HOW TO DEAL WITH INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOUR AT WORK: Bullying, Gossip, Aggression & Sexual Harassment

All the information here is solid except the HR advice. HR are not there to help employees. They are there to protect the company. You'll have a mark on your name as a difficult employee and you'll lose any bargaining power you had previously. Speaking from experience. Try and document the date, time, place and any witnesses until you have enough evidence to bring to management.

You are giving the absolute wrong advice, its evident you have never experience inappropriate behavoiur before, ...YOU KNOW NOTHING, ....your advice will get the victim terminated, what sugar coated world do you live in? FFS!!!

Well, I'm not experiencing "sexual harassment" by the definition, but my boss talks about my looks CONSTANTLY. He's always telling me how pretty i am (he's married btw), how nice my figure is, how he likes how i walk, my posture, my hair, my makeup, and what colors i look good in. It just seems like compliments, but it makes me uncomfortable. It's not enough to go to hr over, and i don't know if I say something if he'll become salty with me and have a bad attitude afterwards.

Great explanation 👍 you Divide each categories and explain very well step by step clearly with simple English . I appreciate you so much ! ❤️

Thanks, it’s very helpful

Kara, these are what I have been facing for my 23 years working for a social services agency. I was helpless and didn't know what to do. Glad God took me out of there. I wish I have watched your video during that time. Thanks for your valuable video, I will pass it to friends.

What if you dont have a manager and you’re a contractor and its your boss?

I have customers asking intrusive question about my relationship status that involves a coworker which is inappropriate that I should never discuss at Work because customers are actually strangers and I should never form connections with them at all because it applies to all Walmart associates.

Thank you!

It depends on the integrity of the management. It is much more challenging if the manager themselves is the harasser.

Most the time whenever I address how I feel it is never taken seriously and they don't stop through behaviours. Some are family members, extreme mental breakdowns from these people, and they never change or care how I feel. What do I do?

I've had some sexual harassment from several people and working with them and I get really uncomfortable thinking about these people, they remind me of sexual offenders or predators and they still don't change their behaviours, very persistent kinds of harassment

I recently reported a male co-worker who would comment at whatever I wore even though I dress modestly. He would even compare me to other women's appearances. Management and HR even found his behavior strange. My mistake was I allowed it to go on too long. I though t he would stop after I confronted him. In fact, I even changed positions so I would see less of him, but nope. He eventually stopped after HR confronted him.
I found that this is an example of gender harassment. Does that exist? Do you think it was more aggression or sexual harassment?

I said the words “I’m coming” to my co worker and he said, “coming? Oh wow I didn’t mean to think that way and he laughed and so did I not thinking anything about it. Now I feel dumb about laughing about it because the next time I saw him he bugged me and said, “”hey hey are you watching porn?” I gave him a weird look and of course I laughed. I’m so sick and tired of this shit and feeling like a victim. I was very assertive to my co worker but I just didn’t feel safe being around my co workers so I let my boss know that and he said I could go home for the day. I don’t want to go back though im feeling depressed and tomorrow I have to talk to my boss. Another man asked me if I play volleyball because I have a nice or strong build. I don’t want some old man commenting on my body im just done at this point.

The last straw was when my co worker told me that they was going to be a birthday party for my co worker and and to bring $5 and how their was going to be a bbq. The next day I had my money and it turns out that when I talked to my co workers about the bbq they laughed and said the guy who told me is full of shit. I didn’t even bring my lunch that day I didn’t realize joking like that was harassment. I reported the these other two men along with this guy who constantly lies and causes drama. Im just done

I left my job after being harassed by three men at work my boss let me leave and I didn’t even tell anyone and now I’m not speaking anymore I don’t even want to say hi to any of the men there I’m done.

YES YES YES - it absolutely needs to be addressed and having a strategy that you feel aligns with you and your style of conflict engagement will give you more confidence to actually do it .... the only thing I would add is that in Alberta, the definition of harassment, which includes bullying, is a single or repeated episode - and what I love about this definition is that the old definition implies that people need to be continually exposed to inappropriate behaviors to create a case - which is totally unnecessary

Great point that you can't always ignore behavior. It's amazing that 37% of workers have been bullied.