wrong. Trying my best to discuss things maturely because I love him. But he is emotionally abusive. This video describes him. I literally chuckled at a few because I’m in utter shock.

Please don't use the word "mansplaining."
It's cringe AF.

My fiancé just left me. He did all of this.

My mother has these traits lol. I grew up in a toxic household, and if i ever run away, i wouldn't have any place to go.

This sounds like how my parents treat me

I am currently in an abusive relationship, working too get out. I know what it’s like to be told on a daily basis how useless you are, how none will ever want my ass, how I am a loser, and because I am now disabled and can’t walk well or work he uses that against me. For example, I was so sick yesterday I couldn’t even get out of bed, he told me too take it easy and after work he would run too get what I need. He came home and because I said something in what he said was “a sarcastic tone of voice, that he wasn’t going too the store”. So advance till this morning, as sick as I am, i get up make his coffee and go to make his lunch, there’s no bread, and that’s a problem,cause he literally only wants sandwiches for his lunch. But he was supposed to go to the store for me the evening before and bread was on that list. But ofc when I tell him he can’t have sandwiches for lunch 💥 💥 yup he lost it, even though it’s his fault. So before he just left for work, and mins you it’s 7 am here, he screamed and yelled and berated me for 30 mins before he just left. So now my day is ruined cause it started ok but he took that away as usual.

I don't know if asking this makes me a bad person, but what if I have some of the tendencies that you are discussing. I am concious of doing such things here and there. I want to change , can you suggest some ways that I can use that can help me ?

Thanks for the video i have brain damage from mean people in my life need to pay back for the damage they did too me :abuse i might jist call 911 if they continue this stuff

Omg! This was my mom!

It becomes so much harder to walk away because most of these are from my family.

i mean...i knew they are abusive, but....dang i didnt realize

You need to add to that list peeing and pooping myself cause that's where I'm at!!! It sucks cause I'm STILL NOT believed!!!

Some of this was helpful. I need more detailed unbiased information.

Thank you for this video .

If they aren’t a narcissist but they engage in these kinds of emotional abuse how can you bring it up with them without having them blow up? Also your suggestions for dealing with these people are a bit insensitive without more context.

My mother does every one of these. I always just thought it was normal.

GOOD MORNING, EVERYONE I WOULD LIKE TO ASK SOMETHING , WANT DO YOU DO IF THIS PERSON, IS A FAMILY MEMBER AND I LIVE WITH, HER. HOW CAN I GET AWAY FROM THEM, WELL IT'S TIME FOR ME TO TAKE MY MED'S FOR EPILEPSY SEIZURE DISORDER.,, GOD BLESS.TEE

Very relatable

I live I a toxic relationship

Was married to a covert narc, things didn't go well, we went to a marriage counselor who gave me the advice to open up with my vulnerabilities. I did, not yet knowing what narcissism is, and still believing in the gaslit reality I was told. (Even assumed at some point I might have Alzheimer's due to all the "wrong" or "missing" memories I had. But that's another story.)
Basically immediately that was weaponised, attacks now specifically targeted my traumas. In hindsight that's when I started realising that something isn't right here.
So actually it was a good advise in the end, although just because it woke up my ability to rise and resist. I lowered my shield, giving the narc the ability to hurt, and hurt they did, revealing their true nature.
Ffwd: narc is gone, karma hit them hard, which I pity but can't help, and won't try to. The smear campaign quickly decluttered my circle of (mostly false) friends, which is good as I'm an introvert. All in all a whole new level of peace and freedom. Thanks, narc! I needed that lesson.

Shit. I came here looking for signs that back up my family’s claims that my boyfriend is emotionally abusive to me but now realise I am too.

i personally am starting to recognize that i tend to act this way towards my partner without realizing it and i'm starting my process of working on it. i feel so terrible about the fact that i've been doing these things and i will happily work on my ability as person

I've dated toxic abusers but I never just took it lying down... I would also meet them the same way. But that allowed them to say that I was the bad one.

