when mother is not "mothering": the devaluation of motherhood

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WHAT IS LOVE?!
baby don't hurt me
dont hurt me
no more

They’re doing this because she’s not skinny skinny. Mom can give their kids mac & cheese, and hamburger helper, and nobody will say anything, but if the mom is fat, they will use that to demonize her.

yeah ... consider antinatalism ~

PLEASEEEEEEEEEEE

I have the impression that olivia just take her money from adsense and get out running in every video posted

(its a joke, please don't take me bad)

She forgot the milk..

This is really insightful, especially for not being a mother yourself. I'm 34 and had a baby 3 years ago - planned, with an involved father. I thought I was pretty educated in terms of feminism and motherhood, but I had no idea just how little society values my ability to do anything other than raise this child now. It's so impossible, so isolating, and there is nowhere to talk about how hard it is without facing so much judgement and shame. My advice for people your age - don't do it unless you're 100000000% sure. It's a decision you can never take back. I love my kid more than life itself, but it's a huge huge huge task and I have had to sacrifice other potential futures to do it as well as my kid deserves. My mother was a drunk and let abuse into our home, but I'm glad from this side I can see how hard it was for her and have more compassion for her despair and overwhelm. Capitalism has made all parts of humanity more difficult for most of us, and motherhood is the same. Sending solidarity and love to any mothers reading this - you are trying so hard! I see you!

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Made this comment on another video but seriously, are you the Asian shoe on head? Hahahaha like your tone, voice, inflection habits… so many things keep reminding me of her 😂

As a new mom (6 month old baby) to whoever said "don't you think you should be contributing to the economy instead?" I'd say... no. I'm happier now :)

ethically.. why did you blur the babies faces, i dont remember what i looked like as a baby

seeing how the father in the book treats his wife and mother of his child knowing my dad was the same way towards my mom is very disturbing im glad someone is recognizing this

I found this video interesting

You had an ad with a guy shaving his butthole. Just wanted you to know that

can you make a video about borders, immigration and arbitrary lines dictating where humans should or should not live?

Mistakes lead to overcomplication

"Some people shouldn't have children" doesn't mean people should be legally prevented from having children, it just means some people are abusive and believe it or not, do not deserve to have children just because they want to. No I don't want to control who gets to have kids/give birth, because I also know that's gonna end up with some kind of discrimination, but that doesn't change this belief.

Mother didn't start out as A term to praise other women though, mother was a ballroom term. They had houses, the houses had a mother who looked over her 'children' who were usually homeless/struggling queer individual's to their late teens and early 20's.

I personally wouldn't mind being a mother one day, but- I also worry about how I react when embarrassed or angry, which I can lash out- and I wouldn't want to lash out at my own kid for just being a kid.
My partner doesn't ever want children, but they expressed if they ever were to want children, they'd want to use the process where a child is grown outside lf the womb without even the use of an egg or sperm.
This actually made me uncomfortable, and I even thold them that it just makes me seem unnecessary.
While pregnancy and child birth 100% are a hell of a thing to go through, I would still do it- because it gives me that bit of purpose and it seems amazing.
Yes I know that isn't my ownly purpose, obviously, but the process itself if still something only women can go through and it's inspirational.
Taking away what our bodies are made to do- where does that leave us? Suddenly we're irrelevant ...

Help, radical libertarian feminist is trying to scare me

Jesus loves you all!🧡

I enjoyed the video and learned new understanding of the struggles women face in motherhood, but I honestly do not understand what you mean with ¨Why do men want to get control of women´s reproductive organs´´ and ´´why do men talk about getting perfect babies´´. I honestly do not get this point, as a man, i have never heard a single man talk about pregnancy as selective as you describe it in this video. Ignoring abortion, because I don´t think that was what you meant when you mentioned that in the video

I think that masculinity and femininity are a set of gender neutral traits, with toxic and good variants to each of them

The traditional “masculine influence” doesn’t have to be a father, and same thing with mothers

ur hair is the most acc ive seen (atleast i think) to a main character in my (hopefully) upcoming novel tbh 🙂🙂

Oh no , libertarian????

I freaking HATE people who post videos of their children, we do not live in that ideal world where our babies are OUR babies yet, stop exploiting your own effing flesh and blood, the nasty Austin mf mcbrooms and the daddyo5s of the world need to be kept from the internet

just put "Nightbitch" on hold for myself at the library! thanks!!

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.🎉😊❤

Ya'll never had to vacuum or buy stuff as kid? Like seriously??

Just finished reading ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ and it really opened my eyes to some new ways of guiding my kids in their faith. Highly recommend it if you’re looking to strenghten your family’s spiritual life

capitalism is a hell of a drug

omg thank you for the book recommendations

I agree with everything you said in the video. There are some very good points made but I just think it has also to do something with the language and culture of the trans and queer community. Mother and mothering, or saying someone is mother, originated in the ballroom scene. Just like so many other slang words that have found their way into the mainstream like slay or throwing shade. They all originate from the, specifically black and lantinx, trans community

I gave birth to my daughter 2 months ago and postpartum has been so hard. I’ve been told I’ve “bounced back” so well that I don’t look like I was pregnant at all but hearing that is not the hurrah people think it is it’s weird that people I know had such a focus on my body. I don’t feel like how I was before being pregnant I am learning my new body while learning my new baby. Motherhood is made to feel so soft and beautiful and desirable but it’s hard kinda gross at times and taxing.

newish mama here. thanks, this was fun.

SHOUT OUT TO MY SINGLE MOM GUYS!!! SHES ABSOLUTELY AMAZING, I LOVE HER SO MUCH, SHE WORKS SO HARD AND SHES SO PASSIONATE.

Montreal at 175$ let's fucking go

The last part about the cost of raising a child is so spot on and highlights the different experiences of motherhood based on class. I was just barely not a teen mother, worked my ass off & relied heavily on others, and am now a RN. Many of my coworkers and now becoming mothers for the first time and talking about their nursery themes and spending hundreds of dollars on brand new baby items. The stroller I had for my son was one that someone had literally set out for the garbage truck to come pick up. It just needed to be cleaned. My coworkers would be appalled if they knew

Although I’m insane, the world is so mad that I might as well be sane

in these past years post lockdown i realized how much work my mother put into raising me and my sibling (even if she had help from my grandmother).

i think society needs to stop being so hard on single/married mothers they do so much for us before and after we are born.

i will forever be thankful for my mom even if we have our ups and downs she is my mom

I have a young son and I can say without a doubt, it is the most joyful, fulfilling experience of my life thus far (I doubt it is ever overtaken). I don’t understand how so many women have become convinced to step away from their own preferences that they can have children and dislike it so much. We need to get to the place that women can more fully make these decisions without judgement so we avoid women becoming mothers with regret.