Conscious Parenting: Shefali Tsabary at TEDxSF (7 Billion Well)

Amazing talk

Wow, that was powerful!

Amazing talk!!! Bless you! Changing society starts at home indeed!

This is why children with bonding issues aka those with mental turmoil, anxiety, depression, neurosis, ocd and a slew of other SYMPTOMS can benefit in my opinion from a period of non contact with parents in adulthood. Perhaps it will last many many years. But if you break the (tramatic) bond causing the issue apparently permanently to other one involved, it is a boon for self reliance. Self reliance is a key to healing, as Ralph Emerson said we should respect our feelings, our loves, our associations and nature above all else. He said it was our plot to till and no kernal of nourishing grain could truly come from any but that plot. Staying in sikofantic or hurtful relationships even with those we love is ruinous to the health, plain and simple. Im suprised more people havent relized this fact in such common terms. If they dont get the picture, cut them out of the frame. You will know when to do this if after you talk with someone or visit them, you feel bad, weak, downtrodden or hopeless for any extended period of time. Doesnt matter if its your "fault" , feelings cant be helped, they are there to ruin or boost your health status from a psychological and also therefore in some cases, physical perspective. Dump the parent or parents. If you want them back eventually do it on your terms.

Shefali's Indian heritage + westerner education make her a killer healer. She bridges the gap between the essence of BG(Bhagavad Gita), Upanishads(without even mentioning them with technical terms) and current psychological issues in our society; especially in the field of mindful parenting so skillfully and effortlessly. Truly extraordinary.

I am currently starting to read her book and it is so good!

Brought to tears of self reflection. Buying her book RIGHT NOW. <3

I am both a school principal for elementary middle and high as well as a a licensed clinical psychologist. Dr. S’s talks have inspired me to start doing conscious parenting classes for brand new parents so that they can learn how to be effective parents and raise children who are able to live in the world without excessive pain originating from their parents own inadequacy’s and wish for their children to meet their own needs to be idealized and needed.

You are not only a psych but truly a superb actress and we are fortunate to witness your call to sanity!
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You are amazing. You are changing the world and the future by changing the way we parent. Grateful 🙏

This all makes sense and ties in with a lengthy history of theory and approaches. Where can a parent who wants to address this go, what techniques can be shared and what can they do to either first heal themselves or make efforts to be more conscious with their children. Therapy is expensive, time consuming and a big commitment, without guarantee and in some cases an ill fitting practitioner can make issues worse.

I think I cried through the whole talk

I love her.

"We could blame psychiatry, education, Big Pharma and the government, but our influence in these spheres is relatively limited. But let me tell you where we hold indubitable power. That is in the relationship we nurture with our children. Our children and us, moment after moment, as we take off their backpack, brush away their fears. This is where each one of us holds transformative power. "

As the child of a morphine addicted and codependent set of parents, I can attest to the wisdom of her words. It took repeated viewings to fully process what she said, once I could get past my own tears, rage and grief. As a parent today of a beautiful young daughter and a beautiful young son, striving to do anything to avoid recreating my family of origin, her words pierced me to the core: "We hurt our children for one reason only; we are hurting, ourselves." Amen. Start the healing. Now. If it were possible I would go back in time and heal the wounds of my own parents. If only quantum physics/consciousness/string theory/many worlds hypothesis (a la Max Tegmark, Michio Kaku, et.al) were true. I will presume it is......

This woman is changing the world and exactly who I’ve been looking for! So looking forward to study her work.

Thank you❤️🙏🏿.. Yes my kids are my awakeners 😍❤️🙏🏿🌷😘

Inspiring! Excellent talk!

profound wisdom: The extent to which we as parents know ourselves is the extent to which our children will. The extent to which We as parents can love deeply, laugh loudly, risk bravely and loose freely is the extent to which our children will know joy and freedom.

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Wow this amazing definitely mind opening. Opened my eyes fueling me to see things in a different perspective❤

I like the idea but.... this presentation too theoretical.

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A beautiful reflection of a character of enthisam and creativity is the one called Dr. Shifali. You speak to my heart no matter how many times I listen to you.

I'm happy I found this ted talk I've been going through my childhood trauma and I'm allowing myself to feel the pain so that I can be a better parent to my daughter because I know that if I don't try to knowledge my pain at some point in her life she will not want to me around the same way I don't want to be around my parent right now

Mental health is important

What was the weird whispering in the beginning? Very creepy

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Very good indeed

Fantastic

Beautifully put. Totally agree.

The more i want to tell them*Parents I coundnt..😭😭✊

when we , as a person , are not emotionally healed and come from a trauma or childhood emotional issues , we tend to get into relationships which are attracted on the basis of that trauma .
Now , two traumatized individuals happen to marry and produce a new life which is absolutely pure and free from all the societal bs conditioning.

Now , when the child is small and cannot speak , not a problem ! But when they grow , start questioning , observing , asking things around them , and then start having their own opinions .

Their comes a point when it highlights the parents' insecurities which they don't want to witness and thus emotionally project on the child .

This is where the child starts inheriting the products of parent's emotional issues.

Children , being naive to all of this , internalize it and it stays with them for life !

So heal yourself and become a decent human being before you think of giving birth and ruining other life.

Off topic perhaps but I'm looking for her Ted Talk about how Capatilism affects parenting?

So good!!!

This is absolutely beautiful and powerful!! It’s is time to parents to heal and awaken so that our children which are our future generations will have a much more magical journey full of enlightenment and blessings

She is changing lives.

"Our children are our awakeners, they are our teachers". Conscious parenting does not start by our children. It starts long before that, by oneself.

She absolutely DID THAT!!! I'm in tears. Wow

And 9 years later I stumble into this amazing amazing conversation,this one really hit a personal nerve a conversation that I very interested in,thank you for your truty 🥹💜🦋

This talk is hard to focus on because I feel like she’s yelling her entire talk

How many times can I like this.

Please run in this years election

How can this video only have a hundred comments and a few 100k views?!

I agree with a part of what she says, but geez why does she have to yell. I can hear the words without them being pushed to my ear…. I think people who clicked on the Ted talk don’t need her to use the cheap salesperson technique.

I bought her book before watching this video, but hearing her tone, the mention of many big words like “parenting revolution” without any concrete actions except shift the focus from “fixing the child” to “fixing the parents” makes me doubt if this is another “make-up” theory.

Wow. She nailed it

This one is incredible.

I just watched this for the first time. A couple of years ago tragedy struck our family, and so I decided to take myself and two kids, camping, taking away our screens, and settling into becoming conscious together. Taking away my screen, just as much as theirs, only using it for the needed now and then…this did miracles for our family. You would not believe the transmutation, transfiguration, and transformation of our family. Our life is a dream now, and it was all because I decided to put self deeply into the thing that I chose to be… When I had them, I chose to be their mom… Now I am an empress, nurturing, mother… they’re the best job that I ever did. And I’m going to continue doing it; paying close attention to what is our truth and how it is unfolding and the direction it goes as well. This has served our family and I hope that this comment serves yours.

The BEST!!!!!😮💙💙

Wonderful speech ❤