What is trauma? The author of “The Body Keeps the Score” explains | Bessel van der Kolk | Big Think

Censorship by bastards RALLO and DE PELLEGRIN and the CIA

In Italy doctors and the etc. are very behind with the care of traumatic events. The problem here is THE MAFIA!

I just saw people getting stabed and saw my friend get killed In front of me and I can’t sleep it’s so bad

The worst part of trauma for me is not being able to trust people and situations-no matter how good they are.

Canada has universal health care and just approved euthanasia. Really. Think about it.

Real men’s trauma gave him trauma. This is why therapy doesn’t work for veterans.

The great thing about trauma is that it gives you super human powers in being able to see people completely, their intentions, their disorders, and their manipulations. You can also see when someone is coming from a place of authenticity 😊 Unfortunately most people don't understand how to navigate interacting with someone that has experienced trauma or indeed know that a person has found a situation traumatic and is suffering. Inevitably they may put their foot in it and may trigger you into a response. A great deal of understanding is required. Then there are those that are just plain malevolent and will deliberately trigger a response from you, these are to be avoided at all costs, which is not so easy depending on your situation.
However, we are responsible for our recovery and we must take the steps to do so, no matter how tiny they are. Breathe, blink, focus. Wishing everyone suffering a recovery that fits them wholeheartedly 🙏🙏❤️

So... Even though i forgive the people/situation who traumatized me, my body does not forget.😮😢......incredible

Hopefully I will get shelter where my life will be free of trauma and any drug addiction in my life.

Illuminating, lets go for a wal--- ouch! My pinky 😂😂

What happened to Gary Cooper, the strong silent type?

Many of us suffer from Complex PTSD: long term exposure to trauma. Chronic trauma, usually starting in childhood. Psychological, emotional, physical, sexual. But the healthcare in the US is woefully behind when it comes to addressing this widespread illness. And in some cases, US healthcare (or lack of it) just heaps on more trauma. And the cycle continues...

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Well, (1) you need to find the source of depression rather than using relationships to cope with depression. Do not use people as "happiness", find it for yourself. Make it one yourself. It's your job to give your life meaning.

Try to take down the reasons why you're sad (2), after that -- associate to an issue. (3) For example, you're mad at yourself, why you could easily give yourself away (this is the negative issue already, the window to the diagnosis) --> that is low self-worth. Follow through the given variable.

(4) Where does low self-worth come from? Whatever trauma, mania, experience, self-esteem issue, etc.. you're the only one who knows the extremes of your emotions.

(5) After that, when you already discovered where it is from, heal the inner child. Way before that trauma happened. For example: the trauma is "parents related", (6) see perspectives why your parents did that (you need this for closure and understanding, you will slowly come into acceptance), (7) then look for different methods to address the certain scar, loss, etc.. in short, the trauma.

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If your parents called you "stupid", then prove to yourself you aren't. But before that -- (7) you have to detach from the cause. How do you detach? Read up about detachment, how individual everyone is. How subjective everyone's perception and reality is. Then whatever they say is sometimes, invalid. Understand what matters to you.

(8) Then do something fun and exciting that will change your mind about yourself. This is the healing part.

You didn't discuss how to deal with it?

covid tbh

And now we need a video like this where he explains the connections to the 4 different attachment styles WITH examples. I cannot watch videos that only list the traits of the abuse and attachment styles without direct examples - its too abstract for me because i think the abuse in my childhood was normal. We need examples of how different abuse can look and what the effects are on babies, children and teenagers.

titta, jag tvättar vår Volvo med blommor i håret, för jag vill vara en begåvad liten falsk talanglös kvinnokarla som min mamma

Best remedy to overcome the existing trauma is to get into a new trauma.That way brain starts adopting the new normalcy for the body and mind

The whole world can just kiss my bony butt 🎉

The last part about how there are societies where people have created systems and institutions to take care of each other—with universal healthcare and childcare, income equality—that was brilliant. ⭐⭐⭐

Whereas in US, everyone has to fight so much for basic things like childcare and enrolling kids into the best school, and the kids who get in trouble at school end up in the crime-to-jail pipeline because of untreated trauma, etc, etc. etc.

I don't usually comment things but had to this time. This book and its descriptions of trauma and its effects resonated with me like no other self-help book. I read many self-help books and watched self-improvement videos, but they never worked. When people tried to appraise my crippled psychological state or when I read something about depression and emotional isolation, I was frustrated because it was never accurate and didn't help. I'm in therapy, been there for over a year now, and feel not much better than when I started (and that's because of antidepressants). I grew up with an emotionally unavailable/dismissive single mother (who is much different now, but still) and three other siblings who always picked on me and were sometimes getting in fights with me. This is all before the age of 10 or so.

