Inner Peace is the Key for INFJs

Wenzes: talking
Me: Oh, is that a Doja Cat song playing in the background?
Also me: *starts jamming and singing the words in my head*.
Song: You Right by Doja Cat and The Weekend

Ah yes… the self made “inviolable” rule of INFJ. Others Aways First. Then finding out the world doesn’t collapse when one prioritizes themself instead. 🤔

💯👍

Just great!

Yes I didn’t realize until in my 30s that it’s okay that I like to be alone. I felt lonely before only because I felt like there was something wrong with that.
Once you accept it you can work on yourself and then choose to add the right people into your life.

Lockdown was such a gift for me! Almost 2 years without having to be around people. I got to study, rest, listen to myself, find out how l tick. Such a healing time. We are a rare breed for sure!

It's when we learn our boundaries and are able to stand by them

Yep. 🙂🌹❤️👍🏼

forgiving myself is why i have to release my dysfunctional ass past. I'm not going to ask anyone else to change, but i have to. I'm called to change. I finally enjoy and embrace, listening to myself. And recognizing , whose sound counsel I can actually trust.

All about priorities ❤

Great, Wenzes! Right on. Unfortunately, it may take half a lifetime to get there.

I've always been doing that.

Yessss, this is the journey I have been on the last couple of years and it has been such a game changer in my life. I loveeeee my alone time so much these days. I feel at peace for the first time in my life, it’s a good feeling.

Wow, just amazing. You are definitely right, but it's sometimes to lonely to be alone as an infj

I just need to get my legs back so I can run far away to a place where real people exist who don't lie -don't steal -don't hurt - and can't bear to leave their fellow humans alone to suffer - irl .. what do the Bible say: do we really have to physically-die before we are good enough to experience just one painless day with Yahuah in paradis?

Did 8 months in solitary when i was 14. Learned quick that people are overated. Kind of liked the extended time out.😅

I am not young and when health problems arise I feel more overwhelmed than any other time with what the INFJ consider an unnecessary loss of time. The phone calls calling friends and especially the narcissistic leeches. I isolate myself, set boundaries, some get surprised, some well meaning people do not know what to do and want to respect my privacy while others are counting the second to jump and suck the juice out of me to feed their needs.

Yes!!!! 🙌💖❤️

I told my Mom today I am NEVER lonely. Do I wish I had the right person in my life? Sure, but if it never happens I'm ok. I have so much to do in life & no I don't miss never having kids either. It obviously was not part if God's plan for my life.

That's on point. My life changed when I healed my inner people pleaser. I loveeee peace.

Capabilities, and abilities in silence

Oh my god girlfriend! This right here - I was 60 years old till I hit that point. You nailed this!! Yep - taking care of me first now unapologetically!

I spent years going out of my way and trying so hard to help others and i never got it back and ended up burnt out. Now I love to have time to myself and love myself. I still want to help people but now i have healthy boundaries

Covid was a watershed moment for me. I don’t have to try to socialize so hard. I don’t force it anymore and I love it.

Very true

As, I realized, being there for everybody, I starting to realized how much I neglected myself in so many ways. Time to stop and spend time at a park, library, wherever and to do whatever for myself. Time for the lone wolf to take lone time. It should be easy as the social scene is getting insane.

Funny, I see this post after I placed a response.

I’ve had some “friends” call me a bad friend because I don’t constantly check in on them. “Do you need me? Do you want to hang out? Why didn’t you reach out to me? I’m just hanging out at home?”

Once ? Finaly ? I do it since i was born .