Janet’s Dating Update - Knowing When It’s Time to Move On From a Relationship | AsianBossGirl Ep 240

Sending love and hugs to you, Janet. You are such a strong, amazing, well-spoken, kind, and smart woman. I hope you will find the right person soon.I love you all, the trio .

I don't know if this was mentioned before but it seems like their lives and dreams converged for this short but intense journey, but ultimately she has her dreams and goals and he has his. It's difficult for a relationship to have two set of dreams/goals. I think the different communication styles grew into the problem that it became because of them ultimately having two different paths to take. It's not something that can be compromised, one would have to give up on his/hers in order to support the other on his/her road. But they both probably worked so hard to get to where they are now, it's hard to just give it up even though they are older in the dating world. For a lucky few, they end up having all and the career and relationship lives work out like a fairytale. For most everyone else, the reality is like she mentioned "a lot of work for something sub-par". Which is in another word: settling. And most of the world has to be ok with settling if they want both the career and relationship.

thank you for sharing guys i just discovered this channl cuz of wongfu lol but the experience you guys have shared about relationships has been so inprising for others to learn and grow! keep it up with the awesome work! thank you for being so vlunerable

My wife and I are absolute polar opposites and she constantly complains that I don't communicate well and she also finds it difficult that I can't understand her. Admitedly she is a deep person. Myself with my male brain can't understand her quite often. And we don't try to completely understand each other because you can't, it's impossible. What has made it work so far is that we grasp and treasure the little things that we find precious in each other, not to dwell on the things that doesn't work but treasure the things that has made it work and to move forward.

Janet, you are very strong and brave. I appreciate you for being so open about your life. While i’m younger what you’re going through is something I sometimes think about.. and it’s comforting to know i’m not alone (from reading the comments too).

I'm 35 and I can empathize with the pressure of the "clock".

But being that I am a Christian, my faith has really helped me, and it is helping me a lot. I am learning how to trust God, understanding that He loves me and whatever He has purposed for me will come to pass.

Learning to surrender and let God is a journey. I'm learning it's a daily commitment. But when I think over myself and see how God has kept me, I'm encouraged to continue live and let God. And as a fixer and a planner, that's a challenge, but I'm getting better.

the incompatibility between needed to compartmentalize issues vs needing to address them off the cusp is very relatable. for one party it feels like they need time to process but on the other side it feels like a lie not to address stuff. tough place to not meet up cause u both ultimately want it fixed.

being perpetually unhappy is a huge red flag

All the love and prayers for you Janet.

I'm 44. I'm looking for someone like Janet or similar.

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My red flag for him was when he said he could be a dick to people at work in the episode with the couples. I got the sense that he isn’t a very kind person but I don’t know him so I didn’t want to make any judgments. Janet is so respectful and thoughtful, hope for much healing ❤

I sincerely hope you'll find your perfect partner, Janet. For most of us who have kept long, lasting relationships, we accept the fact that nobody's perfect and as such, are willing to be flexible and compromising. I am not suggesting that you and your ex weren't doing that. I am just wondering if you could have done more. I am in my 50's and have been married for 24 years. Noticed that I didn't use the word "happily"? We definitely had our ups and downs but at the end of the day, I see my wife as a true 'life partner', brothers-in-arms if you will, to battle whatever shit life throws at us.

Following Janet’s love journey is better than watching any movie, drama, sitcom, etc. Hopefully there’s a happy ending

Love is a game of 2 not 1. Play it as a team to make things happen and if one isn't then it time to move on. Why cause one isn't open minded to play along and wants things their way. I too being on a long term relationship and wasted so much money and time just to be bloke because she didn't realize I was trying to help her with her life and with no money to see her until the last year I had enough save up but it was too late she cheated on me all those long year because I never went to see her.

Janet already has a true sense of self. She will continue to put herself first and seek her own happiness first and foremost. Not a lot of women do that. We have a lot to learn from Janet. ❤

I appreciate your honesty. When I see you Janet, I see a beautiful, confident and amazing woman!!

Thank you for sharing Janet! I hope you take the time for yourself. Vulnerable is a strength that I see and I really appreciate you sharing your story. It is empowering to hear you talk

wtf, she's 37?

Thank you for sharing Janet!

The thing that came to mind when I listened was that with partners, we have to confront differences with
a) change (that is, can we change this behavior)
b) acceptance (can I be in this with you even if we differ on xyz) or
c) ending things because it's not a/b.