When I reached middle school, everything became so much worse. I already felt alienated in elementary, but here it was like I was already dead. Out of the people who I was practically dying to help me and support me, only one girl really had my back. And I screwed everything up bc of the rumors of us dating and that made me so uncomfortable that I sabotaged our friendship. This time was very isolating and humiliating. It's like up until the present time, I couldn't do anything right; I was "dumb" and "weird."

When you're a kid, the only world you have is school and home; and when no one at home or at school likes you, acknowledges the things you did, ridicule you, dismiss you, and ignore you, it feels like the world is closing in on you. It feels like everybody hates you and will always hate you, because that's all you've experienced from people for years. And I rarely went out anywhere, so that doubles the effects this isolation had on me. I wish adults would realize this and stop dismissing small children and teenagers, all because they forgot what it's like to be young.

It's like up until now, I had no love, no support, no acknowledgement. Only ridicule and disgust when I appear. I can't recall a single event from this time coherently, but I remember the feelings I had like I'm still there in the past. But now that I've given up on ever being accepted and supported, now everyone gives me what I needed when I was younger. I get angry and I cringe at physical contacting or being praised, or when someone looks at me, or when someone tries to console me. I've practically shut off all my emotions, but now that I don't need to I'm scared of feeling anything. I just don't want to feel how I felt when I was younger.

I'm reading this book and everything resonated with my experiences in life. Even though I wasn't "severely traumatized," I can't connect with anyone unless they're like me (e.g., depressed, traumatized, "fucked up") and don't feel attached to the physical world because I was escaping it through daydreaming. I don't want to be like this anymore, so this will help me tremendously. I seriously recommend it; it's such a good read.

Thank you for coming to my TedTalk lmao

I think in the subtitles there is a mistake, he said "not an unusual experience at all" instead of what is there as "not our usual experience at all".

So do we wait for society to get fixed before we heal? Don't you have any better advice than that?

This guy is a creep in real life and was fired from his own treatment center for allegations of sexual harassment from employees and unethical conduct against clients. Jordan Peterson offers real practical solutions regardless of his stance on politics

life suxs most of the time

Chronic childhood psychological and emotional abuse and not being able to remove yourself from the situation should also be mentioned.

how hurts and make me worse my feelings are

this is bull crap science. what if you don't think things are difficult enough? they say that's trauma. they say that musicians have trauma when they're good. they always try to find something like that but it's really not that. when you play guitar for example you have to go through a period of time to develop callouses on your fingers, and you have to go through the pain of developing the dexterity. that process is trauma. you would say it's torture. people who have gone through difficulty have developed callouses already. they've had a taste of seeking things that are not physically comfortable but have some kind of soul fulfilling element.

they don't say that a dude going to college cutting his nuts off to swim against women at stanford has trauma. they say that abraham lincoln that lost his mother as a child, worked and supported himself and became a self taught lawyer has trauma.

or they say that taylor swift has trauma every time she makes a crap song after breaking up with someone. that's fake trauma. her stuff sucks. but then if you know that it's crap and hate it and can't enjoy it just like you know someone cutting their nuts off to race women is crap they say that you have trauma.

you'll never see taylor swift cut her ears off or overdose after a breakup like an amy whinhouse would. even amy whinehouse is a terrible example because she's a lazy singer songwriter. she didn't have any real problems except for being kind of ugly. people in palestine are going to have trauma. but then britain is going to have U2 do a concert or something rather than hearing the real thing.

the british stole folk and blues music like with the rolling stones. from that they learned how to steal the bad experience. you won't even here folk music at all. they'll have an AID's concert or a drug concert right away and you won't hear it from the source.

they learned to start singing about slavery louder and sooner than the slaves.

You live Trauma over and over again. It lives in you forever. There is no resolution.

I disagree with his comment that 'women in particular' experience sexual violence. He seriously under estimates that many boys and men are too...

My goodness this is horrific. When was this written, 1824? You've painted half the population with a ridiculously broad brush. Yes, what you describe is true for a percentage of men who remain adolescent, but certainly not the adult men. And the way you talk about the female in the relationship is awful. The man isn't a great emotional communicator and so it's the woman's job to bring that out of him and to read the signs. ARE YOU SERIOUS?? How about the man takes some responsibility and learns to grow up into an adult? I work with men and couples every day and this is incredibly naive and inaccurate.