#3!!!! #7!!!!

Thank you 🙏

Left my first relationship of 9 months bcz of all these. I was so depressed.. Anxiety attacks,lost weight... Was humiliated and felt shame.. He made me feel like it was my fault and that's why he never apologized unless I did it first bcz he said I made him hurt me.

Also there are 2 people male adults at work who do most of these things.. It hurts.... They critizise and compare me constantly with other girls..I am made to feel like I'm not good enough like the other girls around town. It's a small town so everyone knows everyone..Im going to fight these two people for my peace .. They belittle and hurt me emotionally and because they are adult males... Married men... I don't know how to address this issue yet.. but I will soon..

I am an abusive and toxic myself....thank you for making me aware of it ...I'll try to better myself.

You just described my family towards me in this video. .

I'd like a third opinion for what I'm going through because I constantly second-guess myself.

I've made a few mistakes before with having boyfriends that my parents didn't approve of or going out with friends too often. My two ex's were toxic (cheating, stealing, trying to coerce me to have threesomes, commenting about my body.) Eventually I slept around to cope.

My mom, from those things, have completely cut contact with me. I was raped a while back, and my parents think I shamed the family by going out and getting raped. My mom says to never tell anyone because no college will accept me if I do.

My dad is a mess of rage these days. He left my house when I was raped and stayed in hotel for a week. He took my two consoles and my pc as well. Recently I've been getting better in school but it's not as he would like. He kept saying that if he sends me to college I will waste all the money on drugs like my uncles. Last time I was studying he saw that I was doing things wrong and now threatened to pull my high school tuition in my junior year.

They both say I'm breaking the family apart, and that I need to start taking responsibility for my actions. My dad thinks I'm fundamentally broken as a human being. They both say they can't believe they raised me.

I used to cut myself and my dad has said he knows I use it to get attention and to manipulate my mom. He gave me a home, education, and food, and I abuse them in return. He says I'm spoilt and ungrateful for what I have. I'm a princess that was given everything that that's how I treat them.

The pulling tuition thing is getting serious these days. I'm talking with my grandpa to see if he would fund it. I would really like to finish high school and go to college.

Please tell me if I'm just seeing something more in something that should be normal.

Subtle toxic could be : 1.a cousin siste comment on my body and shaming it subtly saying you have become so thin you will be invisible.?

I just feel like my dad is manipulative and makes me feel horrible about myself.

Mansplaining? Really? There is womansplaining as well

she always did these to me.. insulted me in front of my friends, her friends if i get upset thn she says tht i dont care if you wanna leave thn go away...hurts so much

I undermine the intelligence of gaslighters too so i guess that works both ways.

Dream and Tommy themed characters, discs

It's difficult when some of these behaviours are displayed by people with depression, especially loved ones.

For the love of god, please give advise on what to do when I’m too poor to just walk away from my emotionally abusive parents. They can extort my shelter and access to health insurance on a whim.

Voicing your concerns time after time to ruin your relationship completely

Everything is spot on. Will say - Could have done without ‘mansplaining’. Seemed slightly agenda based IMO. Otherwise, right on with everything else.

You can walk away from anyone if is nasty, blood-related or not.

Can anyone link good videos with examples of setting boundaries? I have no idea how to do this safely, or what it looks like, or what it even means in marriage setting. 🙁

thank you so much 🥺🧡

There isn't such thing as womensplaning if you want to fight sexism don't be sexist

I get emotional abused

I have trust issues like from last 2 weeks ago, thinking I lost my friends, I have no emotion or I cry for hour like this.

"They weaponize your insecurities against you."

I can't believe you actually used "mansplaining"....

I know people who have divulge personal information about myself and others and are not harmful at all. Usually the most dangerous people are the ones who are revengeful one.That is the way they earn respect among the beasts

You just described 90% of the parents in the suburbs.

It's why I'm never raising any kid in the suburbs. Lolol