So key and hearing your experience reminded me of this lesson. I'm so glad you know yourself well enough to see those signs. I know the grief will be hard for a while, and thats okay. You got this 💛

Loved this episode so much. Janet we appreciate you so much for being vulnerable and brave for sharing your breakup with us. You are an amazing person and you’re correct “what is right for you won’t pass you by”. ❤

Hug to you Janet. Thanks for sharing

I love your channel.

Thank you Janet 🥺

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i relate to janet's personality so much and love how she articulates her thoughts and feelings. thank you for sharing and sending good vibes!! 💓

Why didn't you date first to get to know each other before jumping right in and moving in together? You would have discovered the compatibility issue and more. Definitely too fast.

Janet ~ you're the reason why I keep up with ABG, you're a class act and I love your personality. I've followed for a while and you've never looked a day over 30, wishing you nothing but peace & happiness❤

The friendship between you 3 is beautiful. Not to reduce it in any way, but your dynamic reminds me of what initially made Sex & the City great and even groundbreaking. Women who were different in personality who were supportive of each other, insightful, and bright. The questions asked of Janet were really great. And Janet’s answers were wonderful too. Thanks for sharing. As a deep feeler and thinker myself, I could relate.

"What's meant for you will not pass you by" - claiming this for myself, thank you for these wise words of hope and your vulnerability to tell your story, Janet! Breakups are never easy but through it you find a piece of yourself you're meant to carry on to the right person and the right relationship (and it IS coming!)

Helen where did you get your sweater from ? It’s so cute.

As a male viewer and having 31 years, it's never a picnic. Every couple/relationship is different and both partners must address the bottom line, is being together better than being alone. Relationships are hard are tough, but marriage is an even bigger commitment, especially for women (I suggest never changing a woman's last name, especially for a professional. I.D., Professional certification is a hassle). Just remember a relationship is different from marriage, which gets more complicated, especially if children are involved. It's a great pain.

Janet, just want to let you know that you and your voice have helped me through tough times. Don’t ever stop what you’re doing ❤

"What is meant for you will not pass you by" <3

Thank you Janet for sharing your experience with us! You don’t know how this video really helps me. I could relate so much to this episode, thank you. And stay positive! 🫶🏼

Janet, thank you for your vulnerability. You’re like a big sis I look up to as i’ve always admired your eloquence and emotional intelligence…I love how you are going to invest your time in yourself, and building up that confidence 💪🏻 we’re here to support you!!! Sending you lots of love 🩵🩵

Throwing this out there as I’m someone who, like Janet, loves deep conversations and being verbose while a potential partner can’t meet me on that level…I’ve chalked it up to differences in Myers Briggs. As an Intuitive (ENFP) I find that Sensing types (which make up 70% of the population) can’t fully understand me and why I enjoy those things. But over time, I’m learning to appreciate how Sensors can pull me out of my head and force me to live in the moment more which ultimately does make me happier even if my default is to ruminate on every hypothetical situation that likely won’t happen. But it can feel invalidating sometimes when they don’t take my concerns seriously. I’m thinking that maybe I don’t need to have deep conversations all the time with my partner… that’s what my friends are for. But learning to also not demonize Sensors for their inability to connect deeply but appreciate for the positives of staying in the moment. But it remains to be seen if this is sustainable in a relationship. 😅

Thank you for sharing this with us Janet. Your strength and positivity inspire me. Take care! ❤

Wow this was such a great episode! Janet is super articulate about why the relationship ended and so cordial about the other person. Wishing you all the best and hope the next relationship is everything you want, need and hope it will be! Also, all 3 of you are amazing people!

Thank you for sharing this with us Janet ❤❤

New subscriber here, thanks for sharing Janet! Breakups suck, especially when you thought you’d share your future plans with the person, I agree hindsight is 20/20 ❤

no flame but how was this janets most serious relationship at 38? shes such an attractive person guys would line up for her

Thank you so much Janet for sharing.

You are an awesome person!!

Janet, I think you are such an inspiration for being so vulnerable and courageous. Once again, you've shown us how to be a badass Asian boss girl by showing up authentically and sharing your stories to allow for connection with others. Thank you so much, and I'm sending you so much love and many hugs ♥

Janetttt you should go to Civana!

There is nothing wrong with you Janet!

Not all breaks are bad.

Breakups are very hard. I admire the courage you have to share your story to strangers, as I understand it’s 1000x easier to keep it private and you have no obligation to share a status update. As a fan I’m sad it didn’t work out, but as someone who’s been through my share of relationship struggles I’m sure you made the right decision for yourselves, and not give in to pressures.