You know I can't stand that on any content creator telling another guy on his content not to trust what a girl woman says, nothing to do with me when I have legal proof of. Besides the person would know already If they have access to my phone or my account 🤨. Oh and trauma is something that other people expect me to just get over with especially if it mentally emotionally broke you that happened to me the last time ever hopefully! months ago. Not to mention I didn't really have anybody you know partner or whatever someone to with me to get through thing's I did that on my own be alone, sometimes it bothers me and sometimes it doesn't. The person really makes you get used to being by yourself alone completely. That's why I'm a little conflicted to do with someone as to believing to being a couple, unknown what the. Don't know anymore Someone physically close to confide in. If Any eavesdropping from someone that's never been with me offline to know who to be able to trust.

This made me cry, I am always in a fight orf flight situation, I feel like I'm in a war I only slept nine hours over the last three days I'm seeking professional help at this point.

Thank you dear sir for making my case to the City of Montreal for me...😠😤🤔🤬😡🤬😡

I guess normal people don't really know the stress I go through walking down the street being hyper vigilant, with my heart beat rising, hot flashes over my body and pretending like am getting what my friend is saying. It's a terrible way to live, feeling scared every time you step out.

Thank you

He is putting the fight or flight response down to "brain changes". What the chemical imbalances that they suppose? They have done enough experiments to know that only a real threat creates a fight or flight response. They see patients that say that they have a bad feeling that there are others in their lives, around them, that want to do them harm. And they stick a psychiatric label on them, something like delusional or paranoid. Why not take notice of these red flags? Because money is made off of the victims, treating their trauma as a brain disease.
The trauma is from what is BEING done to them in the present by others around them with the ideas of the past trauma that may appear as memories. They insist that telepathy is magical thinking when in fact it is real and the mean of doing harm by trying to get the person to react and suffer again in the present.

Thank you Dr Bessel,
I've heard you before, but I got a lot more out of you the 2nd time! I think you've hit the nail on the head.

Violence is a learned behavior, don’t treat ur kids with physical violence or mental torture

When I was asking my super suspicous friend something he kisses me in my cheek💀💀💀and he asks me that if he can go behind me and I said yes and after that he moans and puts his body back and forward and I couldn’t do anything about it it’s because it was prayer and he was doing that during prayer. He also traumatizes the others.💀💀💀 I cant’t stand it no more💀💀💀

So finaly, what is your point ? Knowing that different life experiences make us differernt, what do you expect, everybody to get normal by your definition? Do you call your experience of life to be normal ? Do you cal your environment of life as normal? What do you know about life, actually?

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Trauma is the catastrophizing that's kinda hard to get out of, because when you try to rationalize it by asking yourself "is this realistic?", the answer is, yes. It happened before.

I was with him untill he started spewing politics

Here is my story. Been addicted for 53 years. Been through multiple self help the Mr. M always comes back. Right now it severe because my job is extremely stressful. Hoping when I retire it can become manageable. My ACE score was 7 so from that you can know I have PTSD issues. I have had SA since I was 11. Grew up in a violent, neglectful atmosphere my whole infant, toddler, child, adolescent. I had to comfort myself even when I was a little boy and my mother caught me. I just had to learn to comfort myself because my parents were not heathy to be involved in my life. (Alcoholics). Mother incest victim attempted suicide. Father absent and I mean absent in every sense of the term. My therapist called him a sperm donor. I am 64 years old and have gone through every conceivable program you can imagine and I still use this to comfort myself. I know it won't change until I get to heaven. I have had multiple dreams and feeling of being processed. I don't like to see anything evil because I have felt evil and it is scary. I feel I am possessed by an evil spirit. I enjoy my SA because it is soothing love the high and helps me sleep. I am bi-polar and suffer from complex PTSD, OCD, ADD & have some histrionic traits associated with my mental illness. Multiple drugs for mood stabilizing & anxiety meds as well. Sleep meds too as I have insomnia. Have night paranoias and have a night light in my bedroom and have to keep my closet and bathroom closed. I am deathly afraid of horses and dogs. I don't like enclosed spaces. I feel more comfortable being alone than with people publicly except for my family. Huge neglect issues growing up. Currently under care of Psychiatrist and Physiologist. Bipolar 1 disorder OCD, ADD, Histrionic personality types. Multiple medications 3 mood stabilizer sleep medication anxiety meds. Father Alcoholic beat mother brother Mother Alcoholic Incest victim suicide attempt at age 10. So you can see have some real challenges. Have good relationship with God and Christ. Feel I will be totally healed next life. Neglect & trauma go to deep to healed here. But can have some helps making addiction more manageable. Thanks video great. Done a lot of research on me.

Wonder if you get bitten by a dog or chased by a horse and your parents don't do anything for you. I am scared at night like something is going to get me. Many problems like this.

A have a lot of trauma from my hysterectomy. It has been a year 😢