how to build emotional independence: become the father you always needed

What bullshit!! That was 10 minutes of absolutely nothing, the most obvious preface to any discussion regarding male issue just to promote your fucking playlist.
Not a word was said about how to heal
DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME AND MONEY

Totally relatable my father was emotionally absent although he didn't abuse and that lead me to work 12-14 hours everyday don't know why I just had this fire in me to achieve and earn big money also no love life it's just i don't even want a relationship i have some friends including female but don't know why I just don't want it .

But advice I would give to anyone who still have absent relationship with his father talk to him man he will talk back for sure spend some time with him he your father not your enemy your relationship will change

Alot men dont have a good role model but are given opportunities for great male mentors but still don't take initiative
Others have no father and still find a way to learn
Alot of the mindset is victim mentality
It depends on the person
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink

I was recently discussing this with my gf.

From birth to age 14/15, my Dad was my hero. He was a guide, and pillar of strength.

There were occasional flare ups of anger, like any kid might experience. It let me (and my sister) know that he was in charge.

When I was 14 he started turning me as I started to assert myself as a man.

This made my high-school years absolute hell. I recently found old drawings from my freshen year of me committing heinous acts. I was raging because I couldn't physically fight him, he'd have killed me. I knew it.

Summer of 85 I turned 8. He had told me to sweep the driveway, so I did. When I was finished, he came out to inspect, and was furious. The then took the broom, and swept so hard that dust came up. It was that moment I became a perfectionist.

This past spring I realized that he NEVER SHOED ME >HOW< to sweep the driveway. I had been living my life based on an inaccurate train of logic. That day I had a purge of all the years of wasted time. Sore throat, sinus drainage, weak achy body. I was down for a week.

Ever sine the growth gas been tremendous. I was able to identify that i worked for my employers as if they were my father, which is why I'm an extremely competent high performer.

Then I asked myself, why am I not working this hard for myself?

I have a slew of failed or abandoned businesses that never attained the success they should have because I wouldn't work hard for me, because I wasn't perfect, and thus not worthy of success.

Thankfully, today I'm working hard for myself, and the results are starting to show. My gf of 12 years even started having sex with me again. Wounded boys aren't attractive to women, but masculinity is. Her seeing me take life by the horns seems to be an aphrodisiac for her.

My Dad passed away May 1, 2017. We were a lot closer after my teens years, and we had some great times. He was a hero, despite everything. He grew up in a family of boys in the 50's migrant workers in Sandusky, MI. He had been a local ruffians when he was a teen. His childhood friend was how I learned about the legendary battles he had.

My father was emotionally distant when I was growing up. He supported us financially but when it came to emotion he just didn't show it, but he didn't have to die for us to become close. When I was 21 I think he, in so many words, said 'I know that I wasn't there like I should have been when you were growing up. Give me a chance to make it up to you '. I could have said "fuck off" but I didn't and we were close until he died in 2016 at the age of 83. He, my father, admitted his faults, and that, in my eyes, takes a man.

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Powerful video…I appreciate the hand break analogy. Live as if your father is dead was my favorite chapter of Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.

It is the same for daughters!

Divorced parents, one couldn’t parent the other actively avoided it. I think he was an introvert that faked a masculine extrovert. I brought myself up and probably did a better job.

Nature doesn't turn girls into women, parents raise their children to become responsible adults or not. A lot of what you say about absent fathers creates the same emotional immaturity and problematic behavior patterns in girls just as it would do in any boys. Like, have you ever met a women that's an emotionally mature and mentally healthy person but had an abusive or absentee father? Overall your content is good but doesn't need to be specific to men , at all. Change all the emphasis on 'boy' and 'men' in your narrative to 'child' and 'person' and your audience pool would double itself automatically.

We need role models.
We need to be role models.

Great video